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To be so upset they have got another dog.

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Afternooninthepark · 12/05/2020 09:17

I know this is out of my control and really nothing to do with me but I am so angry and upset.
My Dh’s sister and her partner have been together for 12 years. During that time they have had 6 dogs and only kept one long term. First, they had two Yorkies but got rid after a few months as they were too yappy, then came a small mixed breed pup but they got rid of her after a year as she pulled over one of the kids when he was walking her, next came a pug which they kept until he died at 8, then a cockerpoo pup but got rid at 4 months as he was too hyper and that upset the pug!, then last year (after the pug died) they got a Weimaraner pup but she went after 6 months as she was getting too big ffs!!
I’m a real dog lover and it absolutely boils my blood every time they get a new dog without any thought and I’m even more incandescent when they rehome them and don’t give it a second thought.
Dh told me yesterday they have just gone and got another puppy last week.
I am bloody fuming.

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Isitweekendyet · 12/05/2020 10:15

What terrible people.

Think of it like this OP, giving the dogs away is the best fucking thing for them, rather have them rehomed to a family that will love them and prioritise them than spend its life with such awful people.

You should require screening before you have pets.

Additionally, the thought of a puppy mixed in with nine kids makes me feel rather ill.

Soubriquet · 12/05/2020 10:16

Jeez that is terrible

I’ve had to rehome two dogs. They went as a pair not two separate times. I was devastated and I still miss them now.

We have two now and we are doing everything we can to keep them including moving 4 miles to the small village which doesn’t even have a shop. I have to scoot 4 miles to work but I do it

Astrabees · 12/05/2020 10:17

Oh dear, Dachshunds (lovable as they are) can be difficult. We approached a dachshund rescue charity in the hope of rehoming one but they seem to get very few dogs who do not have medical or behavioural difficulties. There was one young dog we really liked but we could not have coped with him, he had been bought by someone who had just over indulged him and turned him into a little tyrant. If they ever mention they need specialist help the Red foundation are the people to contact for dachshund related matters.

Soubriquet · 12/05/2020 10:19

You watch, it will probably be rehomed because it keeps toileting on the carpets

Toy breeds are notoriously bad at house training

StirCrazy2020 · 12/05/2020 10:24

I know people like this and it's abhorrent. So many of their (often pedigree) cats and dogs just disappear and then another one appears.

Littlemeadow123 · 12/05/2020 10:27

@Raella50

If it had happened once and they didn't get another dog after that then it wouldn't be too bad. But they have done this multiple times now and that is AWFUL. We cannot know for certain that they are finding these dogs suitable homes, and as other people on here have said, dogs form very close bonds with their owners and it is very distressing when they are suddenly find themselves rehomed. It's also fuelling dodgy breeders. Someone who rehomes a dog just because it pulls someone over should not have any more dogs. A serial rehomer should be stopped from having dogs. Unfortunately, that kind of legislation doesn't exist though.

JayAlfredPrufrock · 12/05/2020 10:36

I volunteer with a dog rescue. I am always shocked at people who rehome their dog and a few months later posts photos of the new puppy.

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RedRed9 · 12/05/2020 10:36

Oh dear, Dachshunds (lovable as they are) can be difficult.

And so difficult to toilet train. I have to watch my dachshund like a hawk when it’s heavily raining/stormy as there’s still a chance he’d try to do a sneaky poo in the house rather than go outside and get wet.

Even the Crufts best in show winner pooed in the area!

leckford · 12/05/2020 10:36

What do they do with them when they are fed up with the poor things, advertise them on Gumtree where they can end up being used in dog fighting? Scum is a mild word, I imagine their 9 children are total delights as well.

stophuggingme · 12/05/2020 10:41

@Raella50
So you have a dog but still are trying to explain why this might not be terrible? How curious.

I could perhaps just about reconcile it if it has happened once but several times.

That is animal abuse and they should not be allowed to keep acquiring puppies only to do this.

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Afternooninthepark · 12/05/2020 11:18

Their children are late teens/20’s, they just have a 12 year old at home who is as indifferent to animals as they are unfortunately.
I’m going to refuse to have them round our house next time or make sure I’m out when they visit I just can not pretend that all is fine when I am seething.
Our dog is 8 and piddled all over the house to begin with, so much so that we had to remove the carpets upstairs but rehoming him didn’t even cross our minds.
I would have forgiven them the first time but to continuously do this is unthinkable imo, no excuses.

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spiderlight · 12/05/2020 11:19

This breaks my heart. Utterly despicable behaviour and such a bad example to their children. Presumably they're buying these puppies from backyard breeders as well, so they won't be bred for health or temperament but for a quick buck. No reputable breeder or rescue would let them have a pup with that history. Not the tiniest bit surprised that it's a dachshund - they're the latest fashion accessory, it seems, but their backs mean that many of them are walking vets' bills. Poor little sausage.

CrazyToast · 12/05/2020 11:20

This disgusts me. Those poor dogs. I couldn't continue to like anyone who did this. My own dogs are and how badly they are emotionally affected by having been ditched by previous owners (they are rescues).
And @Raella50, the wellbeing of animals is everyone's business. The poor dogs will be emotionally traumatised and who knows where they go to when given away.

myusernamewastakenbyme · 12/05/2020 11:27

This really riles me too....my partners ex wife was like this...although not just dogs....guinea pigs....chameleons....lizards etc.....she would bang on and on for months about how much she wanted them...she'd buy them and have them a few weeks or months and then rehome on facebook because the novelty had worn off...stupid cow !!!

Alsohuman · 12/05/2020 11:30

This just heartbreaking. The thought of parting with our ten month old Jack Russell makes my heart ache. Awful people.

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Afternooninthepark · 12/05/2020 11:34

I am so glad I am not alone in my thinking. I’m still raging and feel so agitated thinking about it, didn’t get a wink of sleep last night. I’m a dog walker so spend a lot of my time with dogs, they are such beautiful, loyal beings and it breaks my heart that people treat them like inanimate objects or latest fashion accessories to be disposed of when no longer required, it really saddens me and I truly think I hate my Sil and Bil, can’t help it but I do.

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userxx · 12/05/2020 11:35

Being upset over it is an odd reaction.

Are you being serious or are you the SIL ?

Isawamagpie · 12/05/2020 11:35

Jesus, I have 3 dogs- 1 will be 2 in september, second is 15 months, and third will be one in July- all large breeds, what on earth are the family doing to not to be able to handle one puppy, train it and give it a good home?
This post has got me worried too, what a shame for the poor dogs, dogs rehomed can easily fall in the hands of people who haven't got the best intentions, particularly if its through gumtree. Pets for homes etc - rather than places like dogs trust.

You would think after so many breeds and rehoming they would realise that they're not suitable for a dog!

And lockdown is absolutely not the best time to get a pup, yes families might be able to spent time with the dogs to train, but pups need that vital period of acclimatisation and socialising-meeting strangers of all types, different experiences of people and places - with social distancing these pups are just not going to get that interaction.

I was sick for a time period when my youngest dog was in this socialisation period, so she didn't get the full range of experiences the other two did get, ita made her a very clingy dog, who has some nervous disposition around certain people.. and this was the outcome of a good, but not excellent socialisation period.

Once this is all over and people return to work, and a more normal life, I think that we are going to be flooded with dogs with behavioural issues that require rehoming.

I'm not surprised you're upset op, i would (and actually am) upset on your behalf. People are such selfish idiots.

Raella50 · 12/05/2020 11:43

I don’t see how calling people scum, flouncing around refusing to talk to you’re family and denouncing the RSPCA is taking an interest in the welfare of animals to be honest.

Beautiful3 · 12/05/2020 11:48

Wow that's awful. They shouldn't be allowed to do that. Shame theres no database breeders/animal homes can check before selling them one.

Sodamncold · 12/05/2020 11:54

Not read the thread

Presumably not close for her not to have told you and the only way you know is that your DH told you they already have the puppy?

SchadenfreudePersonified · 12/05/2020 11:56

YANBU

They are trash.

I feel so sorry for the poor dogs they bring into that house.

Parky04 · 12/05/2020 11:59

I couldn't have any kind of relationship with people like that. I would cut all contact.

Namechange30000000 · 12/05/2020 12:05

Yanbu. I’d fall out with anyone over that.