Overheard a huge row

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This has been playing on my mind and I'm wondering what others would have done. Behind my house is garages owned by the surrounding houses accessed by a private driveway down the side of my house. There is a couple that are always parked up down there as they obviously go there to meet. I don't know anything about them but I have seen them and they seem to be Muslim so this could be a secret relationship. I often smell weed in the garden and they leave a load of rubbish in front of the garage when they've gone.

Anyway yesterday they were parked down there and I could hear the woman wailing and crying and them arguing. My kids were enjoying the garden as it was a warm day and I had to take them in the house as they were being really loud. She was shouting about wanting to take her own life and he was retorting with shut the fuck up you stupid bitch and things like that.
I tried to call 111 but I was worried that if they knew I had then they might do something to my house. I dont know it was just a frightening situation and I wonder what you would have done?
I wanted to tell them to get lost because of the noise and the fact that there are children in all the surrounding gardens.

They calmed down eventually and the noise stopped but they are parked down there daily usually in the middle of the night so I still kind of want to tell them it was unacceptable and people could hear

A woman wailing and crying and threatening suicide? I'd have called the police. Here in Germany (city of 500,000) they'd be there within 15 minutes. Threat of domestic violence, disturbing the police all mean nothing in the UK?

@alittlequinnie that sounds so scary. I would have definitely rang 999 if I saw that. What are they there for if it isnt situations like that?

@OldEvilOwl we have had a couple of garage owners speak to us in passing about the rubbish and one of them even left a note on the garage. It didnt make a difference

Disturbing the peace

Yes ring 101 every time. Its anti social behaviour. Tell them they are shouting and swearing. Also that you're concerned about the lady as she keeps shouting that she ja going to kill her self.

I too would put a sign up in a neutral area at the garages. If you don't want to be too blunt and mention shagging then a simple "Please respect neighbouring families. No shouting, no swearing, no littering". They'll know it's directed at them.

My daughter experienced a similar thing a few months ago and called the police. They actually came extremely quickly and sorted it out.

I'd have taken the car reg and rang the police on 101.
Let them decide whether it's serious or not.

I too would put a sign up in a neutral area at the garages.

Put it up on their garage.

Religion and race is relevant. If she is muslim and is outed as having an affair she is in serious shit. Jeez, non-muslims on mumsnet are vicious enough about this. but that ain't nothing to what will be heaped on her head in her own community.

RING 101 - couple breaking distancing laws every day.

Surely that's what 101 is for?

101 - if they each arrive in own car, drug-driving? (as well as DV non-DV, suicide concerns)

If she is muslim and is outed as having an affair she is in serious shit.

Not necessarily. There are huge cultural differences between different individual muslims and muslims from different parts of the world.

But much easier to lump everyone together to fit a narrative, eh?

In any event, 101 is basically switched off in my part of the world at the moment. You have to fill in an online form, which probably doesn't get read for days or weeks.

They sound extremely ignorant. Nice of them to leave their gross rubbish behind.

Personally I’d confront them and tell them to piss off or you’ll call the police.

I did try 101 at the time but after 10 mins of automated messages I gave up. It was enough time to make me think twice about whether I wanted to get involved. Obviously had their been violence I wouldnt have thought twice but it seemed to be a mutual slanging match rather than one sided. His choice of words was obviously disgusting though

Put up a sign, “This area is covered by CCTV. All incidences of littering and drug use will be reported to the police”. We did this by us after groups of young guys were meeting up in cars and mopeds round the back of some garages to smoke weed and it stopped pronto!

If they are meeting in secret they won’t want to be traced through their number plates.

But much easier to lump everyone together to fit a narrative, eh?

And so much easier to make comments like this to virtue signal than to accept the truth that this is much likelier to be an issue for a muslim woman than a non-muslim one.

I think the signs are a good idea

Yes I think the sign about cctv is good and if it doesn't deter try and get their number plate as if the police hold it on file they can pay them a visit at their address

If I heard someone shouting suicide threats I would feel it warranted a 999 call, more so if there is someone else shouting verbal abuse at them too.

I’m dying at the generalisations and suppositions about Muslims on this thread- some of them q subtle but wow...

I would have phoned the police and valued her life over worrying about a non event re the house.

Why don’t you put up signs on the garage doors about domestic violence? Even if you just write the phone number and the words ‘domestic violence’ and plaster them all over the doors. It may help her if it is this situation or they may realise that the posters are aimed at them and feel embarrassed about the noise.