Nuisance neighbour. What would you do?

[NeighbourNightmare]

Next door neighbours are stuck abroad where they have a holiday home. While they’re not in the house they’ve let a friends son move in. Neighbours are in their 60s, quiet never have any issues with them.

Since the son has moved in it’s been a nightmare. We can’t go in the garden without him talking over the fence to us. Wouldn’t mind if it was once in a while but it’s literally every time we step outside he’s looking over.

Pretty sure he’s taking drugs or something because of the way he looks and he talks nonsense so it’s even a nice catch up conversation. He’s out in the garden for the whole day either playing loud music or talking on the phone. Hours everyday talking on the phone which is distracting even sitting in the house with the windows open.

Last night he was out in the garden until 3am talking loudly. Woke me up a couple of times. Woke my partner up walking in and out of the front door, opening and closing the garden gate, arguing with someone on the phone.

I feel we can’t enjoy the garden in the nice weather because he’s there talking rubbish and won’t leave us alone. Tried not answering, he just keeps shouting till we do. Tried short answers and walking back in the house, he’s still there the next time we go out. Obviously we can’t go out to escape the noise even either.

AIBU to ask what we can do? Speak to the neighbours? But they’re out of the country with no way of getting back so they can’t physically make him leave and he’s got a key so not sure what help that will be. And they might end up worried about their house with nothing they can do about it. Any other ideas for what I can do?

You're being way too nice. I'd be saying "Look, I've tried saying this nicely and you're not taking notice so I'll say it bluntly. Stop looking over my fence. Stop calling to me over the fence. I do not wish to talk to you so leave me alone. If you carry on I'll call (NDN) and tell them you're being a nuisance, now go away and leave me in peace."

Contact your neighbours & insist they call their friends to come & remove him. Totally unfair of them to inflict this on you all when they are off somewhere else.

Agree with the headphones. And it doesn't mean you even have to have anything on.

I had a very chatty workmate whose desk was next to mine. I took to wearing earbuds plugged into my phone as if I were listening to music. I wasn't, but every so often I'd bob my head to an invisible rhythm to make her think I was. After a few tries at conversation she finally gave up and I was able to work in silence.

Ask the neighbours for the contact details of their friend (the son's parents). You don't need to tell them why you need it, just say you are concerned about his behaviour.

Why should OP have to do this? He's not her responsibility but is her problem. It's up to the neighbours. They let him in, they get him out. I presume they have their mobile phones in Spain and a nr. for his parents.

Contact the owners and let us know if it turns out they didn't know that they had a friends' son staying there Mexican house thief style.

Oh yea, I remember that one. The ultimate in CFery! :-O
It's in Classics.

I'd be using the 'I'm concerned about him' line with your neighbours as a way to bring it up. He doesn't sound well.

Could he have some sort of learning disability.I feel a bit sorry for him, could he be shielding there or is he going out? Perhaps he doesn't realise he's talking nonsense.

I will same the same as everyone else-as in contact your neighbours- it does sound exactly like either a mental health problem- my son once started on a new medication and he behaved just like this- over friendly- barely slept- didn’t seem to have any boundaries and became over confident- as soon as drugs were withdrawn he went back to his usual quite self.