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Original poster

Here's what happened last night

69 replies

Marmunia1975 · 09/05/2020 17:22

So, our neighbours sent their daughter around to come into our house and play with our daughter so they could go to a street party in our development with five other families. I sent her home.

Was IBU?

My OH is in a job where full PPE is required and I have a mum who is almost 80 who I look after.

Looking out at the street party, they flocked together and even had a massive Dominos delivery which they shared.

Madness.

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Original poster
Marmunia1975 · 09/05/2020 18:12

They didn't ask beforehand. We haven't had contact with them apart from waving, so it was a shock when the child turned up expecting to be taken in. Later that night I saw the child sitting on the pavement at 11pm while the parents got drunk and a crap DJ played cheesy choons.

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Maduixa · 09/05/2020 18:13

Was IBU?

Yes. Once the child has come to join your household, you must keep her until COVID-19 is obliterated or there's a vaccine Halo.

Seriously, they must have just been trying their luck, if they sent her with no consultation/warning. Even if your daughters are good friends and the neighbours haven't heard about social distancing, they'd have considered that you might be out, busy, or otherwise unable to keep her?

Lynda07 · 09/05/2020 18:14

JemimaPuddleCat Sat 09-May-20 18:05:10
Never mind, they'll be dead soon.
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That made me laugh out loud, Jemima :-). I can just imagine you sitting on your sofa and saying that with a deadpan face. It's priceless.
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Op, your neighbours shouldn't have sent their daughter round to you at this time, you were right to send her home. It seems an odd thing to do (unless daughter took it upon herself to come and knock, we al know what kids are like). Nobody is supposed to mix households at the moment and you're doing your share. Why anyone wants to undo the (hopefully) 'good' we have achieved in seven weeks is beyond me.

Cam2020 · 09/05/2020 18:15

Eh? What a cheek! YANBU!

BMW6 · 09/05/2020 18:19

Later that night I saw the child sitting on the pavement at 11pm while the parents got drunk and a crap DJ played cheesy choons.

How old is this child?

IcyWind · 09/05/2020 18:21

YANBU

VerticalHorizon · 09/05/2020 18:21

She's 28!

blacksax · 09/05/2020 18:30

They aren't the sort of people we'd hang around with. We have our own friends

You weren't invited, were you?

NoShameInNameChanging6262626 · 09/05/2020 18:38

You weren't invited, were you? Grin

incognitomum · 09/05/2020 18:47

She's 28 Grin

hellosunshine5 · 09/05/2020 18:49

No comment on the OP itself as you know you are YANBU at all.

They aren't the sort of people we'd hang around with. We have our own friends.

🙄 I have to comment on this though as I really hate this sort of attitude in people! Makes me cringe. I’m sure they all have ‘their own friends’ outside of each other too but some people are capable of having friends AND enjoying spending time and socialising (taking the current situation out of the equation obviously) with other people from all walks of life, especially those that they share a street or whatever with.

Newjez · 09/05/2020 19:03

These are the sort of people who would have had a bonfire through the blitzkrieg.

Darwin awards for the lot of them.

Good riddance.

butterpuffed · 09/05/2020 19:08

I love Dominoes mmmmmm

Me too but haven't played for years

lotusbell · 09/05/2020 19:09

I thought the whole point of the VE celebration street parties was to include all families and children? For me, these things are 99% of the time designed to justify a big piss up. A friend of mine was telling me the one on his street started at 1pm.and went on til.midnight with music blaring, people wandering into other peoples houses and everyone generally mixing.
Absolutely FA to do with VE day.

countrygirl99 · 09/05/2020 19:29

Do ineos are rank, I'm lucky enough to live in an area with proper Italian pizzerias, for that reason alone YANBU.

Thinkingabout1t · 09/05/2020 19:43

YANBU, and I'd be furious that they had risked infecting you and your Mum.

tara66 · 09/05/2020 19:55

Poor child though.

AnneOfTeenFables · 09/05/2020 20:00

Are we supposed to be outraged at the Dominos, the child on the pavement at 11pm, the lack of etiquette of not inviting you or the cfery of sending a child round to your house without asking?

Because this thread is very similar to the McDonalds one that got zapped.

And fwiw, if any of this happened then the lack of social distancing is the shocking part. The rest is just the outrage cherry on the problematic cake.

Haffiana · 09/05/2020 20:02

It wasn't a massive McDonalds order, was it OP?

ssd · 09/05/2020 20:04

Your neighbours are dick heads.

Original poster
Marmunia1975 · 09/05/2020 20:15

I would have declined the invitation anyway. This core group of five families have regular parties for special events, but we don't mix with them.

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everythingisginandroses · 09/05/2020 20:27

Have a medal Biscuit

viewfromthecouch · 09/05/2020 20:36

Poor kid to have such shitty parents.

CFs even if there wasn't a pandemic.

heartsonacake · 09/05/2020 20:38

YANBU. Did they even ask or did they just send her to the door? Confused

Lockdown or not I’d send the kid back for their cheeky fuckery alone.

BobGalaxy · 09/05/2020 20:41

That's CFery at the best of times, let alone when households are not supposed to be mixing!

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