to think it's wrong to sell hand me downs?

[travellerist]

6 months ago I gave a friend some of DC's toys free of charge, some of which were fairly expensive when I bought them (i.e. £180 ice cream stall). I was happy to part with them for nothing as DC had good use out of them and my friend was more strapped for cash since going on mat leave.

However, yesterday I noticed this friend was selling many of these items (including said ice cream stall for £80) on FB. AIBU to be slightly annoyed at this friend for selling on these toys, especially since I only gave them 6 months ago and her DC is still of an age to get good use out of them?

I generally work off the rule that if I bought the item then I may choose to sell it in the future (although for most DC toys/clothes I donate them). If someone hands down/gifts me items then once I have gotten use out of it I pay that generosity forward and usually donate to charity or other friends.

I know once I gift someone an item it's entirely up to them what they do with it, but this has slightly irritated me. FYI my friend and her partner have a stable a job as you can have in these times and are by no means on the breadline but equally aren't rolling in it.

Appreciate your thoughts

If you gave the items without expectation of them being returned, I see no problem. If you wanted the money it was up to you to sell them and not give them away.

The items now belong to her and it really isn't any of your business what she does with them.

How is it cheeky? You had the choice to give away or sell - you chose to give away without asking for their return. The items are now hers to do with whatever she wishes and has the same choice as you.

I was lucky to be given so many hand-me-downs when my daughter was first born, and I would never sell it - I even checked with the original owners before I donated the outgrown stuff to a refuge.

Kids get through things so quickly and it's all so expensive: hand-me-downs are a solidarity in the face of that, and selling something that you've been lucky enough to get for free violates the code a little bit.

But I know other people feel differently, and I do understand that it's the receivers to do as they please with.