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AIBU?

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Does he like me?

64 replies

Magicra84 · 13/05/2020 12:15

I work with a lovely man. He's kind, considerate and I have started to look at him in a different way than just friends. We socialise with other colleagues outside of work.

This man is quiet and tends to keep himself to himself in work and outside of work apart from the odd social event, but we have developed this close friendship.

We haven't seen each other for two months now due to lockdown but he texts me daily, multiple times a day, usually led by him just sometimes asking me things he definitely knows the answer to but he pretends he doesn't, and I know he doesn't text other colleagues including those he directly manages and is also close to. We've only been working together for six months and as I say, he keeps himself to himself, he's quiet but when we're together we come alive and we laugh so much!

Just before lockdown he asked to take me out to an event and he said he would take me for a nice dinner out too, both of which were cancelled. When I asked if we should invite other colleagues who are friends of us both he laughed and said, no way, it's our date night!

Also during lockdown we have been doing lots and lots of conference calls for work but he's never been on the same one as me as we manage different depts. This was until this morning when we were on the same conference call and we had a moan about it afterwards by text and he said that it was really nice seeing me on video link after so long.

He has also mentioned about the two of us going for a walk in a park now restrictions are lifted.

He's generally such a good support but some of his actions make me think he might like me in a romantic fashion. I would be really keen to pursue things slowly if so, but I don't want to embarrass myself by imagining he likes me.

So aibu to think there's a tiny chance he may fancy me? I feel like a teenager writing that!

In his presence, he doesn't give much away, but I feel this chemistry. I can't explain it.

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damnthatanxiety · 13/05/2020 12:21

Yes. He likes you.

Sn0tnose · 13/05/2020 12:21

I have male friends at work I socialise with. I definitely don’t have date nights with them. I think he may well do. It sounds as though things are ticking along nicely, so just carry on as you are.

damnthatanxiety · 13/05/2020 12:22

Seriously? He has asked you out on your own. He has persistently asked you things he obviously know just to be in contact with you. He has asked to go for a walk. He has told you he has enjoyed speaking with you. He likes you.

minettechatouette · 13/05/2020 12:22

Yes. I would say he likes you. :)

damnthatanxiety · 13/05/2020 12:23

Whoop Whoop!! We want regular updates!!

ProseccoBubbleFantasies · 13/05/2020 12:25

A million per cent

TidyDancer · 13/05/2020 12:30

Definitely sounds like it!

Magicra84 · 13/05/2020 12:38

Thank you for your replies. Hooray! He is a lovely, lovely man. I think him possibly knows I like him as a mutual friend at work sort of subtly let him know. I'll let you all know how the park walk goes Smile

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zscaler · 13/05/2020 12:40

He definitely likes you. Fingers crossed for you! Flowers

Pelleas · 13/05/2020 12:40

Yes - he asked you out and made a point of this being an exclusive 'date' and he's going out of his way to contact you. Hope the park walk goes well.

justanotherneighinparadise · 13/05/2020 12:42

Very good 👌

Magicra84 · 13/05/2020 12:51

Thank you Smile

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Nuffaluff · 13/05/2020 12:54

Exciting! Yes, he does.

Magicra84 · 13/05/2020 12:57

Ahhhh, I'm soooo excited! I've liked him since I met him. I even had a dream about him Grin

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SerenDippitty · 13/05/2020 12:57

Good luck OP. He definitely likes you.

Magicra84 · 13/05/2020 13:03

I forgot to say at a work night out just before lockdown he got very drunk and several times he looked into my eyes and told me he loved me. He was very drunk though!

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LadyMuck111 · 13/05/2020 13:05

He definitely likes you!

iloverock · 13/05/2020 13:06

Goodness me. What else does he need to do to let you know he likes you.

Grin go for it

Standupthisisnotateaparty · 13/05/2020 13:09

I have high hopes for this thread op. I really do think he likes you and I hope it works out.

Magicra84 · 13/05/2020 13:10

The thing is he likes men and women and has only been with men. He's in his late 40s. From conversations with his best friend, I know that he's extremely anxious to be with a woman after all this time. I hope that doesn't stop things going forward because he's a great man.

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JeSuisPrest · 13/05/2020 13:12

Well that's a curve ball...

wineandroses1 · 13/05/2020 13:14

Oh.

Marnie76 · 13/05/2020 13:20

That was unexpected! How old are you OP?

Magicra84 · 13/05/2020 13:21

I'm sure it'll be ok. I'll just take things slowly with him. What's meant to be will be.

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Marnie76 · 13/05/2020 13:21

Are you a man or a woman?