Bedding, duvet and pillows

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Got a new bed today and badly need new pillows etc. DH says we should spend more money on getting a more expensive duvet and bedding etc, me on the other hand thinks as I replace duvet and pillows every few months it would be unreasonable to spend a lot of money. Aibu? And any recommendations of where I can get reasonably priced Egyptian cotton bedding? Pillows and a duvet

I do the same as you, replace the pillows and quilt probably every 4 months

This might be the bizarrest thing I've read on MN and there's some competition.

DH suffers from bad nose bleeds

Not normal - has he seen GP?
Get pillow protectors.

Odd post. Look at the reviews, not mumsnet.

I’m obviously disgusting as I’ve never washed my duvet & it’s years old! I change my sheets weekly or more though.

I bought 100% Hungarian goose down super king duvets one for the summer and one for the winter and four goose down pillows, cost me a lot of money, I have had them for ten years, I get them washed Twice a year at the launderette.
I use pillow protectors on the pillows, and change the bedding every week.
One of the reasons that people like going to posh hotels is because of the nice bedding.
Buy the best you can afford. Go for quality, it really helps for a good nights sleep

Sainsbury's do good Egyptian cotton. Why don't you get a pillow protector rather than a new pillow every time. It seems very wasteful.

Those of you who dry clean your pillows and duvets - this isn't advised, since the thick and bulky nature of pillows and duvets makes it difficult to fully remove the solvents used in dry cleaning. As your head is in close contact with the pillow/duvet, you inhale the solvents all night.

However, feather/down pillows and duvets wash beautifully in a large domestic washing machine (or a laundrette washing machine if duvet is very large). If you wash them first thing on a warm, sunny day and then line dry them, they are usually dry by the evening. Pillows may need finishing off in the tumble dryer.

I bought cheap duvets for my kids beds a few years back and almost instantly regretted it as they soon went very flat and unduvet like. I replaced them with feather duvets and used the now flat synthetics as (very thick) batting in quilts so they still get used.

Feather pillows get thrown in the washing machine - in summer when it's easier to dry them.

I do the same as you, replace the pillows and quilt probably every 4 months

But, the question everyone wants to know, is why ?

Another one gobsmacked at this! I've never replaced a duvet, only bought one when we got another bed!
I wash them every year (ish) though - singles will fit in the washing machine but the king size ones have to go to the launderette for the extra big machine.

John Lewis or The White Company

OP are you buying new duvets and throwing away old seasonal duvets each year? Or are you rotating between the summer and winter ones from storage? Buying new ones every year is extremely wasteful.

Invest in good goose feather pillows and a few waterproof covers.
And get DH seen by the GP for his frequent nosebleeds.

Please think of the birds when choosing duvets. Birds get plucked alive it is very cruel 😪

I've had my duvet and pillows for 10 years. They were expensive ones from John Lewis and can be washed and tumble dried. Worth every penny in the long run.

I wash my duvet and pillows once a month (DP can get quite sweaty, and we have the cat and dog in the bed with us )

We’ve just treated ourselves to a lovely new set of everything though. New mattress (our backs were breaking on our old one, which has now been inflicted on unsuspecting guests in the spare room ), duvet, pillows, mattress protector. The old (still not very old) set has gone on the spare bed, and the awful ancient bedding that was on the spare bed has gone to a local animal sanctuary.

I only use hollowfibre duvets now (the ones stitched into pleats/columns) as I find they hold their shape nicely. I hate feather/down.

@PhoenixIsFlying before you posted I decided to google are feather duvets cruel, as I know they're comfy but was wondering how they are made. Wish I hadn't googled now and will stick to synthetic.

leolion81 Oh gosh I know really cruel 😪 . My mum had given me feather duvets but when I googled it I had to throw them away.

@LaurieFairyCake
I'd love to know what brand your pillows are, because although I don't change mine often, they always go flat, except the last ones have been better, I think they are silentnight 'hotel'. I don't suppose yours are still available? Tia.

My mum had given me feather duvets but when I googled it I had to throw them away.

Oh that REALLY made a lot of sense.

Backforgood - because they end up with sweat, urine, blood, bodily fluids, vomit, dead dust mites and their faeces soaking in and building up inside of them. Pillows/duvets get heavier with the amount of debris they harbour and they do not wash well enough to reuse.

TheSandman I don’t understand what didn’t make sense?
In reply to a previous poster that on finding out how cruel it was when they live pluck birds for duvets I got rid of my feather duvets. I didn’t actually throw them away I gave them to the dog rescue we adopted our dog from.

TheSandman I don’t understand what didn’t make sense?
In reply to a previous poster that on finding out how cruel it was when they live pluck birds for duvets I got rid of my feather duvets. I didn’t actually throw them away I gave them to the dog rescue we adopted our dog from.

Throwing them 'away', which is what you said you had done, made no sense. Giving them to someone else to use does.

Personally I would have used them but, now I know about this - which I didn't before this thread, I doubt if I will ever buy feather downies again.

I am not going to get rid of the ones I have. How does that help anyone/thing? Not buying in the future will make a difference. Throwing away ones already purchased doesn't stick the feathers back into the birds, or educate anyone involved in the practice, or have any financial effect on anyone in the trade from producer to end retailer.

By saying I get a new duvet every few months I just meant I switch from summer to winter duvet, so in 6 months or so I will buy a winter duvet and put the summer one in the cupboard. Sorry I should have been more clear in my op

And in the summer you take the summer duvet out of the cupboard, wash the winter duvet and put that in the cupboard for next season? So it is worth spending money on them, because you'll be keeping them for years, surely?

You need several things:

Washable pillow protectors for DH and medical advice about the nose bleeds.

Seasonal appropriate duvets of quality appropriate to your budget, some shopping around etc should allow you to get the best combination of quality and price.

Somewhat randomly, I found the Silentnight hotel pillows mentioned above for £9 a pair in a local Poundstretcher when I was looking to see if they had the things I couldn't do without when I CBA joining the massive queue for the Tesco on the same retail park.

If you get synthetic bedding, a washing machine with a big drum then you can wash your duvet any time you like for minimal cost, so you aren't faced with paying laundrette prices so you replace rather than wash and reuse.

I realise if you don't already have said washing machine, this will have to wait until you need to buy a washing machine, but being able to wash a king size duvet at home any time you like is not quite life changing, but a massive convenience and money saver.

So wasteful to change them every few months, never heard of anyone doing this before. We’ve had ours for donkeys years.