To ask.What sort of friendship do you have with your neighbours?

[PrincessHoneysuckle]

If any.
Growing up our neighbours on our street turned into our parents best friends and their kids were our friends.We spent NY eve together,went out the the day had barbeques etc.

I'm 40 now and I'm on "do you want to lend our jet washer?" " I've got this bottle of wine I wont drink if you want it" terms with both ndn.You?

We’ve always been polite and would stand for a chat. Since lockdown, we’ve exchanged numbers, helped each other with shopping & met for driveway drinks every Saturday night. It’s been a great morale booster and we have all got to know each other much better which is lovely!

Having moved houses 7 times in 30 years I've learned to be friendly but at arm's length with neighbours. We've lived here 2 years and get on well with neighbours, perfectly happy to chat on the street, but after previous experiences I don't get involved.

My immediate next door neighbour is twat. Messy, lazy, drinks too much and decided to make my life harder in the first week I was here. Luckily I only see them a few times a year.
The houses behind are much nicer, we have a neighbours WhatsApp group. Don't socialise though but good for last minute school pick ups and keeping spare keys for emergencies.

I never see our neighbours. I'm out at work all day. Come in and go in house. Back garden has high fences so can't see them over it. People across the road, see them leaving for work before me and that's it.

A few months ago my son made me aware of a post on our village community Facebook group. It was someone asking if they recognised these chickens because they were in her front garden. They were mine so I responded asking where she lived so I could come and herd them home and she said the name of the street and (there’s only 3 houses in our close) I was ‘oh my next door neighbour??’ Yes, it was my next door neighbour who was posting. We didn’t have a clue who each other was!

Well the latest is. He has told a builder they are not allowed to do any work on my house without his permission.

We have a shared path between houses and he has said he won't give permission.

He thinks he has a claim on my house - this is subject to court proceedings that are ongoing.

Our neighbour across the road is Mick who is 74. He’s lived here since the houses were built, we’ve lived here for 20 years. On one side of us is a lovely elderly couple, we say hello and exchange Christmas presents but can’t have a proper chat because of the language barrier. The other side is a complete knob. His drive is next to hours. He moved in 2 years ago and wanted to put a 5foot fence down the drive which would’ve completely blocked our metres on the side of our house. We explained that he couldn’t do that that we need access to read the meters, he suggested we or the electric/gas board lift the panel out each time! He only stopped his plans when we drilled down to put the post in and came across a gas pipe! I feel such hatred towards him and hope he moves!

He drilled*

Moved from a big city to small town, neighbours both sides were unpleasant, hints of racism but hard to prove. Lots of nastiness culminating in complaining to council about our sky dish which was apparently offensive, council thought it was funny when they did a site visit and saw neighbour had an identical dish.

We've always been pleasant, taken in parcels, enquired if we could do anything when they were ill, seemed to get on OK with other neighbours in our small cul de sac of 8 houses, Christmas cards, say hello etc. Last night they all got together on neighbours drive and had a VE party. We were the only ones not invited. I feel hurt that the other neighbours joined in, I know the ones next door just tolerate us but thought we got on OK with the others.

I've had enough, don't intend to engage any more.

On the right is DH's cousin, but they're not especially close. They chat over the wall sometimes but that's about it. The other side is a rented house currently full of young lads from Australia. They're nice enough but again we just chat over the wall.

I like it this way though. We know each other well enough to take parcels in etc. but there's no friendship there.