AIBU to think the GP was too dismissive

[nowisreallynottherighttime]

I posted recently about my 20 year old son’s reluctance to see the doctor regarding a swelling a lump in his testicle. After weeks of pulling my hair out he finally agreed he needed to be seen.

Yesterday he had a telephone consultation where he explained he had groin pain, lower back pain, heaviness in his testicle and a small lump. The doctor’s first response was leave it for another 3 weeks and come back, then he asked my son if he’d searched his symptoms on line and what did he think was wrong, my son told him he had absolutely no idea. The doctor agreed to see him, at the consultation he didn’t address the groin/back pain had a quick feel of the testicle and said there are a couple of lumps and bumps but don’t worry about them.

My son is not reassured at all, would you get a second opinion or would you be happy with what the doctor said. As I don’t have testicles and have never had a testicle examination it’s hard to figure out whether he was being dismissive or not.

It seems the GP, and the one giving an opinion on here haven’t taken into account or listened properly to your son who is also complaining of back and groin pain. He needs a proper examination and an explanation of findings, at the very least. I’d be concerned that his concerns and worries have not been addressed.

Just read you have been to walk in centre and had appropriate exam and investigations. I am glad you are able to support your son to do this, and I hope all is well.

Frustrating that the ultrasound wasn't done yesterday too. Feels wrong that a woman referred to the breast clinic has all investigations (bar biopsy) done on the day and goes away either reassured or knowing further investigation is warranted but a man has to wait for longer when it's his testicles. 🤞🏼 the bloods come back very quickly (most bloods only seem to take a couple of days before covid) and can offer a certain amount of reassurance.

Hey I had this when I was his age very likely to be this - www.nhs.uk/conditions/epididymitis/

He needs to get it treated as it left me with chronic pain on and off for years and many flare ups

@nowisreallynottherighttime I know it must be frustrating but at least investigations have started for your son. I think the 2 week pathway is fairly standard for the NHS, it was when I was referred to the breast clinic.

Sending you and your son lots of positive vibes that it something minor and easily resolved. It is always a worry when your child is not well, no matter how old they are.

Fingers crossed everything's ok.

Frustrating that the ultrasound wasn't done yesterday too. Feels wrong that a woman referred to the breast clinic has all investigations (bar biopsy) done on the day and goes away either reassured or knowing further investigation is warranted but a man has to wait for longer when it's his testicles.

There's been numerous studies that say as prostate cancer is hard to detect at early stages ultrasound should be done extremely quickly. With the stance towards US (and men's reaction to being told to examine themselves/get examined) it's hardly surprising prostate cancer kills so many men.

@nowisreallynottherighttime I hope your son is being looked after, OP. I’ve been thinking of you both.