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To not want to do anymore zoom calls

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littleblackdress04 · 02/05/2020 20:28

I think I am becoming more antisocial as this lockdown is going on! I don’t want to take part in zoom parties or quizzes or anything! I have done a few but find the whole thing weird- aibu?

I feel like a party pooper but I don’t enjoy it at all- I have had a few phone calls etc old school!

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lovinglavidaloca · 02/05/2020 21:14

Yep I’ve refused to do them with my family. We wouldn’t have seen each other on a random Saturday night anyway so why the fuck do I need to start beaming my face into their living room because we’re on lockdown?!

saints37 · 02/05/2020 21:16

I can understand where the OP is coming from. Thankfully for me it's just work calls.

I've never been keen on work 'fun' things. I have a very good group of people I work with, who take pride in their job and never drop any others in the team in it, so to speak. They are work colleagues not friends and I don't expect them to have the same wishes when it comes to socialising.

Hadjab · 02/05/2020 21:16

Just finished a zoom virtual drinks party - we’ll pissed 😂

edwinbear · 02/05/2020 21:17

One of the school mums suggested a whole year Zoom party. She got not one single reply.

I pretend the kids need the iPads for school work when I’m asked to join a work Zoom call (we’re not allowed to have Zoom on our laptops as a compliance thing), so I can dial in on audio only, works a treat.

inwood · 02/05/2020 21:22

I find it very draining, I don't like quizzes at the best of times never mind now on a bloody video call. I hate FaceTime anyway for the same reasons, text is great if. It a voice cal is just fine.

inwood · 02/05/2020 21:23

@edwinbear the idea of the noise from a whole year group shrieking over each other makes me shudder!

EatShitBoswell · 02/05/2020 21:29

Except there's no good excuse to leave them - it's not like you can pretend you have somewhere else to be.

Just say you're desperate for a poo 😉

amber763 · 02/05/2020 21:31

You couldn't pay me enough to start doing bloody zoom quizzes. No you are def not being unreasonable

Macncheeseballs · 02/05/2020 21:33

Hadjab - did y'all have a pee?

ilovesooty · 02/05/2020 21:36

I use Zoom for work, for regular training, for my night school class and for a weekly catch up with a small group of friends. Of course I'd rather do these things face to face but it isn't currently possible. I don't see why people are so negative about it for work but no one's compelled to socialise via Zoom if they don't want to.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 02/05/2020 21:36

Haven't done any.

I'm still working full time and more which is a great excuse. I am naturally introvert and anti social and the concept of zoom horrifies me somewhat. I was conveniently working for the first family quiz and am likely to be for the second....

Add to that I am struggling with tiredness and general grumpiness of work stress and I just am not feeling the love for a family quiz or the like. I seem to be the only member of my extended family working outside the home during this and I don't think any of them get how tough it is for me so they can all bugger off😳

user1487194234 · 02/05/2020 21:39

I am in 6 Zoom groups,chat once a week on each
Not as good as meeting for lunch/drinks but much better than nothing
But if you don't want to do it, then don't

HaveAtEm · 02/05/2020 21:44

Im happy to say, I've declined every single one 😂👍 It's my idea of hell to be honest...I'd rather shoot off my own foot than do endless, mindless video group chats! So I ignore the invites and carry on reading my books 📚

HaveAtEm · 02/05/2020 21:45

(As a disclaimer...I spend hours a day online teaching 6 and 7 year olds...so I feel fully justified ignoring people after 4pm 😰😱)

Lougle · 02/05/2020 21:45

DD1 has SN and she has not embraced Zoom at all. She point blank refuses to join Zoom meet ups. The irony is that for years she has assured us that when she gets older she wants to be a Youtuber Grin

chuggabo · 02/05/2020 21:46

I haven't been asked to do a single one. I get they might be annoying to do, but not as painful as never being missed outside of my own home. I'm sure someone is going to tell me to invite people instead but I have no idea how. I've been in my shell so long i cant see a way out.

Isleepinahedgefund · 02/05/2020 21:50

I’m a huge extrovert and I have developed video call hatred.

For the first couple of weeks of You Must Work At Home I literally spent the whole of every working day on bloody Microsoft teams calls. I didn’t get a single thing done! It’s all calmed down now thankfully. But some days I do log out of Teams so people can’t disturb me....

The last thing I want to do in my own time is video call anyone. I wouldn’t have done before, I don’t suddenly want to now. During lockdown my parents have become uncontrollably prolific users of FaceTime - I really wish I’d never shown them how it works or given them my old iPad. (A long time before lockdown but hindsight is a marvellous thing). Normal phone calls just won’t do anymore apparently.

I’d rather shoot myself than participate in a Zoom quiz.

Lougle · 02/05/2020 21:58

@chuggabo is it that you don't have anyone to invite, or you don't know how technically? We've had people joining our church Zoom just for a bit of 'human contact' - I'm sure you'd be welcomed at any of those sorts of community events. If it's technical help you need, tell us what you're struggling with.

Pinklynx · 02/05/2020 22:00

Chuggabo Flowers that must be tough. If it helps I think there are some people who are very popular and everyone tries to be in touch with them and then everyone else, who has to make the first move to contact others. Funnily enough I think people have been less sociable if anything since lockdown, possibly because they're feeling a bit down.

If you feel isolated could you start with small steps. E.g. join a local next door group and chat on there. Maybe get friends or acquaintances together on a WhatsApp group. Even if you're just sending funny videos or supportive messages to each other it's some kind of communication.

Burntmybiscuits · 02/05/2020 22:02

I spent 10.5 hours on Zoom/Facetime for my job on Friday. Then friends insist that every catch up suddenly has to be on video! I'm slowly losing the will to live.

Leflic · 02/05/2020 22:03

I think Zoom etc looks incredibly dated already.

People in 10 years time are going to laugh their heads off that everyone was using this.

LyndaSnellsSniff · 02/05/2020 22:09

It’s the people who screenshot the Zoom gallery view and post it on Facebook that wind me up.

It’s like “oooo! Look at me having a Zoom quiz with ma posse! And you weren’t invited LOSER!”

Or maybe that’s just me....🙄

Notcoolmum · 02/05/2020 22:16

I'm grateful I have friends who want to
Zoom chat with me. I'm a single parent of teens. And I miss my friends and family. And even my work colleagues!!

GabsAlot · 02/05/2020 22:20

i done one video chat with my niece and nephew thats enough

MurrayTheMonk · 02/05/2020 22:20

I've done exactly three zoom calls with friends in 6 weeks. Tbh I've nowt interesting to say now-all I've done is work and be at home...not much to talk about really is there 🤷🏽‍♀️