Foodbank usage

[Mrskeats]

Hard hat on.
First of all I regularly give to food banks; especially now when there is so much need.
Aibu to think that if you have about £2500 per month and very few bills for this one adult and one child you don't need to be using one? House bought outright also.
This is someone that know well. Very surprised they feel entitled to use them.

Also op there it's some people on here who if disagree with you can't actually be polite about it
But if someone doesn't need a food bank yes it is wrong using it as someone who might really be desperate could end up going without or getting less
And as others have said not all require referrals

Mental health issues I suspect play a part.

I have a good job and my husband is vp of a big company.

I know you don't like reading the news, Meghan, but your husband actually resigned some time ago.🙄

Is it an official food bank? Our local church is running a food bank of sorts to help out people who've fallen on hard times because of the coronavirus, and they don't ask for referrals.

How the hell would it be outting to say how you know??

Our community has set up a local foodbank and donated thousands to help locals out who are struggling due to corona. Don't need a referral just to ask. I'd have to be pretty desperate to accept the neighbours charity tbh. If you do need to do it fair enough it's taking advantage if you don't.

There are community organisations who (bless them) are determined to find needy people to give to.

I whinged somewhat thoughtlessly on a local social media page about some shortages of stuff locally, and within 30 minutes 3 individuals (each of behalf of a different local Christian organisation) had contacted me and were pressing me to accept food parcels etc at no cost, with no question of our income or circumstances. DH and I have an income over 200k pa. There are people in my area who are genuinely desperate and they are handing it out to anyone.

You are not wrong OP and it's a complete myth that food banks only act on referral. They officially do, the reality is they will try to help any one who turns up.

I would rather someone who didn't deserve it was able to use a food bank, than someone who needed it couldn't.

Gatekeeping is important, but not at the expense of anyone going hungry.

That is lovely that so many people were so willing to help you NoIDontWatchLoveIsland

It keeps my faith in humanity

There's all sorts of bizarre aspects to anything benevolent .My mother is in her 80's with no private pension so relies on state pension. I was shocked when she told me that her and her friends from a luncheon club were being asked to regularly bring items for a food bank and that she was currently purchasing one item per week so that she could put together toiletry bags for a local shelter. They currently knit all the hats for the local maternity hospital at their own cost.
I'd hate to think that the likes of her is providing food to someone who can afford it but you have to rely on people having a conscience.

Exactly @Voice0fReason

Maybe if you feel so inclined to nose so much on other peoples lifes maybe donate some food to them yourselves. Poor family, you don't know what goes on behind closed doors, people are very private about debts and I'm sure no one would put themselves through going to a food bank unless absolutely necessary!!!

Mental health issues I suspect play a part

You didn't think to lead with this?

Instead you just wanted to have a bitch about it and then throw a possible reason in?

I'm questioning WHO has the 'issue' here.

I loathe these posts. Did you think for even a second before you posted?

This kind of post actively damages food banks. It contributes further to the untrue but beloved by fuckwits narrative that food banks aren’t being used by the ‘deserving poor’. You set out to harm a charitable endeavor, to further encourage people who may already be hesitating to donate, just so you can enjoy a moment of sanctimonious self-indulgent outrage.

Was it worth it?

Hear hear Trixie, nicely put, have insomnia and just read whole thread 🙄 OP seemed to be giving very odd cagey answers too. . . Please don’t stop giving to food banks because of random most likely not truthful posts like this

My guess is that your VP husband has an ex wife and child/children?

In my area the Trussell Trust foodbank requires a referral from CAB, church or school. There are criteria and usage is tracked. They provide 3 days of non-perishables.

Also in my area one of the churches run a community fridge where businesses/people put food to be re-used before it goes off. Anyone can use that, no limits or checks. So in our area if OPs neighbour has roasting chickens they would be from that.

Having used foodbanks I can tell you that you wouldn't unless you HAD to

Maybe you don't know as much as you think you do about them. Unless you have access to their bank accounts ?

When you've got multi millionaires like RB and VB using government money to fund their staff, I think it shows how entitled many people are (yes I knows she's backtracked after the negative press).
I totally believe someone could be doing this and feeling justified Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.

This kind of post actively damages food banks. It contributes further to the untrue but beloved by fuckwits narrative that food banks aren’t being used by the ‘deserving poor’. You set out to harm a charitable endeavor, to further encourage people who may already be hesitating to donate, just so you can enjoy a moment of sanctimonious self-indulgent outrage

Very well put.

The only people damaging food banks is those misusing them.

The VB example is a good one.
Some people feel entitled in this way. She's only backtracked because of all the negative press.

so again OP @Mrskeats - how is it outing to say how you know she has 2500 coming in every month?

My guess is that your VP husband has an ex wife and child/children?

Yeah Im guessing this is the reason for the thread