To go back to my shared flat during lockdown?

[heybabes]

I currently share an apartment with another girl, but chose to live with my boyfriend during lockdown.

My flat is 10 minutes walk away from my boyfriends and my room is on the top floor with its own bathroom. A couple of times I’ve gone back there to work as I find it really difficult to work from my boyfriends as he has a demanding 3 year old a couple of days a week who wants my attention 24/7.

However my flat mate has told me that she no longer wants me to come back to the flat to work, as it’s breaking the lockdown rules and mixing households, and I can only come to pick up my stuff. Even though my room is on a separate floor to hers, I don’t use any shared facilities or space when I go.

Part of me thinks it’s because I said she could use my room if she needed to as it has access to the roof and we have no garden and I thought it was being kind...

Anyway I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not. I get we’re not supposed to mix households, but it’s essentially like I’m in another flat as I’m keeping my distance and not using any shared spaces. I’m still paying all rent and utility bills so I feel like it’s a little unfair.

I’ve got a really busy week at work coming up and I know I’m really going to struggle getting anything done so I’d really like to go back, just don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not.

Pick one household and stay there.

Your putting other people at risk by mixing them.Its also unfair you're not giving your flatmate the option of feeling safe in her own home especially when she's ask you to give her that option.

I'm not a total stickler for the rules, but YABU here. I wouldn't like it if it was me purely because the inside of my house is (in my mind) my safe zone. I can keep it clean and I know who's germs are circulating - it doesn't keep me totally safe from covid (DH could get it from going to the shops and bring it home) but it helps me mentally. I think your flat mate probably feels the same. I wouldn't be surprised if she disinfects the shared front door/hallway like crazy once you leave too! Adding extra stress at this time isn't very friendly. You made your choice to live with bf during lockdown - yes his child is annoying... believe me, you won't be the only one dealing with this whilst trying to work as half the nation is in the same boat (albeit with their own kids!). Instead of using your flat as an escape, can't you and bf find a small nook/area in his home to make into an office space for you and agree some ground rules about trying to keep child away as much as possible during your working hours and balance that between you? This is essentially what everyone else is having to do.

You're allowed to go to work though. I'd bill it as that.

But it's not a workplace, someone lives there. It's a home and that's what she's paying to live in and is staying in to be safe as per the rules. The OP 'billing' it as her workplace doesn't mean it's suddenly fair game for coming and going. She chose to do lockdown at her DP's, so that's where she stays. The 3yo is not a new thing so she takes the rough with the smooth and sucks it up until the rules change.