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'I'm a key worker' is the most overused phrase atm

341 replies

Imakeyworker · 10/05/2020 09:20

Like a badge of honour. I heard one woman say it to 3 different people in a shop yesterday.

Technically I am a key worker.

Should I be letting everyone know about it?

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10storeylovesong · 10/05/2020 14:08

@tabbymumz and if you genuinely feel that you have been 'nice' to me, then I suggest that you reassess your communication techniques.

tttigress · 10/05/2020 14:22

I would like to get a definition on what a key worker is, personally I think some that are "self diagnosing" themselves as key worker's, aren't ready key worker's

There are also a lot of people that do not come into the key worker category, but are actually providing an essential service.

Lemonblast · 10/05/2020 14:37

‘@tabbymumz and if you genuinely feel that you have been 'nice' to me, then I suggest that you reassess your communication techniques.’

This.
The lack of self awareness is incredible.

TabbyMumz · 10/05/2020 14:37

"10storeylovesong

@tabbymumzyou didn't actually ask me about the school places.

I did actually, you've obviously missed it. I think I actually asked you twice. I said how I realised they wouldnt fit with shifts but there must be sometimes they could go during the day.

"If you had done, I would have told you that my youngest son's nursery is completely closed, so we had no childcare for him. We debated about sending our eldest, but again, didn't want to put him at further risk if we didn't absolutely have to and it didn't really make much difference as one of us has to be home for the youngest anyway."

Great, thanks.

"You don't seem to get my point. I will try to make it clearer. I'm not sure what makes you feel you have to listen to the account of someone who is openly struggling and pick holes in it, but empathy and compassion are available to all of us."

I didnt pick holes in it. I simply asked you questions. Go back and read them. They were just questions. You havent shown any empathy. Its hard to be empathetic to someone who is being so openly nasty to you.

" You could have asked those questions in a much less accusatory manner."

If that's the way you read them, that's up to you. It didnt make sense to me that you are there eating stale bread, when you have up to 3 days off to go shopping. Most shops by me have no queues at all, you can walk right in.

"I would happily have answered you.

You didnt seem to be answering though. I asked you about school, you didnt answer. You preferred to have a go at me, which you are still doing.

"Have a read of the Betari Box theory"

Being nasty again are you?. That's no surprise, you've been nothing but nasty all the way through this.

TabbyMumz · 10/05/2020 14:39

"Lemonblast

‘@tabbymumzand if you genuinely feel that you have been 'nice' to me, then I suggest that you reassess your communication techniques.’"

"This.
The lack of self awareness is incredible."

Thats rich coming from someone who said I was a narcissist with a chip on my shoulder, when you know nothing at all about me.

VerticalHorizon · 10/05/2020 14:39

It's hard to define a key worker because it depends on circumstance.
You can be a furloughed key worker who furloughed 50% of the time (but strictly speaking not key during the furlough)

I'm a key worker SOME of the time, but not all of it...

Yankathebear · 10/05/2020 14:42

My dh is one of those annoying people that tells anyone that will listen that he’s a key worker and will get it in to any conversation. All conversations must be about him.

I’m a nurse and embarrassed by attention.

Tootletum · 10/05/2020 14:44

Yeah. Like they're all saints.

Daffodil101 · 10/05/2020 14:45

I think we’d soon find out who the key workers were if this had been a flesh eating virus with 50% mortality.

They are the key workers. I’m just NHS.

10storeylovesong · 10/05/2020 14:49

@tabbymumz how is asking you to have a read of a well known communication theory being nasty?

10storeylovesong · 10/05/2020 14:51

This whole situation is so difficult. I don't want to join in the Thursday clap as my neighbours look towards me and my husband and clap. It's mortifying and I just want to slink inside. I hate it. But if you don't go out and clap then you are lambasted on social media and judged. How have we gotten to this?

TabbyMumz · 10/05/2020 14:53

10storeylovesong

"@tabbymumzhow is asking you to have a read of a well known communication theory being nasty?"
Clearly it was nasty. You know it was. To make out my communication needed improving. It was sneery. Still just as bad as saying I'm a hypocrite and you feel sorry for me etc.

cologne4711 · 10/05/2020 14:54

When I saw the original keyworker list I thought virtually every job was on there except for DH and me! It's good to know that we contribute nothing to society (well except our taxes).

But if you don't go out and clap then you are lambasted on social media and judged

I couldn't give a toss. We weren't invited to our road's street party on Friday. Thank goodness! It had clearly been noted that we don't clap on Thursday evenings.

notacooldad · 10/05/2020 14:56

My county council sent me a certificate to prove my key worker status
Oh that's interesting. Ours havent done that. Weve just been told yo have out lanyard I'd with when travelling to and from work.
Mines usually in my handbag until I need it but I've never been pulled up. Neither has anyone in the teams.

Lemonblast · 10/05/2020 14:57

‘Thats rich coming from someone who said I was a narcissist ‘
Grin
Say what? Show me 🙈

I suggest you check out the definition of a nark.

So funny 😂

Saints13 · 10/05/2020 14:59

I have been told I am a key worker, but have worked from home since mid-March along with the rest of the team I am part of.

10storeylovesong · 10/05/2020 15:01

@tabbymumz have you read it? I was explaining why you got the reaction you got from me.

This will be my last post. My mental health is on a knife edge. I've spent the whole weekend in tears, struggling to get out of bed or find the motivation to look after my poor children. My DH keeps ringing from work as he is so concerned for me. I can't go on like this. Forum posts like this confirm how I feel, that we are being looked down and judged just for trying to do our jobs and when people say, just ask for help, they don't mean it and judge you when you do try and reach out and access any kind of help. People seem to think we think we're better than anyone else if we try and access help and explain why we need it. In reality, I'm just desperate.

Take pleasure in whatever victory you feel you have won today.

TabbyMumz · 10/05/2020 15:04

"Lemonblast

‘Thats rich coming from someone who said I was a narcissist ‘

Say what? Show me

I suggest you check out the definition of a nark.

So funny"
I typed mark, it came up as narcissist. Still nasty, and you continue to be extremely nasty.

TabbyMumz · 10/05/2020 15:04

Nark

Lemonblast · 10/05/2020 15:05

10storey he/she hadn’t won anything. Honestly. You’ve done nothing or said anything to warrant those responses. It’s weird but it’s the internet.

Why don’t you think about taking a bit of time off work? I don’t think anybody can argue that stress is a very valid reason in your situation.
And switch off MN for a while. It’s actually a pretty toxic site at the minute.

TabbyMumz · 10/05/2020 15:07

Definition of a nark is a police informer. Very strange thing to be calling people on a mumsnet thread.

anonacatchat · 10/05/2020 15:09

Drives me potty

TabbyMumz · 10/05/2020 15:09

"It’s actually a pretty toxic site at the minute."
It is while you are on it. Going round calling people narks for goodness sake and other horrible things.

Lemonblast · 10/05/2020 15:10

Nark
‘An unpleasant person, particularly one who makes things unpleasant for another person’

The poster was clearly struggling. Your response categorises you as a nark IMO.
As have your continued responses to her throughout the thread.
HTH.

TabbyMumz · 10/05/2020 15:11

"Take pleasure in whatever victory you feel you have won today."
Havent won any victory, was just defending myself from nasty comments from you. Try not going round calling people hypocrites and you might get a better response from people

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