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AIBU to want privacy in my garden

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Footywife · 11/05/2020 16:48

We live in a terraced house....all houses have front gardens. We have nightmare neighbours both sides unfortunately and we're currently involved with the Police/Local Authority to try and get them to take some action due to ongoing antisocial behaviour (drugs/violence/noise/drug dealing). We own, they rent. The rest of the street is lovely, but these two cockroaches have ganged up together to make peoples lives hell.

Anyway....I digress.

The problem we have is that the fences around the gardens are only around 3ft high which means we get no privacy when they are shouting across to each other, encouraging their children to throw balls, etc. One of the children sits and stares at us if we sit in the garden.

We're in the process of putting in a hedge down at the side between neighbour 1 (the plants are being delivered tomorrow). We really want to have a wall built down the other side and to the front (which will be a little higher than the current fence and will be attached to our over door canopy at one side so it gives us more privacy as we step directly out of the door. This will mean psychotic neighbour number two can't keep reaching over the fence and hammering on our window. We just can't afford to get the wall done at the moment.

Can anyone suggest anything we might be able to fix to the existing fence to make it that little bit higher - and which won't look an eyesore with it being on the front? I did consider bamboo screening, but not sure whether it might be too flimsy.

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Footywife · 11/05/2020 17:42

Oh and her latest 'revenge' on me reporting her to the police is to accuse me of bullying another neighbours child. All completely untrue! The only words I've ever spoken to the child was to tell her nicely to stay in her garden during lockdown when my lovely neighbours came to my fence to see if I needed any shopping whilst they were going.

She's got this wierd idea that if she causes enough trouble she'll get us thrown out of our homs. The home that we own!

Trellis it is. Thanks folks Smile

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Footywife · 11/05/2020 17:42

@BruceAndNosh That sounds good! Smile

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Mammatino · 11/05/2020 17:48

Get cctv. You can get a unit For about £50 at Argos that will film your garden from inside your windows and runs on WiFi. It will pick up the sound brilliantly as well as protect you from lies. Record everything. Note down every time and date. When you get footage of the drug deals you can get that off to the land lord and the police. Big garden umbrellas that you can tilt to protect you from prying eyes? Good luck they sound bloody horrendous.

ChateauMyself · 11/05/2020 17:53

www.hedgesdirect.co.uk/acatalog/berberis-hedging.html

Common Barbarry plant - thorny fucker.

TurquoiseDress · 11/05/2020 17:53

Electrified fence on their sides? Grin

TurquoiseDress · 11/05/2020 17:54

Seriously though OP, you have my sympathies, nightmare neighbours can REALLY make everyone's lives miserable!

Zaphodsotherhead · 11/05/2020 18:05

I don't know, but is there any way you could make a moveable kind of temporary cover out of something like sheeting on bamboo poles that you could stick in the ground and use as 'cover' when you are outside? And then take in again when you leave the garden? Like a huge windbreak? It wouldn't matter then if they got damaged and because it's portable you wouldn't need to worry about planning.

Might look a bit shonky, but would mean they couldn't see you. You could put it up before you went out, then they'd hopefully knacker themselves with their insults and noises, and then you could go out and use your garden afterwards. You'd need to bring it in every time you came in to avoid 'accidents', but if it's just cheap sheeting it would be easy enough to replace.

Just until you can get a proper fuck-off fence going.

sophiestew · 11/05/2020 18:05

I would just move.

averythinline · 11/05/2020 18:13

I would definitely recommend spiky plants- you can buy mature /large hedges already grown.....not really cheap but I think anything like trellis / bamboo will be trashed by the sound of it ....

Troels · 11/05/2020 18:14

CCTV and spikey plants

Movinghouseatlast · 11/05/2020 18:15

Put a 6 foot fence up next to the 3 foot fence. It will all be on your land so perfectly legal.

We did this and the difference was utterly amazing and the best £1500 I ever spent. I moved in the end but the fence meant we could use our garden again.

Camelsandcouches · 11/05/2020 18:16

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Footywife · 11/05/2020 18:19

@sophiestew There's absolutely no way we're moving. It's our home. She rents. I'm not letting some skank push me out of my home...a home I worked hard to buy When I was a single parent. . Karma will prevail eventually. Everything...absolutely everything is getting reported from now on. We've often let it slide in the past because she's quiet in winter but not anymore. I hate injustice...and I'm like a dog with a bone when I want a righteous outcome.

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Footywife · 11/05/2020 18:20

@Camelsandcouches Funnily enough I was looking at one of those today....aren't they expensive though?

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Camelsandcouches · 11/05/2020 18:21

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Footywife · 11/05/2020 18:21

@Mammatino I did consider that, but we didn't want one outside....bit worried they'd damage it. An inside one sounds like an ideal solution

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Xenia · 11/05/2020 18:22

I was looking at electric fencing last week which sounds just the job but probably not lawful other than to protect animals I suppose.

EdwynCollins · 11/05/2020 18:23

What about a sail, is that what they are called?
It was suggested on the trampoline thread so I had a look at them. They look really good and, sited correctly, would give a lot of privacy

Footywife · 11/05/2020 18:23

@Camelsandcouches. Sounds like it might be our best option though. I'm actually chuckling to myself at the thought of it and them not having a clue where it's coming from. evil laugh

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earthyfire · 11/05/2020 18:24

When I had really awful neighbours I put up a 6ft fence - as the fence belonged the them on one side I had to put the fence right up to the existing fence but on my land. Looked awful on their side as they had a 3ft fence then my 6ft fence! We could only see our 6ft fence. We felt so much better and could enjoy our garden with the horrible neighbours.

changedmynameforlockdown · 11/05/2020 18:24

Given you have only 2 years left on your mortgage, could you borrow the money - e.g. by taking a mortgage payment holiday to just get the brick wall or a 6 ft fence put up as soon as possible within your boundary. Otherwise you will be spending money on temporary solutions, for a few months only and not be able to relax in your garden this summer ( where you are likely to need to be at home more than any future time).

I think it is worth the investment and you have my sympathy, awful neighbours make you uneasy in your own home, the place you have worked hard for

earthyfire · 11/05/2020 18:25

without* Grin

cabbageking · 11/05/2020 18:26

For cheapness and ease.

Two 7 foot posts with a sheet stapled on would provide a temp screen.

Camelsandcouches · 11/05/2020 18:27

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MaeveDidIt · 11/05/2020 18:33

The problem with trellis is it's quite flimsey and she could easily pull it down. I think whether or not you are going to use it, CCTV is a must in your case (see Mammatino info above).
What a nightmare for you 💐