To ask.What sort of friendship do you have with your neighbours?

[PrincessHoneysuckle]

If any.
Growing up our neighbours on our street turned into our parents best friends and their kids were our friends.We spent NY eve together,went out the the day had barbeques etc.

I'm 40 now and I'm on "do you want to lend our jet washer?" " I've got this bottle of wine I wont drink if you want it" terms with both ndn.You?

I have two extremes. The ndn attached to me is a mean spirited, angry old man who is a bully and a nasty piece of work. So I ignore him until he sends me yet another letter complaining about something and threatening to take me to court. Last time it was coz I leant a ladder against the fence we share for a couple of hours when doing work in the garden .

The other side are lovely and we always have a chat. Have been invited either side for bbqs and parties and have sent over the odd glass of booze or slice of cake over the wall. Funny enough mean neighbour hates nice neighbours and is very angry we get on

Name changed for this.

I hate my neighbour. He is my ex. He decided it was a great idea to buy the fucking house right next door to me.

I have an injunction against him because of his behaviour.

If I go in the pub the other side of him he accuses me on fb of stalking him. Well if you don't want to see your ex don't buy the fucking house next door. Knob

I say Hello to mine, but I really don’t like them, they’re inconsiderate arseholes.

One parks on the corner of our grass churning it up, let’s her visitors block our cars in, is too lazy to pull her bins back up the street so just piles her rubbish in between our houses in bags for 13 days at a time, which are then ripped open by foxes, which causes a bloody mess that she doesn’t clean up. I could go on, but I’d be here forever.

The other side I thought were ok, until they had an extension built and decided to use our drive as an access point for builders and their porta loo, and delivery vehicles, and brick dust/concrete mess, which then blocked up the drains outside our garages.

Yeah, not a fan of mine, but I remain polite 🤐

Friendly, but not friends. We wave and say hello when we see each other, make small talk etc. Pop Christmas cards round to each other.

Recently our recycling and bin collections have been on and off due to staff shortages so we’ve been updating each other when we’ve heard anything new.

It works for us. It would be nice to have friends for neighbours but equally I’ve heard cases where people can’t get rid of them or they drop by all the time, that would drive me mad!

I never seem to get to know neighbours very well, although have never had any problems. I get on quite well with one side and don’t know the other. There just never seems much of a reason to interact.

When I bought my house, the old couple next door were lovely. The lady especially had so many conversations over the fence, she was so nice. After they died her son lived in the house for a bit, and was pleasant but loud. Then he sold and the bloke who lives there now is nice. Quiet and solo and says hello but keeps himself to himself. His cooking smells amazing.

On the other side I've got an older couple who have been there about 15 years, they're nice and we get on. We shared a peripatetic cat until he died last week.

If I see my neighbours out we will have a 5 minute chat every so often. I don't want to be to pally going into one another's houses. Most of my neighbours are lovely apart from one gobby woman over the road. Her teenagers can do wrong but they fucking do so no one on the street talks to the family now.

Love 'em, absolutely love 'em. There are four houses on the block and we all share a ginnel and access to our back doors I've got students (male) next door, a young married couple with a Speagle puppy on the other side and a single woman next door but one.

We all get along fab. But we're neighbours, rather than friends.

Growing up I remember being so close to the Neighbours. Doesn’t seem the case now.

We get on with the guy next door but wouldn’t call him a friend. We don’t have much to do with The other side. Not on bad terms or anything but just don’t know them.

I know a few people from over the road but again not friends with them. Might say hello and have a quick natter but that’s it.

There’s one house on the street that we’ve never seen the people let alone speak to them! Never bumped into each other or anything!

@iloverock fuck that! You poor thing

@iloverock omg, nothing I'm going to read on this thread can come close to your story.

I'm sorry that you have to put up with that absolute bullshit. What a dickhead.

This is a lame half complaint in comparison but my neighbours clearly pity me because I'm a single mother. They sometimes think to offer me an invite, in a very charitable way. I can't be arsed. I don't relate to them at all and I have my job, my house, my kids, always happy reading, watching stuff on line, plenty of things to do around the house. I dread the door bell ringing.

we only moved into this house middle of last year and have been lucky neighbours either side are both ok one side quiet lady but we have a nice conversation when we see each other, other side couple who are friendly and once again have a conversation if we are both in the back garden at the same time

Our neighbours are absolutely lovely. Some we are just on 'smile and wave' terms with and others have become great friends to us and our kids. Our whole street just enjoyed a front garden ( socially distanced) afternoon tea, with music from the DJ across the road. We've long been ready to upsize and our fabulous neighbours are a main reason we've not quite got round to it yet 🙂

I've not long moved and at my old house we got on with both neighbours, one side our kids go to the same school so played together and the other side theirbteenage daughter babysat for us. Funnily enough the neighbours didnt like each other though.

At this new house I thought the neighbours were ok, one has always brought our bins in since we have moved and the other has chatted to DP over the fence, all nice enough but the other day when we were going for a walk the bin neighbour started going absolutely mad about our cats saying if he catches them shitting in his garden he will drown them. Said he'd had problems with cats for years and he was sick of it. He did come round and apologise when we got back from our walk but I just feel anxious about my cats now.

So i just ignore all the neighbours now and pretend they don't exist

@PrincessHoneysuckle
@GoddessOfGettingThereInTheEnd

He could have moved anywhere in the country hell he could have moved anywhere in the world as he has no ties with anyone.
His own family have nothing to do with him.

Yet he bought the house directly
Next door and slags me off to anyone that will listen to him.

A few weeks ago he called the police on me for stealing his recycling boxes. The police actually came to my house. It turns out he had ordered the bins to be delivered to my house and then reported me to the police. Unbelievable

We chat to ours. Their younger kid'll be in the same class as our older one at school, and all the kids play together.

It's circumstantial, we aren't bezzies, but it's friendly & neighbourly and that's nice.

I never see the neighbours to our left. We occasionally see our neighbour to our right. We had words when her visitors kept parking on my drive. We also had many words when she had her extension built and she told her builders to park on my drive and use my front garden for a skip.

I love my neighbours - we go to each other's houses for dinner, support each other and chat a lot.
It is lovely being surrounded by friends.

Wow @iloverock I'm sure you're resilient enough not to care what the neighbours think but if a man moved in to a house in my cul de sac and then slagged off his ex and new ndn, I would think, no, know that he was INSANE.

I hope you are safe. I have a CRAZY x too, but your x makes him look like a total beginner

One side old.couple lovely other side old woman with issues. Bloody can't stand the old cow. Ignore her totally

On one side they're great. We're all busy so don't really do more than the odd chat outside but the kids are good friends, go to each others birthday parties and play together.

The other side a pain in the backside, they've spent 2 years having work done on their house and don't we all know it and how important it is. Most people just get on with it but they have building noise all the time, even in lockdown, even at the weekend. They made some noises about social distancing but they obviously don't care as the builders are all cheek by jowl. They're just really false and patronising. He's a bully and when we had a fence done he phoned the guy up swearing and threatening him.

Only moved here recently but it’s far full on for my liking- lockdown has been street party after party today is beyond ridiculous. No social distancing whatsoever. I’ve kept my kids in the whole time.
My opinion during and post lock down is very different to what I thought before now I think bunch of dicks and want to move.

I live in flats there's 7flats and get along with everyone, bbqs, drinks, kids all around same age BUT if I ever moved I probably woundnt see them again lol.

Smile and nod with one side, stand and chat on the drive for a few minutes with the other. Neighbours opposite are a mix of people we don't know as we hardly ever see them, and others who I'll stand and exchange brief pleasantries with as I see them when they walk their dogs.

Good enough relationships that we'll take parcels in for each other, but not close friendships - which suits me because I'm quite a private person.