A friend got pregnant while she was at uni, she left uni, had the baby and then married the baby's father who was a medical student. She started an OU degree.
She looked after the children when he had to study, he would go off to the library.
As a junior Dr they had hoiospital accomodation and he would phone her and ask her to run a bath so he could come home, have a bath, change clothes and go back to work.
Two children later and his career is taking of and so is his affair with a work colleague.
The marriage ended and he remaries very quickly becaous OW is pregnant.
Now my frienbd never resented doing all the child care and running the house, she saw that as being part of a team, Dr husband had never changed a nappy.
OW gives birth and sadly develops PPD, quite seriously, she can't be left at hoime with the baby so her mother is with her during the day but leaving Dr husband to do the night shift.
This is the point he realsises how much his first wife did and starts calling her to say, "I had no idea how hard this was".
Is it Karma? Is it just life? Who knows, but she felt some relief from her ex realising how hard work babies are.