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who is sending their child back?

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MamaSapphire · 12/05/2020 23:32

I have twins due 27 June, so I don't want my daughter socialising with others then coming home to the newborns. Is anyone else not sending their child back. Most mums on the class Whatsapp group are sending theirs back, AIBU?

OP posts:
Imgladimnotyourchild · 13/05/2020 09:03

100% YES im a keyworker and so is my partner some of us dont get a choice

WitchyMoo · 13/05/2020 09:05

I want mine to go back but she is year 7 , so can't at the moment

Quartz2208 · 13/05/2020 09:09

My year 6 will go back if it happens. She is well aware of everything is prepared to see what it is like and follow the rules. She is also desperate to get closure and say goodbye

Plus the second week of lockdown she had symptoms after I did.

I don’t think I would send back a reception or year 1. I think they have been picked for economic reasons and not educational ones. They can’t social distance and it will be so different for them.

I think schools should start to go back but just Year 6 (and maybe 5 first) and then go down. For me the youngest year that should go back at all is 2 and I think really it should just be phasing in Juniors (

yomellamoHelly · 13/05/2020 09:15

My dd's school sent round a survey asking if we would send our dc in if they were able to ensure the guidelines were met, stringent cleaning routines in place etc and they were able to ensure their time in school was worthwhile.
I said yes, but I don't actually think they can achieve it. So I don't think she will be going in if / when it comes to it. Will not be sending her in for childcare only in an environment where they're not totally on top of controlling the risks.

Incontinencesucks · 13/05/2020 09:18

Mine will but if i had newborns due then no they wouldn't.

My friend, key worker, kept getting annoyed with this question on her Facebook feed as her kids have been in school the whole time. What she didn't (until another friend spelled it out last night) get was that, up to now her dc have been in school with no more then 10 kids at a time- usually just a few. The risk was very low. If everyone's kids go back, her own have a bigger risk and chance of contracting. Apparently she didn't realise so now she's for them staying closed.Hmm

x2boys · 13/05/2020 09:18

Not.my ds2 has severe autism and learning disabilities his teacher from his special school phoned me yesterday to say there are no plans to reopen school yet ,which I completely agree with,as how can you safely social distance a school full of children with learning disabilities? And that's quite apart from getting him to school he normally travels on transport which consist of mini bus,s ,Ds1 is in year 8 so no plans for secondary yet.

Ameanstreakamilewide · 13/05/2020 09:21

Have you kept the receipts?

RuPaula · 13/05/2020 09:21

Probably. DS is almost 3 and I will send him to nursery, but I would like it limited to 15 kids a day. He only goes 2 days, so I’m hoping they’ll half the class and offer is one day a week. I’m not sure how I’ll feel if no measures are put in place!

Jellycatspyjamas · 13/05/2020 09:22

I’m in Scotland so it’s unlike to be an issue til after summer, but yes my two will go back when the schools open. I think some measure of normal routine will do them good and I expect there to be a clearer idea of testing processes.

44PumpLane · 13/05/2020 09:50

Will be sending my twins in.

Connie222 · 13/05/2020 09:52

I can’t see it actually happening.

But no, I’ve decided to home ed my year one for the foreseeable anyway. I’m due a baby last week in August and have no desire to even send her back even in September with a newborn in the house.

This is going to go on for a long time.

Runbitchrun · 13/05/2020 09:52

I have a Y6. If their headteacher says it’s safe for them to go back, I will trust their opinion. My child is desperate to go back.

nanbread · 13/05/2020 10:22

Not sure. My younger DC could return to nursery if they open, but it's a big setting, he's quite a nervous child and I hate the idea of not being able to take him into his classroom etc. I think he'd really struggle to settle so there doesn't seem much point given it would be for a max of 6 weeks. Also my older DC would be at home until they take more year groups at school, so seems a bit pointless to send one in and leave his bro with no play mates.

Picklypickles · 13/05/2020 10:51

I really don't know at the moment. I think I'm tending towards no though. Our school is a very small school, however out on our walk yesterday I saw one of the families from school having a big old get-together with several other families on the moors, the mother of a kid in my sons class is a carer as well and it worries me that she is potentially in and out of peoples houses for work and then meeting up with dozens of people outside of work as if everything is fine and normal.

My 6 year old can't do social distancing, he's on the waiting list to be assessed for ADHD/Autism and school have already noted in his individual plan that he has no concept of personal space and that he seeks out physical contact when he is feeling worried/upset/tired etc. I already had to watch him struggling to breathe in hospital for a week with bronchioltis when he was a baby, he's always been more prone to chest infections and struggles to shake them since then. I'd much rather hold off sending him back until we aren't still seeing hundreds of deaths per day.

Buddyelf · 13/05/2020 10:54

I haven’t decided yet. I have one that can go back and one in a year group that can’t go it seems crazy for me to send one in and not the other right now. The idea of sending my 5 year old in is making me extremely anxious.

zigaziga · 13/05/2020 10:56

Yes I will send back but if the social distancing measures are upsetting eg children not allowed to play with their friends I’ll remove for the time being.

derxa · 13/05/2020 11:01

Another single parent NHS worker here, DS has been in school throughout Thanks for what you do.

Fluffybutter · 13/05/2020 11:05

Honestly don’t know . I’ll wait and see how they propose on having them safely at school first but i think if her closest friends are going back then I may send her too .
Really unsure and dh feels the same

Fluffybutter · 13/05/2020 11:07

Have you kept the receipts? No but I have an extended warranty Grin

unchienandalusia · 13/05/2020 11:13

Ffs of course I will. Wtf do people think is going to magically happen in September?

OddshoesOddsocks · 13/05/2020 11:16

No, I’ve got dd2 eligible to go back into reception but with a sister in year 4 and a newborn sister both staying at home I don’t see the point.
Currently on maternity leave and coping quite well with homeschooling so I don’t NEED her to go and she’s not 5 until the summer holidays anyway so doesn’t legally have to go.

I think if people like me take a step back and free up space for people who need to get back to work etc then it’ll make it easier on the children and the very small village school who will struggle with all this!

Fluffybutter · 13/05/2020 11:23

@unchienandalusia a lot can happen by September !
It will also give teachers /schools more time to prepare before most of the children have to go back as most schools have no idea how to put this in place in a mere couple of weeks !
Not really rocket science,is it ?

everybodysang · 13/05/2020 11:27

I don't feel sure. My DD is in yr4 so not in the first set anyway and also she doesn't want to go back. She wants to see her friends but she is loving being at home with us at the moment. We're knackered and broken but... she wasn't enjoying school a lot before and my job involved a huge commute and not being home much so now she is very happy to see me so much.

We've been very fortunate though in that we're working from home for pretty flexible employers. (DH already worked from home.) So we've been able to entertain and vaguely educate her. I think we could cope with that till the summer holidays if we had to.

However, if the school looked like they were going to be able to cope and manage things properly, then maybe we'd send her back. I suspect it will have to be part time anyway, or how will they manage class sizes?

Going to wait and see for now.

Deelish75 · 13/05/2020 11:28

In your situation bringing newborns into the home I wouldn’t send my 5 yr old back. Speak to your midwife, see what they have to say.

I’m undecided, have one in Yr6 and the other in YrR, both year groups have been recalled (if the Gov. go ahead - they may not if the R goes up therefore decision will be out of ours hands) both myself and the DC are healthy but DP has a pre existing health condition, which as time goes on new research/evidence is coming out that Covid is having quite a negative reaction to. There is still an awful lot unknown about it so we a just waiting and seeing with that. Not much else we can do.

Deelish75 · 13/05/2020 11:34

Also I’m wondering if the Gov are trying to engineer a second, soft wave over the summer - less other viruses flying around, nhs would cope then we head into winter flu season with more of us having immunity (hopefully) but if we leave it until September and there hasn’t been a second wave then what are we going to do heading into winter?

I’ll definitely be paying for a flu jab this.

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