AIBU to miss ‘alone time’?

[Tempnamelady]

Like most people , we ( me , DH and DS21) are stuck in the house much of the time currently . My main activity (gym) has ceased as has DH’s (pub) . DS newly home from uni. I’m used to a lot of time alone , i potter, clean, wash, iron and watch a bit of tv that only I Like. I wfh anyway but that’s not ‘alone time’ as I’m working. I’m really missing that time to simply ‘be’ . Anyone else ?

Yes! I usually have a little bit of time daily between dd going to bed and DH coming home and I really miss it. There's so much talking and working with others in my job, I enjoy solitude to decompress.

Why are you cooking every meal if your DH has been furloughed @PuckleP?

Agree with a PP its the silence that I miss

Yes, I have resumed my younger habit of very long baths.

I do. I even miss driving to work, only a very short drive but I'd pick a song and turn it up loud.
Thankfully the kids are old enough to be left unsupervised for a little while so I can sit in the garden alone while they're watching TV or playing on their phones.

Yes, absolutely. I'd just gone back to work after maternity leave and was loving having two days WFH with toddler in nursery, and two days in a lovely quiet office. Now we're both wfh and juggling work with toddler, and I just can't concentrate with the background noise. I'm working early/late to get thinking stuff done when he's asleep, then staying up late to get some time to myself.

I'm really struggling with this - I'm still in work FT working a mixture of days, afternoons and nights. My ex isn't adopting the home schooling routine whatsoever when the DCs are with him - this means that I'm home schooling, getting exercise and then going to work an afternoon/night shift.

There is just zero time for me to just potter/sort my shit/watch crap TV. I just feel exhausted and can't see the DCs or I being a to keep this up for much longer.

I LOVE being at home.

Lockdown really hasn’t changed my life at all, I hardly ever go out anyway.

It’s just that I much prefer it when everyone else is out of the house and I am blissfully alone

I was in work doing some urgent stuff yesterday. No one else was in. It was bliss. Utter silence

Me too. Husband only goes into the office one day a week normally and when that coincides with my day off
I love it!

And now our teenager online- schooling is added to it.

When this is all over I'm sending them to the in-laws for a fortnight! 😁

You def not alone OP. My DH has always worked away from home during the week so I have spent most of the lat 20 years at home alone a lot of the time. I miss it more than I can say. DH is also taking early retirement and won't be going back to work again. I am finding it very hard so adjust to my new existence. A eyeing up plans for new patio, with deep foundations!

God I hear you.

DP normally works away and my DD at nursery 3 days a week while I work, mostly from home. My mon wed fri routine was
Nursery drop off
Work
Gym
Shower
Sunbed
Nursery pickup

With lots of alone time in between. Now I need to stay up late and get up early to get any kind of peace.

Can’t wait for DP to get back to work 🙈 although he works in London, and I get the feeling Glasgow will start coming out of the lockdown sooner than London so we’ll have him for a while yet

So glad it’s not just me. His work have only got them in every other week ( god knows why ) so today he’s off whilst I’m wfh.

Another thing that annoys me is that he gets really huffy if I don’t get up with him on his working days ( even though I don’t need to be up) yet he is only just stirring now ! I didn’t see him rising at 7 with me 🙄

I miss my commute. 40 minutes each way, alone with my thoughts and ipod.

YANBU. I'm escaping for long walks to get some alone time but it's not the same.

I miss using the toilet during the day without having to screen it first for wee on the seat or skids in the pan

DH and I had a lovely day of barely disturbing each other yesterday.

I worked on my writing for a good 6h plus, then did some baking and exercise, before reading an entire book between 4 and 10.30.

He... I dunno. I didn't ask! It was quiet though.

We were supposed to be on holiday this week, so it was very nice to get into that relaxed space.

I live alone and even though I'm missing my family, friends and even colleagues, I'm really pleased I don't share a house with someone, no matter how much I love them!

I am as well! Usually my only alone time is my lunch hour but that hour makes all the difference. DH works in retail and is working as normal so 5 days a week it’s just me with the kids, age 4 & 6. My 4 year old wants snuggles all the bloody time and the 6 year old is constantly asking for food, minecraft or youtube videos about minecraft or whinging about having to do the small number of tasks her teacher has set for the day. I just want some peace!!!

I drove 20 miles to pick up a supermarket shop over the weekend, just me. My own music to listen to, no kids hanging off me. That 90 minutes I was away was the highlight of my month.

I feel exactly the same.

I have been furloughed and my DH only goes to work one day per week. I am jealous of that day.

My DS (4) is lovely but I need some time by myself