To ask you how you feel when you first wake up in the morning?

[Boredbumhead]

Lately, I've been feeling groggy when I first wake up. My stomach aches and I almost feel a bit flat. All my 'issues" and 'problems' race through my head, and I feel a bit of anti climax. I get better as the morning goes on. But I've been waking up with an odd sense of dread. I am locked down with ex-dp because of th children which could be a cause of it. How do you feel when you first wake up?

I wake up feeling a bit like Groundhog Day! My thoughts tend to go straight away towards how to make the day a little different to the last for the sake of everyone's sanity!

The moment I read your post I thought yep, menopause related!

I used to wake up, have a quick cuppa and off I was for a run. That's totally impossible now. I used to work very early and commute and without understanding it started to experience panic attacks as I was driving. It was horrible. Experienced dreadful dizziness, lightheadness, feeling sick, unable to concentrate on anything.

It's better now being in the full menopause, As opposed to peri, but I still find the first hour of getting up hard to get going.

I’m feeling ridiculously tired when I wake up and it takes a lot for me to make myself get up. I usually jump out of bed, so this is unusual for me.

Both children (4&6) come in at 7am and they just have verbal diarrhoea from the second they enter the room. I just wonder how the hell I’m going to make it through another day of homeschooling, cleaning, endless food prep etc), but once I’m up I feel fine and the days are never as bad as anticipated.

I feel for you if you’re in an unhappy relationship, OP

I feel fine. I get up, go to work just like I normally would. Very little difference in my life

I don't think Lockdown has made a huge difference to me.

I often wondered what it's be like to wake up feeling refreshed and invigorated - I don't remember ever feeling that way.

Usually I just feel groggy, and riquochet around the house a bit until I wake up properly (after coffee and a shower).

When I'm out of Lockdown it's probably slightly better as I exercise more during the day (esp weekend mornings).

We're lucky in that DD (3.5) usually wakes up between 7-8am which is pretty damn civilised. But still, I'm exhausted every single morning.

Probably not helped the fact I don't go to bed/sleep until 12 or 1am. Definitely not helped by the nights that DD wakes us up at 3am for no discernible reason.

I'm 41. But I think I've pretty much always been a night owl, rather than an early bird.

I'm sure the current situation is a big part of it, especially if as a pp asked when did it start? However, that aside I think it's possible it's food related, as in eating too much of the wrong type of food too late. I found that starting from roughly your age, I ate my main meal earlier and earlier (was as late as 9pm at one point) now it's no later than 6, ideally before 5). It makes so much difference. Also, the amount of snacks in eve. It's been hard as I do like my food and snacks, but it's not worth the discomfort. Perhaps give it a try.

Like wading through treacle, but it's always like that - I've spent my whole adult life trying to figure out how to feel rested when I wake up.

I have a baby and a preschooler so everyday before was a bit Groundhog Day anyway. Every morning I wake up and kiss the baby and sometimes the preschooler too and try to think one day I will miss these cuddles but fuck me I want to be able to stretch out, have a full nights sleep and maybe even share a bed with my husband again.

Get woken up too early to at least one of my children screaming and think "for fucks sake here we go again"

I feel relaxed. I'm not a morning person and usually I have to get up at the crack of dawn to walk the dog before work. I love waking up when my.body wants to. We are off furloghed and shielding and reality is on hold. I might not be so relaxed after the announcement tonight

I fell achey, unrested and tired

Thank you for these comments.
I am actually easier during lockdown, but thanks to your comments, I have identified the following that might be contributing factors.
Being in the same place as ex dp;
Eating too late at night;
Being peri menopausal;
Dealing with the unknown of how work will get back to 'normal'.

I've been waking up like that for a long time - since we'll before lockdown. Flat, miserable, lonely, withdrawn, dreading everything and feeling anxious about some unseen problem or unresolved issue hanging over me.

There are a few things on my mind, but no single thing should make me feel that bad, ifyswim. I put it down to perimenopause (I'm 47), as there are other symptoms, so I started HRT a couple of months ago.

I'd say the general irritability and mood swings have improved, but the brain fog is still around, and the morning blues. It does, however, ease up very quickly - if I stay in bed dwelling, buried in my phone, it lingers, but if I jump up, make the bed and be purposeful it can be fading by the time I'm brushing my teeth.

It is pretty horrible though.

I often feel sick but this happened before lockdown. It varies, sometimes a bit down and lacking in motivation, as it's another day of staying in, especially on the days of home schooling. I feel bit lazy and flat and struggle to get up much more than before when I had to get up for the school run. Other times I feel Ok but always check the headlines.

Annoyed that I didn't go to bed earlier but there's so much stuff to do in the house, I never do, so i am tired. And kicking myself about it.

Amazing - after about 4 espressos. Before them - how I imagine dead feels.

I wake up feeling like I can't wait for it to be bedtime again.

@undercoveraessedai that’s how I feel too. I feel terrible every morning and rarely feel like I’ve had enough sleep no matter how much I’ve actually had. No school run this past 6 weeks has been bliss (although not supposed to say that here)

I feel fine in the mornings. Sometimes a bit groggy until I've had a coffee and a shower but otherwise no issues at all.

i got divorced a few years ago and wake up every morning at about 6am mostly due to the cat who is hungry then and feel fantastic, fully rested, cosy, warm, mentally sound.
When I was married I woke up feeling dread every single day, knowing he would sulk and be vile all day if he didn't get morning sex and my that stage I couldn ot bear him to touch me in any way so a day of sulking was given, I'm in charge of the finances so I never run out of money 2 weeks before pay day and the house is tidy and looks lovely 24/7.
I haven't felt this good in 20 years.

I haven't had the 'dread' feeling since my workplace closed for lockdown. (I enjoy my job but loathe the commute.)

Awful. Groggy, grumpy, antisocial, unable to function in any meaningful way before nine at the earliest. I’m not a morning person. Never have been, never will be.

People who jump out of bed at six and start exercising are just a different species. I should know, my DP is one and after all these years I still have no idea how it’s possible. He’s a zombie by 10pm, though, which is early evening to me.

I feel really anxious and nervous and have a feeling of dread. I hate feeling like that.

Refreshed and well tested. Relieved I won't be going on an overcrowded train anytime soon.