Cancer diagnosis who to tell

[saffy1234]

Hi
Some of you may recognise my username from previous posts about my husband.
To cut a long story short after a few months of drs visits and tests I was diagnosed with cervical cancer and have a CT bloods and an appointment on Tuesday.
My mum knows as she is a great support and knowledgeable as she is a nurse.
My issue is my husband left me during lockdown and finally walked out last week on my birthday.Do I tell him?Or just keep it to myself.Will that even be possible ,I don't want his sympathy or for him to try and come back due to worry.What would you do?

Thanks again all
And @MinnieMountain I'm going to now

You must be in shock.
Take your time Mnet is lovely when you need it sometimes. I’m glad other posters shared their experience with you. Take care.

@EmeraldShamrock love your name Ireland is without a doubt my favourite country to visit ,the people are just amazing.
Yes I am in shock.First him and now this.Im so worried for my children but mostly my DS with ASD .

Hi @MinnieMountain I did but then realised it was from 2016 they seem to be on thread 60+ how do I find a recent one

saffy1234 It will be okay. Access all the support you can. You’ll need his help with recovery I know you are separated but was he supportive prior to the separation.
Is it over between you or a break with a possible rekindle.

Absolutely fine for you to message me @saffy1234. Unfortunately I only saw your reply this morning due to the time difference down under.

Hi @EmeraldShamrock yes he was and I really don't know it's all been totally out of the blue and out of character x

Thanks @Herefishyfishy

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/3827476-Cancer-support-thread-74-come-in-were-here-for-you

Thanks @MinnieMountain

That is shit in that case I'd talk to him it is probably stress. I hope your appointment goes well.

Well I saw him today @EmeraldShamrock and he told me he has a place he's renting.....
I was hoping he'd come to his senses
Either way I'll tell him when I know more xx

Sending you moral support for the appointment saffy

Thankyou @ScrapThatThen so lovely of you to think of me xxxx

Very sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I was in your position a year ago only breast cancer. Let the news sink in before rushing to tell anyone. It does feel like a dream at the beginning quite surreal. Sending you lots of love 💕

@saffy1234 Good luck tomorrow, deep breaths try get some sleep tonight. ❤

@saffy1234 hope things go as well as you hope tomorrow. Everyone else has said what I want to say to you and said it much better.