To completely change my 11 year olds birthday?

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Her birthday is Christmas eve.

I have another child's birthday at the beginning of December and 2 more kids (so 4 to buy for at Christmas)

She has just asked me if she can have her birthday on July 24th, so it will be sunny and it will be her own day and can enjoy it.

She said she would like all her presents in July, but still have hugs and a small cake in December.

It works out better for me financially and it's what she has asked for..

But is it weird?

AIBU to allow her to celebrate in July instead?

I was going to suggest June 24th until I saw her sisters birthday.
The only thing I'd think about is that July 24th is the start of the summer holidays and she may have difficulty getting all her friends together.

I think it's a good idea. We're planning to do it almost the other way round. My daughter was hoping to have a disco party at the end of this month. I don't think it's going to happen with all the restrictions so we're hoping to postpone it to November.

So am I right in thinking that this arrangement is having her birthday 6 months early?

I’d put money on come December 24th she’ll want to revert.

Excellent plan. But I agree she might want to change back in December!

So she’s not changing her birthday, just her party date. Sounds fine to me.

I think that's a very good idea, especially as it was hers. with candles for 24th July!

My birthday is in July, but I always used to have a 'half-birthday' in January for fun! I think it's a great idea.

Lol, she's having you right off. I like it

She knows social distancing won't let her summer party go ahead but you'll give her the presents to soften the blow anyway.

She gets fuss in July then reverts in December and you'll give in.

She's a genius

Will she be okay with this in December when she doesn't get any presents or a party?

I know a woman who decide to do this from her teens- means she was always fully celebrated

I suspect it won't work in the way she wants. Her friends will all be on their summer holidays, family may be away or at work, and this year especially with the current situation it might not be the amazing event she has built up in her mind. Also come December 24th I think she might find it difficult that no one is actually acknowledging it's her birthday, no presents, cards or special treats, it will just be Christmas Eve.

I wouldn’t see a problem with it though if it were me I’d choose to celebrate in September when all her friends would be back from holidays and available for a party, day out or whatever.

She may well feel a bit disappointed on Christmas Eve but she’s definitely old enough to understand that she’s made a choice which means her real birthday will be very low key.

I personally find it increadibly wierd, a birthday marks a certain specific day it doesnt/cant just move.

sometime moving it by a week or so has to happen (and is still close enough to be a 'birthday' celebration) but by all definition its really not a 'birthday party' if its 6 months early/late its just a random summer party.

I get that its awkward, my DS birthday falls in the xmas to new year trap too and in an ideal world a mid year party would be easier but thats just simply not when he was born.

Of course! She can always change it back if she wants to

I would let her have a summer celebration, I always feel sorry for people whose birthdays are close to Christmas as they do miss out on parties and presents.

I have two December children. I wish I’d done this from the very beginning.

Hell yes, go for it. Summer birthdays are much better for kids.

We always did that with my youngest . He enjoyed having his summer birthday ...party and presents ....and it worked brilliantly.

Why cant she just have a summer party anyway. Doesnt have to be birthday. We have parties in the summer every year for the children xx