AIBU or is DH an absolute twat

[MadameBee]

I arranged to Skype with a group of friends this afternoon, online for scoot and hour, DH joined in at points.

I asked if he wanted to Skype his dad (hasn’t some so since lockdown) he called his dad and they were eating tea so they agreed to Skype later. DH then says he’s starving so I cook some tea, halfway through me cooking it he says I was supposed to call my dad 14 minutes ago, ok I will try to keep this warm.

20 mins later dinner is really beginning to dry out, so I tell DH and say why don’t you call your dad back after we have eaten. DH gets all huffy and says “why did you say it was ok to call him” I say I am not a fucking magician I cannot keep the food warm forever, it’s chicken and it’s drying out.

He then says he won’t be available when we Skype my family later (at a pre arranged time) and goes and sits in our bedroom and eats his dinner.

I'd have eaten mine and left his in the oven and not worried about it.

Yes he’s a twat

I would have let him know I had left his in the oven and eaten mine. His choice, he knew you were cooking. He chose to be a twat and have a tantrum.

@PixiKitKat

Yes you are much wiser than me.

He’s now “gone out for a walk” and not phoned his father back.

Pretty sure he won’t be involved with the phone call to my family, further confirmation to them that I married a dickhead 🙄

I would have said no problem I'll leave yours in the oven on low and eaten mine when it was ready if he really didn't feel he could call back later.

Was it not something that could have been reheated with a quick blast in the microwave rather than drying out in the oven?

That aside, he's a twat.

Blockdown is getting to both of you

It's not a massive deal. Not is it a massive deal that he won't be on the Skype with your family? Presumably you weren't on the Skype with his dad?

Yes I was in the Skype with his dad.

I'm another one who would have just eaten mine and let him get on with it, dried chicken is greatly enhanced with addition of some gravy

It was a Kiev (don judge me).

I came on to start a "my DH is being a dick" post and realised aibu is full of them already! Must be lockdown or something. I feel like screaming at the moment. On balance I think yanbu but I would have just let his food go dry once I had told him once.

My DH is refusing to join in my family zoom later because I got annoyed when he forgot to give the kids any lunch then grumbled about having to make them dinner. I went for a run at lunchtime and saw him making eggs so assumed he was cooking for everyone, no just himself and the toddler. Wouldn't have been so bad but my older two never said anything to me so they just went without lunch!!!

why are you skyping each others family that just seems too much

If there isn't a back story then I'd say it's just the tension of lock down.

But you implied that there is a back story re your family?

I'd let it blow over either way.

Well.......Kiev and gravy might be quite tasty!

why are you skyping each others family that just seems too much

Because we love and miss them?

@Quartz2208

It isn't odd at all. They are married. It's her/his family too.

He could have eaten whilst on skype?

@MashedSpud because that’s pretty grim and rude....

This really wouldn’t trouble me for a second. Plate it up and put some tin foil over it. If he’s generally a twat then this might be the straw that broke the camels back, but otherwise I would struggle to get worked up of a cold chicken Kiev that I didn't have to eat.

@Quartz2208

Lots of people get on with their in laws, it's not obligatory to hate them you know.

why are you skyping each others family that just seems too much what an odd question, so you not talk to your in laws directly??

Tbh it seems like a major drama over nothing.

"I should have called Dad 14 minutes ago"
"OK but dinner will only be 10 minutes away"
Quick text to Dad to say can I Skype you at X
Eat dinner, Skype later.

Can't he think or do anything for himself?

You suggested he call his dad, cooked because he was hungry & were supposed to organise his food around when he was skyping his dad-even though he hasn't told you when that was(?)?

I think you're more of a tw*t than your husband to be honest. Just put his dinner to one side with some foil over it and he could have reheated it when done. Telling him his dinner was going dry when he's talking to his dad is rude. Leave them to it.
He doesn't have to call your family, I hardly ever get involved in DP calls to his parents.