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To not want to do anymore zoom calls

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littleblackdress04 · 02/05/2020 20:28

I think I am becoming more antisocial as this lockdown is going on! I don’t want to take part in zoom parties or quizzes or anything! I have done a few but find the whole thing weird- aibu?

I feel like a party pooper but I don’t enjoy it at all- I have had a few phone calls etc old school!

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Mucklowe · 02/05/2020 20:37

I have no idea why everyone is suddenly doing quizzes. WTF.

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littleblackdress04 · 02/05/2020 20:39

I just can’t see the appeal of any of it to be honest- I get why we all want to see people’s faces as I am missing seeing people but the online thing feels forced and awkward

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Worriedmum54321 · 02/05/2020 20:44

Yanbu I find it just makes me feel worse than not seeing people at all!

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 02/05/2020 20:46

I hear you ! Its driving me insane. All of a sudden, everybody is using zoom, houseparty etc. For the love of God, fuck off ! Grin

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littleblackdress04 · 02/05/2020 20:48

I know someone who went to a zoom rave 😂

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TeaAddict235 · 02/05/2020 20:49

I'm zoomed out.

I cannot Zoom anymore.

Death to zoom

Lougle · 02/05/2020 20:50

I think it's showing the introverts among us. We have church Zoom and the bit at the beginning, when everyone is logging on and saying hi is like torture!

Doihavetogotoworkdotcom1 · 02/05/2020 20:50

I hate zoom. We have to use it for meetings at work. I never know when to talk and then I get distracted by seeing myself on the screen!

babyinthacorner · 02/05/2020 20:51

YES! I was doing quite a few zoom calls with friends at the start but far less now. It just feels a bit intrusive. And I’ve avoided every single group Zoom call with one particular set of friends because one of them is so attention seeking that I can’t trust my face not to show exactly what I think. My bullshit tolerance level is extremely low right now!!!

PositiveVibez · 02/05/2020 20:52

Once a week we have a family zoom quiz. I love it.

I do not do zoom any other time at all.

Microsoft teams enforced meeting once a week which makes me want to cry.

FTMF30 · 02/05/2020 20:52

@Lougle 😂😂 I hate the start of Zoom mertings too. Mega akward when you and one other person are the first two in and you have to make small talk.

mumcop · 02/05/2020 20:53

Oh I'm with you! Cba at all!

FTMF30 · 02/05/2020 20:53

My manager insists on a MS team meeting EVERYDAY just for agroup catch up. It drains the life out of me.

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littleblackdress04 · 02/05/2020 20:53

@TeaAddict235 Yes! Death to zoom and Microsoft teams and messenger video and house party 🤪 Have I missed any as I have tried every single one!!!

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littleblackdress04 · 02/05/2020 20:54

Also I think it’s so much more tiring than actually seeing people in real life

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googlepoodle · 02/05/2020 20:57

Just embrace the awkwardness and don’t overthink it. It’s simply a way to touch base with people and quizzes are a way to maintain interaction. I don’t do more than 2 a week for social things but I like it. Normally have a drink and it’s a new way to interact with friends.

ChicChicChicChiclana · 02/05/2020 20:57

I've only zoomed 3 times and I feel relieved about that.

Luckily I don't have to do it for work.

And my family are happy with just ye olde fashyonned telephone call without pictures.

Thank God!

NothingIsWrong · 02/05/2020 20:58

I spend several hours on Teams every day. It's exhausting

unmumsymumof2 · 02/05/2020 20:59

I hate them. I've done two because I had too, boring and just not into them at all

Hassled · 02/05/2020 21:00

I'm quite enjoying them - just seeing people's faces is nice. Except there's no good excuse to leave them - it's not like you can pretend you have somewhere else to be.

MyBlueMoonbeam · 02/05/2020 21:00

Am literally doing anything to avoid a Zoom call you're def NBU 💐

thepeopleversuswork · 02/05/2020 21:04

I get this. It is utterly exhausting. I'm biting the bullet and doing it because I'm a sociable person and its the only way to keep in touch with people at the moment. But I do find it very draining.

Small groups up to 5 or 6 people I know quite well I can deal with, but a lot of these big pub quizzes etc I find pretty stressful. It's this weird pressure to be extrovert and your "best self" but without any of the things that make actual socialising easier.

CountFosco · 02/05/2020 21:12

We used zoom at work before lockdown but that's for international meetings where we screen share so noone is looking at anyone's face. That is exhausting enough. We are told to use video calls for informal chats but most of us don't even like doing that, I don't think it's an extrovert/introvert thing, I think it's a multi participant video calls are shite thing.

We talk to MIL every day and that is fine but it's just her and DH most of the time with the rest of our household popping in and out as they want. Even DS (7 and zoom phobic) will talk briefly to his Granny on zoom. If we are lucky he stands behind the computer for all multi person zooms, usually he hides in another room.

orangejuicer · 02/05/2020 21:13

I have to do them for work and it's tiresome.

Macncheeseballs · 02/05/2020 21:13

Some people feel the same about pubs. Horses for courses