Has anyone allowed their parents to meet their newborn during the pandemic?

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Just curious to see answers. My baby is three weeks and hasn’t met anyone obviously, and we plan to do this until guidance changes. I’m just wondering if anyone has had anyone meet their baby from outside of the household. Just interested, no judgement!

@IvinghoeBeacon we will have the same, hope you get support soon. I'm so flipping nervous!!

@stormy11 maybe start dropping hints sooner rather than later. All grandparents here already know that they will be expected to self isolate for 2 weeks if they want to cuddle baby as we've discussed the fact we are going to do it for them. We've also been clear aunts/uncles ETC won't be visiting. Obviously we will stick to restrictions in the first place so the above is only if it is allowed

@Hockeyboysmum that sounds so scary, I'm sorry. Thinking of you

@Bubblesbubblesmybubbles

That is a fair point. I think I need to discuss it with DH. We have mentioned it briefly but we were going to wait to see what will be announced this week before deciding anything. My dad is over 70 and he just will not accept any help lol as much as I try. 🤦‍♀️

I have a 1 month old, my mum has seen him from a distance, when she's dropped some stuff off for my eldest and his school work, and my sister lives around the corner and we've done a couple of daily walks down that way, so she's seen him from a distance too, everyone else has see him over video chats. But tbh my partner is a key worker, and he's more likely to get it from him than anyone else, my partner gets washed and changed as soon as he gets home to try and stop any contamination.

As a starting point, visits now are against the law so shouldn’t be happening regardless of your view of the risks.

Once restrictions are relaxed it’s up to you.
I’m due later in the year and fully prepared that my beloved mother might not meet the baby for some time, because she is in a vulnerable group and I’d rather she stayed alive to see the baby when it’s older than ran the risk of contracting the virus and dying to get a glimpse of a newborn.

@stormy11 sooner you discuss it the easier it will be I think

@HarrietM87 we are all (i assume) talking from when restrictions are reduced somewhat. I am at least! The other thing I consider is what if something else happens in the mean time, say you restrict access then; heaven forbid theres a car accident. Then they never meet for nothing. Life is unfortunately full of calculated risks and sadly there is no right answer in this case .

I wont judge anyone who says no to seeing grandparents long term if thats what they feel is best. I equally will see our family IF its allowed (and they want to) and IF I can keep risks low and wont judge anyone who does the same.

Lost a number of friends out of the blue at young ages to cancer/car accidents/brain hemorrhages so i think thats skewed my perspective on life somewhat. I don't assume anyone who I care about will be here in 6 months regardless of age or Covid

@Bubblesbubblesmybubbles I don’t think everyone on this thread was talking about only when the restrictions are relaxed.

I also think there will be exceptions, like when someone is needed to care for an older child when you have the baby. And I agree that once restrictions are lifted it’s a personal choice (as I said).

My mother lives in another country so for her seeing the baby means she or I have to get on a flight and spend hours surrounded by other people in close confines. It’s not worth the risk to me. If she lived closer, or was younger and not vulnerable (like my PILs) I’d make a different decision.

There is a case near me where isolated people have caught the virus...so I really wouldnt take that risk

“ There is a case near me where isolated people have caught the virus...so I really wouldnt take that risk”

Rather suggests that self isolating is pointless then if the aim is not to get the virus at all

@HarrietM87 I'd assumed they were but you are probably right sounds a tough time for you, I hope things improve soon so your mum can meet her grandchild

@Scruffyoak no plan is ever flawless but I can't imagine coping long term (say 4months plus) with toddler, baby and no support once paternity is over. Alongside no classes/parks/National Trust places to run around for the toddler.

Its a royally rubbish time to be having a baby, especially if its not your first (I'd have coped fine with DC1 actually and probably enjoyed avoiding the onslaught of visitors!)

My nephew is 4 days old, I live A 4 min walk from my sister , I will be seeing him from the garden from a 2m distance, feel this is safer than in a busy park which allowed.
I guess it’s more likely I would get covid from them than the other way round as I’ve not been anywhere inside for 12 weeks?!

I'm due in August and will be allowing parents to visit as long as they isolate for two weeks first... Husband is shielding so we need to be careful, I'm planning a home birth & really hoping that I don't have to go to hospital to minimise infection risk the other way. One of my parents is also vulnerable so I'll put off seeing them until we have the chance to self-isolate properly on both sides.