My kids are trying to kill me!!

[theemptywinebox]

I love my kids. But WHY??!!!! WTF is wrong with them?!! Every 2 minutes screaming, crying, arguing, waaa WAAAAAAA!!!! Please leave me alone!!! 🙈😭😭😭
Everything I do I feel like I pander to them like, oh no honey it's ok to feel annoyed....to be met with SCREAMS of I DON'T CAREEEEEEE!!!!!

It's wearing me down tbh. Constantly saying... "It's ok to be frustrated, angry, etc..."
I just want to say "JUST FUCKING SHUT THE FUCK UP MUMMY MUMMY MUMMY WA WA AHHH!!!" 😭
the kids are 7 and 9 now...

I've always tried to do the right thing by putting feelings first and recognising feelings etc, but I've ended up with kids with attitudes of brats!

Now I just feel deflated.

Anyway...🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈

😭😭😭😭 HELP!! Lockdown nightmare 🙈

The noise level in my house was so high yesterday I said to them - I can't tolerate this noise anymore, it's too much for my head and if you can't be quiet I'm going to have to put you outside (it was raining). Noise didn't stop. Picked them up and plopped them outside in the rain in their socks (fairly light rain if that makes it any better 😬). Had to do it a few times but they stopped being loud. Mean but I was at breaking point - the alternative would have been running out of the front door and not looking back.

Well it's lovely to tell them they're awesome everyday and that it's fine to have feelings.. It's also helpful to tell them when they're not being awesome and give them some consequences.

They need to be told it's not acceptable to be shouting and screaming and being rude to you. Tell them off instead of pandering to their feelings all the time! They're old enough to respect everyone's feelings at home.

Oh my god. Me too!!!

I keep repeating. I know you’re feeling angry. I know you hate each other right now. That’s ok. Tell me. What would make it better

Yet I wanna say. Mummy’s going to lock herself in the bathroom now with copious amounts of chocolate. Don’t come find me for a month! Ok?

@anxietrist

Oh. That made me laugh! Plopped then out in the rain. With their socks.

Damn. It’s only water! Don’t worry.

My four year old is screaming his head off because someone opened his new lego. He opened it.

I feel your pain.

I am good with them sometimes and other times just blow my top and say ‘ENOUGH! It not nice girl other people to be surrounded by fighting and whinging so mummy is taking her coffee and is not to be disturbed for 10minutes’. I also often tell them it tough but it’s between them to sort out because they escalate terribly when I get involved. Mine are 7, 5 and 4.

More sympathy here. I have 4, all of which I need to keep fairly quiet as dh is working from home.
A 4 and 6 year old who are sick of the sight of each other and keep wailing and fighting
A hormonal 13 year old that I’m trying to help do Maths work. Who is the biggest drama queen in the world on a good day.
Gobby teen who is just stuck hanging around winding up the little ones. Gcse year so no school work.
When dh has his lunch break he takes over the kids for an hour and I hide in our bedroom! The kids know not to come in unless the house is on fire.
I’m trying really hard to stay positive but every time they start with Mummmm. In my head I’m screaming will you please just bloody shut up!

While it's nice to acknowledge feelings and whatnot. Telling them they're awesome every day has to be balanced out or you end up with brats and then entitled adults.

You do balance it out dont you? There's nothing wrong with being firm and telling them youre going to put them in seperate rooms if they carry on.

9 and 7 here too, snap!

Last night they wouldn’t go to sleep (they share a bedroom) and kept arguing to the extent that I went in and shouted ‘all grown ups need time to be grown ups, I just want to watch my bloody TV programme, I never get to pick anything on the TV, now STOP IT AMD GO TO SLEEP NOW.

It actually worked.

All day long. Muuuuum. MUUUUUUMMMMM.

I love them, I really do, but they drive me insane sometimes.

two teens and an autistic toddler
i share your pain
i might run away yet
i have a tent.... some crackers and a bottle of gin .....
id insert a wink and smily face....
but i might be serious ...

I keep saying I'm gonna change my name from mum

Cos it's mum. Mum. Mum. Muuuuum. Mum. Mum. Mum. Mummy. Mum mummmmmm muuuum MMMUMUMUMUMUMYMYM

I'm like good god. Come on!

I might change it to do not disturb.

@mamabears3

Ha. We all slept in our tent in the front room last night.

It was bloody hot and crinkly noises every time someone moved!

I'm tired today. Not a good combination.

I remember when I felt like this with my kids

It might sound kinda stupid, but when it was getting too much for me I used to ask the kids to call me Fred/Bert whatever...............just as long as I didn't hear another whining MMMUUUUUUMMMMMM.............................coming out of their mouths !

It actually worked wonders for my state of mind , so maybe it might help you too ??

Pour yourself a big drink OP. I'm in the same boat and mine are only 3 and

Have you read a book called 'Can I Give Them Back Now'. It's really funny and got me through the days I felt like you. Btw, just to save any disappointment the answer is not yes :-)