AIBU to get annoyed with my neighbours having sex

[Julz1622]

Ok, I know, it's a natural thing, we all do it, but it's getting right on my nerves listening to the headboard banging off my wall constantly. Every night this week my baby has been woken up around 10pm as it is really loud! Surely they can put a cushion behind the headboard?? We live in a block of flats and it's that loud that the downstair neighbour (we are on the 3rd floor) is getting annoyed as well.

Bang on the wall or cheer them on!

And how did you make your baby 🙄🙄😂

Give them a loud cheer!!

If I didn't have the baby I would have been banging telling them to keep the effin noise down but I've just had to take the Moses basket through to the living room and lie on the couch, can still hear it from there but it's not as bad.

Anonymous note through the door? Or maybe a note in the communal hallway to say walls or thin etc and we can hear EVERYTHING kinda of notice?

I would find that annoying. Could they not just use their brain and move the bed slightly to stop the headboard banging against the wall

Like I said, I know people have sex, but I didn't make my baby with the whole block of flats listening in...if you know your bed is loud sort it out, like a said a cushion is an easy fix

Start playing porn music towards the ceiling 🤣

No yanbu. My ndn screams like she's being murdered with him grunting and huffing. My teenage dc hear it so their 12 & 10 year old kids must hear it. Most couples have sex but I do feel the level of screaming is wrong in earshot of kids.

They are a very loud family though so it doesn't surprise me....moving next year and I want to send them a message when the removals van pulls away, but I won't!

And how did you make your baby

Presumably without hammering the headboard on the neighbour's wall every night.

As they’re waking the baby anyway, how about a loud round of applause when the banging stops?

Put a note through their door OP. Nobody wants to listen to that.

Dear Neighbour,
Just to let you know that in these flats, noise travels very easily through the walls - over more than one floor, it seems.
Whilst I'm glad you are enjoying your very vigorous sex life, I would appreciate not having to listen to it.
Yours,
A Neighbour

This gets the point across, but they will have no idea who put it through their door...

Some people get off on that crap , yanbu.
We had a bed that did that so put something behind it .
I’d write a note

Yep!

Everyone hearing them that is.. 😂

It's just feckin unnecessary to have really noisy sex

They have a 14 year old girl living there too, it's the guys daughter 🙄

Oh @Julz1622 I feel your pain! I had this with some old neighbours, someone put a note in the communal hall.

It soon stopped and the girl moved out! It was bliss.

I once left a polite note for my neighbour asking if he might consider moving his headboard away from the wall a little bit as we were being woken up in the night. There was no mention of shagging so nobody was embarrassed, he apologised for waking us up and nothing was ever heard or discussed about it again

I'd be tempted to play a really off putting song loudly against the wall, but I'd probably not have the guts!

I'd say bang on the wall, or a note. Or could you complain to your building management?

I have a feeling a note might aggravate the situation. They will definitely know it's me...I have thought about having a polite word, but how do you say that without sounding like a b**ch.

I've had noise neighbours, it gets under your skin and can be sooo annoying. I know it seems hard but try to distract yourself, ear plugs, good book, meditation / relaxation with head phones. Failing that a direct letter through their door may embarrass them enough to keep quiet!

Side note, my landlord wouldn't give a s**t if I mentioned it to her, she knows there's all-sorts that goes on in the building (drugs, fighting etc) but turns a blind eye as long as she's getting her rent.

If you can hear them shagging they can probably hear your baby so....