Am I a control freak or going bat shit crazy in lockdown ?

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DH & myself get a long well. The only thing that’s driving me crazy is him being messy.

So please tell me am I controlling or just going crazy.

Here is a list of things he does that I can’t stand,

Pulls the curtains over the back of the sofa instead of tucking them behind when closing them

When feeding the baby, he never puts the top back on the bottle so always hunting for bottle tops

Constantly moves the sofa cushions & never puts them back neatly

When he’s finished with a plate etc. Leaves it on the side for hours rather than putting it in the dishwasher

I’m getting so angry with his messiness. He’s always been messy but as we are in the house 6/7 days I’m ready to batter him

Anybody

Irritating? Sure. But angry? That sounds OTT.

To be honest I think you need to chill a bit. I can see those things might be irritating. But there’s no point falling out over such minor things.

You hate to live in my house if you think that’s messy 😂😂😂

These are very small things tbf. Lockdown is hard though, things that you would normally cope with are more irritating.

Sounds like a bit of both to me.

I do have mild OCD. I think that contributes. We don’t fall out about it, it’s not worth it. But he’s incredibly messy

But he’s incredibly messy

I don’t think you know what incredibly messy is if you class that as such

I'd say both yabu and yanbu.

It's not unreasonable to be more irritated by stuff than normal, but it is unreasonable to be bothered by small stuff like that.

I think you're going to have to seethe in silence!

Honestly, I think you are a bit over the top with most of those, especially the curtains and cushions. The plates and bottle tops I have more sympathy with. Which just goes to show that everyone is different.

How about you suggest to him that he tells you a few things that you do that he finds really annoying, and you'll agree to try hard to stop doing those one or two things, if he tries really hard to stop doing one or two of the things on your list?

That is normal in my home. Add to that Lego which is scattered in odd places all over the show, laundry, food crumbs and plates in teen bedroom. Half the cutlery is missing, I'll have to do,a search soon

there are other things of course such as

He keeps his hair products/deodorant etc. In our living room instead of the bathroom I’m constantly moving it.

Leaves clothes on top of the dryer instead of washing basket.

I just don’t want to go in & totally rip him apart 😂

Nope still not that messy.

I think you are being ott.
And also,v if this is messy, you're in earth are you going to cope when your baby starts making mess, pulling things off shelves, all sorts?

Pulls the curtains over the back of the sofa instead of tucking them behind when closing them

I'll provide an alibi if you need one!

Maybe I won’t cope perhaps I need to think about some sort of therapy after this is over

@LordGarmadon hahahaha I might take you up on that if his behaviour continues

I don’t think I also classify this as incredibly messy. My husband does similar. Although I just have to say put your plate in the dishwasher it stinks, and he does. He constantly looses his keys, glasses and phone, and I simoly don’t engage anymore when he asks. I just shrug or look at him blankly.

You need to pick your wars.

He keeps his hair products/deodorant etc. In our living room instead of the bathroom I’m constantly moving it
That would be a no no, get them moved.

They do things like empty one drawer wine you are filling another. Emptying boxes on the floor. Deciding they need all of their puzzles out simultaneously, and do this by emptying all the boxes together. Then they decide they don't want to do puzzles and go to the next thing. They post raisins in bits of furniture for you to find months later, and huge things under the sofa.

I attract men like this. What they lack in effort they usually make up for by being easy going. I’ve found the tidier the man the meaner he is. Like the bloke with sleeping with the enemy 😂

Write a list of what that attitudes brings you in gains not just losses

Really messy - doesn’t lecture me on my mistakes / forgives easily etc. I find this has really helped me.

If there are no gains there’s only one thing for it .... Ltb

Youre insane 😂

@Babyboomtastic please stop! I’m not going to cope 😂😂 i mean posting raisins under the sofa is criminal