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WIBU to go and get nappies?

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StudentMummy20 · 30/04/2020 23:27

I had ran out this morning mum went to get some the other day but her size was out of stock, couldn't wait for mum to finish work at 9.30pm. What was I supposed to do? I have had some quite nasty messages from a friend about putting my 20month old daughter at risk.

I really am feeling like shit right now Sad

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StudentMummy20 · 01/05/2020 07:58

@Stinkyjellycat Wow! A 3 year old in size 3 Shock. I don't think she'll still be in size 3 then, are pull ups big?

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Lavenderpurple · 01/05/2020 07:59

She sounds unhinged. What a horrible person.

TreeTopTim · 01/05/2020 08:01

Ignore her. Don't let her get to you.

I take my young baby shopping because it is the only option.

Completely off topic but your dd must be teeny tiny to still be in size 3 nappies. My baby is in size 3s and is a little underweight.

walkingchuckydoll · 01/05/2020 08:06

Can anyone guess that she's not a mum?

I guessed that she was a bitch who knows everything best more than that. Plenty of people who don't have children understand that nappies are pretty essential.

nauseaandnipples · 01/05/2020 08:07

I find pull ups are bigger than normal nappies because their sides are so stretchy.

Anyway your ex friend is a complete cow and sounds a bit unhinged. She's no loss.

nauseaandnipples · 01/05/2020 08:08

I guessed that she was a bitch who knows everything best more than that. Plenty of people who don't have children understand that nappies are pretty essential.

Of course most non parents understand nappies are essential but would any parent think it was ok to have none at home?

walkingchuckydoll · 01/05/2020 08:12

Some kids really have slim hips. They come in all kinds of sizes. I have a friend whose 2 year younger son always needed bigger clothes than the older son. One is really slim and straight as a rake, the other is wide, round and (cutely) overweight. The boys play football and trampoline all day and eat healthily, but one takes after mums side of the family and the other after dads.

Phifedean123 · 01/05/2020 08:13

What on earth Confused of course you can go the shops, of course you can go get nappies. Everyone's losing the plot

walkingchuckydoll · 01/05/2020 08:15

@nauseaandnipples
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Of course most non parents understand nappies are essential but would any parent think it was ok to have none at home?*

I'm not sure I understand your point? Nappies are essential, non parents and parents all understand that. The child ran out of nappies quicker than normally so an extra essential shop was needed? These things happen?

nauseaandnipples · 01/05/2020 08:17

@walkingchuckydoll well obviously this non parent didn't understand it.
Im obviously not explaining myself well. Basically it was easy to guess she isn't a parent as op said as no parent would berate op for going to buy nappies.

saleorbouy · 01/05/2020 08:21

Sure it's not easy if you're on your own with young ones, whatever you do someone will complain. If you nipped in and left them in the car that's wrong, if you take them in the shop that's wrong. Just try and be as safe as possible and do what you think is best, you're hardly going to put your kids at risk for the fun of it. As a grown women your mother needs to get real, you have enough to deal with. It's true that in hard times you find out who your friends really are, I think you just have!

Umnoway · 01/05/2020 08:23

You can’t exactly live without nappies all day, of course YANBU.

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StudentMummy20 · 01/05/2020 08:30

@saleorbouy I certainly have found out who my friends are but what has my mother done wrong?

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MinorArcana · 01/05/2020 08:43

Your “friend” is being ridiculous and mean. I’d not be making any efforts to get her to unblock TBH.

It’s not ideal to take a toddler to the shops, but if you’ve run out of something as essential as nappies, there’s no choice, is there? You can’t be expected to let her sit in a dirty nappy all day if she had a poo in the last nappy, it would be terribly unhealthy!
And the risks of your DD catching anything on one trip to the shops are small.

Also, I’ve got a friend with a baby who got some secondhand cloth nappies on a local freecycle thing. She said she’s still using the disposables mostly, but having the cloth nappies means she doesn’t have to worry as much about her local shops running out of the right size nappies.

CookPassBabtridge · 01/05/2020 08:43

Fuck my life, of course nappies are essential!

Stinkyjellycat · 01/05/2020 08:45

@Studentmummy20
It has never occurred to me that this was so unusual 😂 shes in size 2-3 clothes but has a really, really small waist and if I buy shorts in 18-24 months I have to take them in at the waist. Sometimes I can buy them in 12-18 months! I think maybe the pull ups are a bit bigger. I’ve just double checked her weight and the sizing and she’s now on the border of a 4.

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StudentMummy20 · 01/05/2020 08:52

@Stinkyjellycat wow my daughter is 9kg at 20 months? Are you sure she isn't below the 2nd percentile? I've never known a 3 year old to be that little Shock

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StudentMummy20 · 01/05/2020 08:54

@CookPassBabtridge pretty sure, they and milk are the most essential things I can buy!

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walkingchuckydoll · 01/05/2020 08:55

@nauseaandnipples

Im obviously not explaining myself well. Basically it was easy to guess she isn't a parent as op said as no parent would berate op for going to buy nappies.

Aha, we're mostly on the same page, I understand you now.

My point is that (normal) non parents understand this just as well. I'm not a parent (well, technically I had a stillborn but have never bought a nappy) and I understand perfectly well that you don't leave someone in soiled nappies for hours on end. You wouldn't do that to an adult so you wouldn't do that to a baby either. Her friend was just being a bitch and trying to dominate her.

Itslookinglikeabeautifulday · 01/05/2020 09:14

YANBU. You’re well rid. You did absolutely nothing wrong. Besides, what gives her the right to dictate to you? She’s not your boss. You don’t need to explain yourself to her.

CaptainBlunderpants · 01/05/2020 09:19

Wow she’s horrible and no friend.

imsooverthisdrama · 01/05/2020 09:23

Wtf has it got to do with her anyway ?
You run out of nappies do you go out and buy some end of . !!! Hmm

whatdoyoudonow · 01/05/2020 09:27

she's been like it since being furloughed but is always highly strung. Even saying things like I didn't put her first and she hopes I don't have to organise her funeral.

Don't tell your friend what you are doing. Of course it's fine. She's a lunatic.

SallyWD · 01/05/2020 09:29

Of course it's fine. I don't understand what the issue is here.

Newcatmum · 01/05/2020 09:35

I had to go out yesterday with my children as I ran out of nappies for my toddler. I had no idea I was down to the last nappy I had loads the other day and it won't surprise me if I find them at some point (I have one of those toddlers that take stuff and hide it in random places Grin). I eventually found a size 4 pull up in my car (she's a 6) which I can only assume came from her nursery bag as I've never bought size 4 pull ups!