To have expected sympathy

[Northernsoulgirl45]

So dh has a long term health condition. I have bent over backwards to help and support him. Always showing sympathy when in pain and fetching painkillers etc. Plus pretty much taking on the running of the home and childcare etc etc.
Anyway at abiut 6am this morning I woke with a most horrendous tummy bug or ibs maybe. Not a huge amout of tummy pain but severe diarorrea. I am still having to rush to the toilet and when I go the pain is enough to make me howl.
So at 10am I told dh who was still in bed that I wasn't well and explained situation No reaction. Now he is sat downstairs playing video games. The kids are doing their stuff and I am screaming in pain on the loo. I just feel like no ones cares about me so I have taken myself up to bed for a rest.
Well lets just say no ones is getting any more food cooked or prepared for them today by me and dh definitely isn't getting usual waitress service.
AIBU

Sorry to hear you are so unwell, you definitely deserve sympathy!

To some pps, howling with pain is pretty standard for IBS sufferers.

Should have said 'some'

Bloody hell op. I never howled or screamed through 3 labours, or when I broke my ribs which punctured my lung or when my ovary ruptured. If you’re experiencing level 10 pain, get to a and e!!

no matter how little or severe the OP's pain is or isn't, every now and then she needs help and sympathy. her husband can't be counted on despite years of her helping him.
i guess it doesn't matter if he's unwell or not, he is unreliable in a time of need. who wants or needs that for a partner and what mother would encourage her daughter to marry someone like this? personally as a mom i would even consider this emotionally abusive and suggest my daughter leave.

I probably used wrong words. The pain I experienced was enough for me to momentarily scream/ howl as stong urine hits traumatised skin due to a combination of piles , frequent bowl movements and a skin condition which requires treatment with a stong steroid. The stomach spasms were also uncomfortable of course but not horrendous.
I do get flare up every few months but today was particularly bad.
It is a difficult situation which does definitely need a discussion/ action.

OP,
Don't clean up.
Leave it.
Stay in bed.
Tomorrow too.
Tell him, dont ask him, that you expect that the place is in good shape.

Honestly, conserve your energy get well and get rid of him.

I'd be damn if I'd give a hoot about some bloody vows, to a lazy waster.

Marriage is ONLY a marriage when support and kindness runs both ways.

When it doesn't, all bets are off.

"Washing up still there though."
I second billy1996 that you leave it and don't clean up - if he can play video games, he can put on a pair of marigolds. Stay in bed and recover. And when you've recovered,it's time to TALK.

Just remember next time he's ill ignore him. Sit on the sofa and watch telly. Cook but don't wash up. Offer no sympathy, food or medicine make him do it himself.
Glad you are feeling better today