AIBU to miss ‘alone time’?

[Tempnamelady]

Like most people , we ( me , DH and DS21) are stuck in the house much of the time currently . My main activity (gym) has ceased as has DH’s (pub) . DS newly home from uni. I’m used to a lot of time alone , i potter, clean, wash, iron and watch a bit of tv that only I Like. I wfh anyway but that’s not ‘alone time’ as I’m working. I’m really missing that time to simply ‘be’ . Anyone else ?

Nope

I feel you here
I love DP but really miss my time while he's out at work. I WFH or work away as a lone wolf a lot and I miss my solitude a lot

I know what you mean.
Just the drive to work, or the 5 min walk to collect DD from brownies, or the odd hour when DH takes DD to visit his mum, or a quick trip to the shops. Time when I can just 'be'.
I'm loving spending so much time with family, but I can't wait to have a few mins to myself.

Yes. I think the worst thing about Coronavirus for many has not been missing going out, but missing others going out!

YABU I love having the house to myself. I'm more looking forward to that than actually going anywhere if when this is over.

Totally agree, hate to admit as I know many people who are completely alone feel very unhappy about it but I am finding this enforced ‘family time’ quite hard. My DH usually works away a few nights a week, I work weekends and our DS is at Uni so I spend a lot of time alone ... and miss it . Endless discussions about meals, trying to find something we all enjoy watching on tv or deciding what board game to play does get a little tedious.... I insist on doing my daily walk alone just to be on my own.

I’m so missing my commute.

I get where you are coming from but I am the other end of the scale and live alone so I miss company from family, friends and colleagues mostly. Generally I love my own company and a weekend at home would never bother me but this has taken it to a whole new level. There is definitely a happy medium that keeps us all sane. So whether you are stuck in your house with your family 24/7 or at home all day every day neither of them is enough for anyone. We all need to escape this madness sooner rather than later.

Me too...
DH working from home and keeps popping down from his office when pop master is on and talking. DD back from uni and constantly opening the fridge which riles me (someone on tv told me it takes 20 minutes for a fridge to get back to temperature once opened and the thought is stuck in my mind and won't go away).
I want to watch my TV when I normally do.
I want to stop for 4 lots of munchies instead of a set lunch and set dinner.
I want to just have to clear up my own mess
I want to not have to think about what's for dinner every night in advance
I am over 50 and have done my time waiting on people.. 😩

Yes! I usually have a day or 2 off work a week when the kids are at school and dh is away so I can clean, cook, eat, exercise and occasionally chill out alone. I miss listening to my audiobook for hours at a time!

Oh God , I’m glad it’s not just me.Im glad we are all ok and safe ( we think we have had CV were v v unwell a few weeks ago ) but it’s just so hard. I do feel for those who are 24/7 alone.

On another matter though, if anyone is shopping for someone who is shielding, do you feel a massive responsibility to try and get everything on the list? My lovely DM/DF who I adore are SI , and they are very undemanding and grateful but I feel like I want to get everything they ask for which isn’t always easy x

The silence is what I miss. Those 15-20 minutes of utter silence. No doors slamming, feet stomping, kids moaning, noise from tv or tablet, noise from neighbours and their kids.

Just peace.

I have taken to stay up really late just so I can have 15 minutes peace. I love my family and know we're lucky but sometimes I just need peace and quiet.

Same as @Rosebel, I keep staying up ridiculously late just so I get some me time! A bit difficult with a toddler and a primary school child. At least if I had grown up children I could just hide in my room with a book/watch tv.

I do. I usually WFH with DH and DC out all day. Now I'm furloughed but everyone else is here. I'm trying to be positive and enjoy the time but the permanent background noise does my head in.

I miss the peace and quiet. I miss having my breakfast and lunch on my own and not having to think about what everyone else would like. I also find myself staying up later just to watch something on TV and be by myself.

YANBU. I will never take silence for granted again.

I miss the 30 minute drive home for work just to switch from work red to home red. Just that thinking time without interruption, now my commute is walking out a door.

YANBU! I miss my commute and my alone time to potter at home.

Definitely agree. And I've also been staying up late just to enjoy alone time and the quiet. I always knew I was a solitary individual, but had no idea how much I relied upon my 'quiet time' before all of this!

I'm resenting the presence of the other members of my household more and more with every day that passes!

Yanbu. I miss my alone time where I used to make plans and just think.
I can’t think straight now and that’s shite.

Temp I agree about the shopping, a neighbour who is self isolating asked me to get some celery for her ... I tried four different shops (which is probably against the rules) but couldn’t find any.

I currently find early mornings the best for ‘alone time’, my DH usually starts working the minute he wakes up in his study and my teenage DS doesn’t surface until midday so that is the best time to ‘do my own thing’.

It’s so hard. I’ve got little ones and it is just manic all the time. The worst thing is though that my husband and I are often taking one each so we do struggle go get time for us and then time alone.

As a teacher I have time out of class weekly for planning etc, which we are allowed to take at home if we wish. With the toddler at her grandparents during that time and DP at work I used to relish sitting at the kitchen table working in blissful silence. Now I can hear toddler + daddy chaos all over the house even when I’m not ‘on duty’.

It’s funny how we go from being children and teenagers wanting to see our friends all the time, to adults who love a bit of peace and quiet 😂

Yup. MIL has moved in for the duration of lockdown as she lives alone, so I can't even escape to the basement.

I try to get up early for alone time but DS gets up at 6-6:30 anyway.

Yes, I've been WFH since March 17th and DP furloughed March 26. He usually works 3pm-midnight Mon-Fri. So every evening is mine, now he's just there all the time. And I'm still cooking every sodding meal even tho' I'm still working!!

Yes totally- DH has been great on lockdown, but he's just so omnipresent, whereas normally he'd be out doing his hillwalking and I'd have my non working Friday to potter around and do a bit of cleaning and reading my book.

It's bliss when he's out walking the dog and DS 14 is asleep, as is the case now.

I've explained to him it's not his fault if I get a bit grumpy - he seems perfectly happy with not seeing anyone now that B&Q has opened - and that if things are relaxed I may go off for a couple of nights by myself just to get that alone time.