To think this is actually really entitled parenting?

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Seen this post from several people this morning outraged at the walking couple

www.facebook.com/672995864/posts/10158029908925865/?d=n

Now I am in no way condoning the disgusting language of the man in question. But the dad showed such an entitled attitude. He didn't tell his DD to slow down even when she was on the heels of the couple. She could have hurt them if they'd been elderley or disabled, and you can't tell from behind. He didn't practice social distancing - even if the couple had moved they'd have been way less than 2m apart from them, unless they threw themselves into a bush. And when his DD fell off the bike, rather than comfort her he spent the time arguing with and blaming the couple while she cried on the floor.

I've taken my kids to paths like this during lockdown and have said if someone is walking ahead we have to walk behind them with the bikes until we can pass them safely or the paths get wider. This is while teaching them to cycle, and just because they have momentum it doesn't mean they shouldn't stop - surely that's part of learning to cycle, knowing when to judge the safety of themselves and others?

I suppose i also hate this trend of social media vigilantism whereby people want to share faces of those who've slighted them, usually with a huge amount of bias and very little context. And the general public seem to lap it up! I am hard of hearing and I hate cyclists coming up behind me when I walk as unless they bellow "excuse me" I simply will not hear them. I wouldn't be pleased if a child bashed into me and then I got yelled at by the parent for not having good hearing and eyes in the back of my head.

Parents like this father give all parents a bad name.

I worry that people think that it is acceptable to kick small children's bikes. I mean it's not the behaviour of a rationalist!

Where has anyone said they think it's acceptable?

People have said they can understand why he did it, but they have also stated the behaviour was unacceptable.

I saw the video this morning and thought well thats some shitty parenting right there. Theres no where to move on that path. They should have held back until they got to the wider part. Entitled Man being a wanker isnt newsworthy though. Its standard.

But he was because that's the way little children do ride bikes - they are unpredictable. It is an intolerance to children. Even if you are hard of hearing, you cannot kick little children's bikes!

I worry that people think that it is acceptable to kick small children's bikes. I mean it's not the behaviour of a rationalist!

I don't worry, as nobody has even hinted that it's acceptable. I think some can comprehend the frustration and that it's happened as a result of that - but they don't condone it.

NOTHING gives anyone the right to kick a small childs bike - that was disgusting behaviour

I reckon the dad got off lightly. It could well have been his face that got kicked

@MintyMabel so you think that's an appropriate way to behave? Yes I do think anyone who believes that it's ok to kick a childs toy is disgusting and needs to learn some self control. Obviously there are worse things to do - that doesn't make the mans behaviour acceptable.

I have already said NONE of the adults in the video acted well, the dad was entitled and lacked common sense, but kicking a bike and intimidating a 6 year old child who clearly didn't crash into him on purpose and was already scared and upset is vile behaviour.

that's the way little children do ride bikes - they are unpredictable.

Then perhaps the child's father should have taken this into account. Asking her to slow down or stop, rather than encouraging her to keep going.

Very entitled parenting. I can't believe how much support the father is getting on FB! Wtf?!!

Some posters are rationalising this aggressive behaviour but it isn't rational to do that and there is no excuse to behave like that.

Lol at couple who might be dead. They’re quite active for two corpses

@Oldraver, it'll end up on one of the local Facebook news pages and there'll be plenty of comments on there!

so you think that's an appropriate way to behave?

Didn't say that.

So, when cyclists are going faster than what’s in front of them, they should be entitled to ring their bell and have people jump out of their way, but when cyclists are going too slowly for what’s behind them, they can just carry on and slow everyone down and not consider getting out of anyone’s way.

Seems like people think a bike comes with some kind of super power. The dad in question was a twat and should have stopped his kid potentially injuring someone else.

Yes I saw this too being shared like there was only way of seeing this, that the couple were unreasonable. And while I actually can't tell what the angry man said he did appear aggressive and unreasonable, yes I thought it was a strange post to do because me and my little girl would never have not in that situation really.
And yes I thought it's so weird that he was filming this!? Really odd
But my little girl wouldn't have carried on going if someone's in your way you slow down and stop.
I've had people before who've said excuse me from behind and you can't hear them. You can hear a bike bell better I couldn't even hear a bike bell in the post although it says there was one

Very entitled parenting. I can't believe how much support the father is getting on FB! Wtf

Comments not in support of the ineffectual parent have probably been removed, by the ineffectual parent

@NailsNeedDoing good question . I wonder if it’s the same with my car, when l drive at people or things at speed?

But he was because that's the way little children do ride bikes - they are unpredictable. It is an intolerance to children. Even if you are hard of hearing, you cannot kick little children's bikes!

Nonsense.
It's nothing to do with intolerance to children, and of course little children ride bikes unpredictable.
The man's frustration is with the father.
That frustration has lead to the bike being kicked which is really unacceptable, but that's not from intolerance to a child - only to the damn arrogant father who can see an obstacle ahead, but chooses to send his daughter riding anyway, in an unstable manner... then presumes his 'excuse me, excuse me' should be interpreted as 'Get yourselves and our dog out of the way'.

As others have said, the couple could be deaf, they may not have heard, or presumed it was someone shouting to others...

The only intolerance is to that moronic father.

I think that's my main issue. Sometimes people are twats. Sometimes people are aggressive,violent twats.

That's why you don't put, or worse encourage, your child in a situation where there is a high chance of a confrontation, and then you escalate that confrontation.

Not if you actually give a shit about your kid at least.

The dad is clearly the sort of complete dick who posts crap on FB for likes/ reactions.

Any parent with even a grain of common sense would have stopped her long before she got anywhere near them, or having failed to do that, would have rushed to comfort her rather than trying to point score.

I imagine the whole family are complete entitled PITAs. The sort that are still making shopping a family outing, walking 3 or 4 abreast down shopping aisles so you can't get past

Faults on all sides here.... but some good may have come out of it in that kid learning not to be as entitled as her parents because sometimes people react really badly and when you are on a bike you need to be very aware of where other people are.
Some people are awful and aggressive and as a parent you are the one who needs to protect your child from that by preventing them from crashing into people or loudly bothering people! I do feel ots their own fault their child was made upset.
That doesnt excuse the behaviour of the man which was disgusting.... but you cant control the reaction other people have to your kids being stupid or thoughtless. So you need to control your kids behaviour around others so your kids dont end up getting hurt or sworn at etc...
Dont let your child careen down a hill on a bike if they arent a good cyclist yet. And dont let your child ride a bike at fast speed on a bloody narrow footpath!!

But he was because that's the way little children do ride bikes - they are unpredictable. It is an intolerance to children

In that case, yes I am intolerant of children riding into me on their bikes...

It's not just how children ride bikes, I've taught children how to ride bikes and we managed to do it without mowing down strangers in the process. If you really think people should just put up with this because it's 'just children' then you're as entitled as the dad on the video.

No one has said it's acceptable to kick the bike. In fact 90% of posters have specifically said it's not acceptable to do that.

Bet the reaction on FB would have been different if a boy with a fade buzz cut and a nike tracksuit had rode into the back of the pedestrians.

Surely your job as a parent is to make sure your child does things like learn to ride their bike as safely and as respectfully toward others as possible?

You don't just sit back and allow them to barge into two people and shrug your shoulders. It's your job to tell them to stop and wait.

I don't think it is a suitable place to take the child for a bike ride but then I don't know what the Dad's options are in his area. My DH doesn't go on bike rides but he certainly thinks our children have a right to enjoy their childhood and not always be the ones accomodating others' preferences- I think he has a point.