to expect MIL not to dig up rose we gave her?

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Bought my mum and MIL a "wedding day" rose as thank you gifts for our wedding two years ago. It's a bit of a rambler and my mum has worked hard to keep it under control but loves it. MIL (who is a keen and experienced gardener)had dug the blardy thing up!!! Another example of her pissing on anything nice I try to do for her, I think.

ok fair enough. I think it's not really about the rose or the sentiment but about her inability to ever seem to appreciate anything I do for her. The amount of gifts she's been rude about and the little snidey comments she makes about everyone she knows just winds me up. This is jsut another thing on the list IYKWIM. I do not eat puppies

Cod, you should be on my side in firendship solidarity and because you witnessed what a pita she is at hen party with her bloody onions

I think you should just buy her "suitable" presents, instead of ones you really like. Then you won't be upset if she doesn't like them because you won't have invested any emotion in them.

I do think the comment about if your mum can manage it why can't she, is very unreasonable. IT's a bit like saying "why can't she just be like my mum." She's her. She can't help it.

I will look out for this wedding day rose, it sounds exactly what I need in my garden!

I thought it WAs a suitable present though as she loves gardening etc etc. I think I can't win whatever Itry to do or buy her. But it's not just me, she's unpleasable in general

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I've got the Wedding Day rose, and it's lovely - it has loads of clusters of small white old-fashioned type roses. It's defo one of my faves, and I don't find it a PITA at all, its' a delight. Your MIL sounds like one of these who actually bothers about what's in their garden, and changes things on a whim, like other people change their cushions, whereas if you gave me a rose I'd plant it and it'd stil be there on doomsday!

I don't think you should replace it - stuff that. At xmas, buy her a £10 book token.

hurrah! someone on my side!!! I think the roses are beautiful too. I agree on book token front. We do £10 presents with his family, I spend ages trying to find interesting gifts and MIL and SIL give me bloody Body Shop gift sets every year.
Cod, it wasn't my mum with the onions???

magazine sub good idea though, she spends a fortune on the things. My fave is her regular purchase of Gillian McKeith's mag but she never ever eats/cooks any of the dishes