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Original poster

To completely change my 11 year olds birthday?

44 replies

NotJustStories · 01/05/2020 15:47

Her birthday is Christmas eve.

I have another child's birthday at the beginning of December and 2 more kids (so 4 to buy for at Christmas)

She has just asked me if she can have her birthday on July 24th, so it will be sunny and it will be her own day and can enjoy it.

She said she would like all her presents in July, but still have hugs and a small cake in December.

It works out better for me financially and it's what she has asked for..

But is it weird?

AIBU to allow her to celebrate in July instead?

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ohtheholidays · 01/05/2020 15:50

Bless her I think that's a lovely idea,if it was one of my DC and they'd asked me then I would go for it.

It sounds like not only will it be lovely for your DD but it will make December alot easier for you so a win win.

bettybyebye · 01/05/2020 15:50

How old is she? Guessing not too young if she has asked for this herself. I would let her to be honest - one of my dcs has a birthday end of November and the other end of July and the July one always has so many more options of ways to celebrate etc (obviously we make the November one as exciting as we can too!)

inwood · 01/05/2020 15:50

I have a nephew which a 25th December birthday who does this and a friend with a 26th Dec birthday who does this. Not unusual at all. I'd do it a bit earlier though, my kids are August and hate that their birthday is in the summer hols!

Rosieredapples · 01/05/2020 15:51

If it's what she has requested and she truly understands that the fuss, gifts party etc will all be on July 24th then give it a go, call it her half birthday maybe and let her try it out, I don't think it could do any harm.
Is it worth perhaps preparing family em members that might buy for her Grandparents etc that she wants to celebrate her birthday in July and they could decide to do gifts in July or Xmas.

EmeraldShamrock · 01/05/2020 15:53

I like her thinking. Why not? I think it is a great idea as long as it is what she wants.
My DD hates her February birthday it is always freezing.

RaininSummer · 01/05/2020 15:58

Why not? The Queen has two.

Original poster
NotJustStories · 01/05/2020 15:59

Betty, she's 11. It's in the title.

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NoMorePoliticsPlease · 01/05/2020 16:01

Plenrty of people celebrate their birthday on another date

Holothane · 01/05/2020 16:02

I’m born on 24th of July and hated it, we always seemed on holiday, or coming back ect so got very little for birthdays, but I also thank god not a Christmas baby two months either way, as my Christmas and birthday would have been oh it’s Christmas soon or it’s Christmas Day you can have both together. As an adult I treat myself to something I wouldn’t normally but a lovely idea for your daughter.

tempnamechange98765 · 01/05/2020 16:03

No do it! I made a thread on here about my DS' birthday (Boxing Day) and was completely shut down haha. He is only 4 though so not old enough to choose, although when talking about a toy and I mentioned asking for it for Christmas he said "it's too far away!". So when he's older I'm definitely going to give the option of presents in June.

AJPTaylor · 01/05/2020 16:03

June would be better, more kids around for parties but it seems very sensible!

MissSueFlay · 01/05/2020 16:05

I worked with someone once who had a Jan 1 birthday. She celebrated it on June 1 instead, in fact if you ask her when her birthday is she would tell you June 1. It's like the Jan 1 one is for legal purposes only!

Crunchymum · 01/05/2020 16:07

June makes more sense as it's actually 6 months? July is random!

Original poster
NotJustStories · 01/05/2020 16:07

I have a June birthday so I thought July would be better.

Plus with all this going on its doubtful her friends will be able to come anyways

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Crunchymum · 01/05/2020 16:08

So it isn't her idea at all if you are telling her July is better???

ElBandito · 01/05/2020 16:08

I have an end of July birthday and used to find a lot of friends were on holiday so I got used to small parties. It also used to rain torrentially every birthday. I would suggest June.

DennisTMenace · 01/05/2020 16:09

Absolutely let her pick a date. I had a Christmas baby and it means they get everything at once. Check it is really that date that she wants though. I have a 28th July friend who hated it growing up as no one could celebrate with school finishing and friends off to holidays, relatives etc.

EveryLifeHasASoundtrack · 01/05/2020 16:10

It’s a bit unusual but if it’s what she wants and everyone is happy then give it a try. I know I’d end up just buying presents in December for her birthday as well though 😬

GloryHunter · 01/05/2020 16:10

I think that's a good idea! My DD is a Christmas Day baby and a friend is Christmas Eve but celebrates on 1st July. I asked DD if she minds having a birthday on Christmas Day and she loves it as she (usually) sees all the family. A summer birthday is a lovely idea though, go for it

Qgardens · 01/05/2020 16:10

Yep. Go for it.

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NotJustStories · 01/05/2020 16:10

Err. Yes it is her idea.

She came to me today and said mum can I have my birthday in Summer this year?

I said yes. And we decided that July would be best as her sisters birthday is June 21st.

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LellyMcKelly · 01/05/2020 16:10

Totally do it! My DD hates her birthday in January but my DS thinks his birthday is perfect at the end of June.

Ilovetea09 · 01/05/2020 16:12

I cant see a problem with it. My kids are both in the summer. It breaks the Year in half lovely and only have to wait 6 months between Christmasses and birthdays

yoohooitsme · 01/05/2020 16:12

My kids have a half birthday every year celebrated with cake only and actual birthday on the correct date

Think it’s fine to do the other way around in fact makes a lot of sense!

Leaannb · 01/05/2020 16:14

Having Christmas birthdays at a different time is very common in the States

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