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AIBU?

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Original poster

Employer making life VERY difficult.

753 replies

Titslikepicassos · 03/05/2020 13:58

Supposed to be returning from MAT leave in June, have childcare arranged and as a key worker they will still take my baby - excellent.

Had a team meeting with work this week to discuss going back and have been told that I have to relocate as my partner works on the same site as me - which has been known since I informed them we were in a relationship, however the policy changed in October (before I went on MAT leave). While we are on the same site, our jobs are separate and we are working in different buildings, have different managers and different hours. The different hours means I will need to do drop offs and pick ups to coincide with opening and closing hours.

So during the middle of a pandemic, with child care mostly closed I now have to find a new nursery, lose a significant term time deposit and start the settling in process all over again. Not only that, they have told me to find my own employment within the company - my head is exploding with all of this. AIBU to think this is an unnecessary ball ache!

I appreciate that this is a minor problem given the amount of people losing jobs!

OP posts:
RandomMess · 04/05/2020 15:40

Did he have HR in his meeting?

timeisnotaline · 04/05/2020 15:44

Good luck tits. Sourcing your own roles positions them to say oh but tits chose that one herself. Her original role is protected yes but not our problem she chose a different one! I hope the lawyer is good and hr have a few active brain cells.

Amammi · 04/05/2020 15:44

Good luck OP - go for it - you literally have nothing to lose

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Titslikepicassos · 04/05/2020 15:51

No HR not in the meeting! Speaks volumes I suppose, as every consultation I’ve even been in has been chaired by HR.

Thanks all Flowers

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PerplexingWords · 04/05/2020 16:32

Good luck OP. Flowers

terrigrey · 04/05/2020 18:37

Good luck op get the solicitor to do the work if you are worn out - that's their job.
It will be a lot more work to find a new job in this climate....so keep fighting.
I expect one letter from your solicitor to ask for clarification as to what the company is proposing will do the trick.

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Titslikepicassos · 04/05/2020 18:41

HR have been in contact and it sounds very much like they have no idea what’s going on.

First proper discussion with the solicitor tomorrow.

Really don’t want to leave my job as I love it but imagine the environment is going to be awful now

OP posts:
Gazelda · 04/05/2020 18:44

The atmosphere will be tricky for a short while, but will blow over once they've seen you're willing to stand up to them.
Let HR do their thing while you consult with solicitor. I suspect this will soon be nipped in the bud and you'll have a few weeks to de-stress before you return to your role.
Keep positive, you've done nothing wrong and rights seem to be in your side.

RandomMess · 04/05/2020 18:48

HR could end up bollocking your manage, such a shame...

Original poster
Titslikepicassos · 04/05/2020 18:52

If this is nipped in the bud by HR, I want a fucking apology from the pair of them - can I raise a grievance?

OP posts:
RandomMess · 04/05/2020 18:53

Worth exploring, especially if they may try and sideline you in the future.

CrimsonCattery · 04/05/2020 19:08

Fingers crossed for you!

DdraigGoch · 04/05/2020 19:31

Really don’t want to leave my job as I love it but imagine the environment is going to be awful now
Not if the guilty parties are forced to move on...

Nikhedonia · 04/05/2020 20:16

They are on some seriously dodgy ground here, OP. Hope HR are helpful Thanks

OutOntheTilez · 04/05/2020 23:45

Following . . .

I'm pulling for you, OP Flowers

timeisnotaline · 05/05/2020 03:18

I’d look up grounds for raising a grievance once you have the base situation under control (not the same as once it’s over, might help to raise a grievance while it’s going on). Being targeted and trying to push you out of your job without grounds and against policy while you are on mat leave certainly sounds like a grievance, you’re perfectly entitled to take that personally! Maybe you can get the asshole removed...

Harakeke · 05/05/2020 03:46

Good on you for pursuing this, OP.

Another one cheering you on. Flowers

Reginabambina · 05/05/2020 03:53

You need to contact a solicitor (don’t rely on your union, they’re useless when it come to providing legal advice/representation). Get a decent one too. Employment law attracts a lot of dimwits. Either go to a big firm or find someone who specialises in a more prestigious area of law and does employment cases on the side.

northernlittledonkey · 05/05/2020 03:56

Good luck for tomorrow!

Thepigeonsarecoming · 05/05/2020 04:00

Of course you can raise a grievance. You need to prove you’ve tried to resolve the issue informally first, which it sound like you have.

SailingAwayIntoSunrise · 05/05/2020 04:18

Good luck OP! What areseholes Angry

Flippinfurloughed · 05/05/2020 04:40

You had some great advice here, stand your ground - they have behaved dispicably!

AnotherBoredOne · 05/05/2020 04:49

You got this OP. Don't worry about the environment when you return it will be fine.
Good luck

Thepigeonsarecoming · 05/05/2020 04:55

OP read you employment contract and HR grievance procedures. From what you have stated you are being treated unfairly. Is there anything in your contract to say you shouldn’t have a relationship with a fellow employee? I would doubt that as that seems a human rights issue unless you are in the armed forces. It doe seem like they are trying to bullshit and scare you

Coyoacan · 05/05/2020 05:07

Just read this and wanted to add in that I wouldn't be too certain that the atmosphere will be awful. I worked in a place where they tried to fire someone illegally, he took them to court and won, and he was our hero as, thanks to him, our employer stopped riding roughshod over our rights.