My kids are trying to kill me!!

[theemptywinebox]

I love my kids. But WHY??!!!! WTF is wrong with them?!! Every 2 minutes screaming, crying, arguing, waaa WAAAAAAA!!!! Please leave me alone!!! 🙈😭😭😭
Everything I do I feel like I pander to them like, oh no honey it's ok to feel annoyed....to be met with SCREAMS of I DON'T CAREEEEEEE!!!!!

It's wearing me down tbh. Constantly saying... "It's ok to be frustrated, angry, etc..."
I just want to say "JUST FUCKING SHUT THE FUCK UP MUMMY MUMMY MUMMY WA WA AHHH!!!" 😭
the kids are 7 and 9 now...

I've always tried to do the right thing by putting feelings first and recognising feelings etc, but I've ended up with kids with attitudes of brats!

Now I just feel deflated.

Anyway...🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈

😭😭😭😭 HELP!! Lockdown nightmare 🙈

Handhold.

Far too familiar. I empathise.

You are doing great!
Pour yourself a big drink and put your feet up

I feel your pain. I’m incredibly touched out already and my 8 year old won’t go to sleep unless I lie beside him. I just want to watch some bloody tv on my own and eat crisps!!!

I actually find on the days when I try to be a better mum, organise activities etc, the more demanding they get! Solution to be just a little bit shit all the time

I hear you. Mine are five and two. I’m trying to work from home and look after them. What a barrel of laughs that is.

They were playing together nicely for a good hour yesterday and I couldn’t believe my luck. Then my boss phoned. Two minutes into the call, all hell broke loose. It was mortifying.

Yep yanbu. Mine are similar ages and they bicker and fight constantly throughout the day. One has anxiety and sensory issues which have worsened since lockdown. He says his brother smells (poor thing showers daily, he really doesn't). He also refuses food and has to be fed. I have been really sympathetic and patient but being pregnant and unwell myself, I'm like fuck it. Have a chocolate each and disappear for a bit please.

It ain't easy! And it magnifies when stuck with it 24/7!

I'd go for a simple statement.

"It's ok to feel xxxxxxx, it's ok to express it by xxxxxxx. When you cannot express your feelings appropriately you need to go in to garden to calm down for 5 minutes minimum". It's it's raining where you are like it is here just the threat of that will be enough to stop it!
But you also get that message across about feelings which is great.

Thanks ladies 😭 I knew I wouldn't be alone, it's just so annoying. Kids are so contradictory at the best of times...do you want the yellow band?? NO!! I WANT THE YELLOW ONE!! 👀🙉
....then under my breath I'm like..."I just fucking said thattttttt"
Then they say "What mummy?"
"Nothing nevermind" 🙈🙈🙈
😭😭😭
I'm glad I'm not alone! I just feel like a shit parent when I get annoyed tbh

I could have written this message!! I feel your pain 🤦🏻‍♀️

Just be happy you don't have two toddlers plus and older child... wine is my best friend now.

I think it's great to do that "It's ok to be angry/sad " when you're trying to help a child understand their feelings in a new situation but if a kid is just kicking off when they know better it's fine to tell them to knock it off or face the consequences.

YANBU. My 3 year old actually reduced me to tears today with her constant whinging.

If they're 7 and 9 and if they were full blown taking the piss (which, sorry but it sounds like they are as they arent 3 and 5!) then bet your butt id be telling them to shut up and bloody well behave themselves. Yes your approach is nice but you also have to teach them to consider other peoples feelings too! Tough love time me thinks.

I'm with wanderlust. The world won't love them when they're acting like brats and it's up to you to demonstrate that. So maybe not shut the fuckkng fuck up (although.....) but a bit of "you are getting on my bloody nerves now shut up and go to your room and if you're upset about that I really couldn't care less " might not hurt them?

It's difficult. We all love each other, we have a "why we are so awesome..." Chat together each night. 🙈 It's just been a long day. I feel bad for being so annoyed. Tbh I just feel bad I lost my temper and told my kids to f off 😭😭😭

I’m empathising but not for me, for my neighbours. We’ve gone from no kids in our end of the street to 8 under 10 in neighbouring houses in the last 9 months or so - don’t get me wrong, my peace has been shattered. But I can put on headphones or walk away - woman next door must have heard “mum,,,,mum,,,,mummy,,,,muuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuum” and “he’s hurting me..... taking my blah,......not sharing”.....a gazillion times this week .

I’m sure mine were whiny when they were little but you could take them to soft play etc to run off steam. And you had school. I’m so glad I don’t have young ones during this !

Can someone remind me that it's not OK to tell your kids to Fuck Off to Fuck because I am really close to doing it.

OP I love the idea of a why are we so awesome chat every night. Can you tell me more? Do you go round the table and everyone gives their own reason, or do you compliment each other.

But god yes, I feel your pain. I would kill for a day of peace and quiet.

My nearly 4 year old is driving me mad lately, hasn't been sleeping as well since nursery closed, misses her friends and her nursery life, i get that, but she's having bratty moments, this morning i got told she wanted a new mummy, told her fine then go and find one, off she went crying to daddy. Sick of comments like that, i'm tired and fucking fed up of this! I want my happy nice well behaved child back. All day it's questions about stuff she knows (tv shows she has watched a million times), climbing all over me, following me everywhere and barely letting me work.
We're trying to do things with her, number/phonics/colouring/baking but its not enough :-(
PLEASE RE OPEN NURSERIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
for everyone

They are 7 and 9. Sometimes it's ok to tell them the shut up and go outside in the back to play while mummy drinks her coffee in peace FOR 5 MINUTES.

I have the opposite, for which I guess I should be a bit grateful, but an 11 y/o stuck to her phone/table is no fun. I'd like to spend time with her (homelearning is stretching it a bit, but a bit of 'learning' would be good) but all I get is 'leave me alone' or 'why are you so obsessed with me?" (I'm totally not). She said last week that spending time with me about once a month would suit her!

My kids havent been too bad with whining but yesterday we were sat on the floor making a board game (something I'd seen on youtube). We were each drawing our own pictures etc to stick on the "board". Next thing you know dd2 who's 4 shouted mines not as good as hers and threw her felt tip pen at dd1 who's 9. Hit her square in the eye. Took me by surprise cause we dont have throwing things or fighting. Arguments yes but physical fighting no. I'm quite strict with behaviour but I was kind of a deer in the head lights thinking do I comfort dd1 first or discipline dd2 or go in the kitchen and pretend nothing happened

My 10 year old is a real mix of annoying me for random things despite a sign on the door saying I’m working and might be on a video call through to asking me if I can eat upstairs as she wants some alone time downstairs to watch her programmes!

Mine are a little older at 9 and 10.

They've both been bickering and getting irritated with each other and me (the feeling is mutual!). Sometimes they play nicely. 'Fun' screens are banned during the week because brattiness increases with computer games.

DD1 has turned into a whining, rude, preteen and neither are worn out enough for bedtime, so no peace until gone 10.

DH is the Sergeant Wilson of our parenting duo so discipline, de-bratting, reminding of manners and 95% homeschooling have fallen to me.

At lunchtime I tell the kids to 'go scavenge' (make their own lunch) whilst I sit on the sofa and hide in another room for an hour. It keeps me sane!

Wow! Such a relief to find this post!

I'm absolutely worn out. Emotionally and physically bled dry.

The arguing, not listening, resistance to do anything asked of them.

I just want do the best for them with endless patience and enthusiasm. It's a real struggle to find the right balance with them. I feel mean for finding it so difficult.