Was this a big mistake?

[snowycat]

Today I did something I've been thinking about for a while. Basically I decided to send an email to a man I met a few years ago and had a date with. (Met through OLD) We only had one date ( just coffee) and I decided I wasn't physically attracted to him so we didn't see each other again. He wanted to see me again.

Since then he's popped into my mind now and again and I've felt I should have seen him again and not been so quick to make a decision purely on his appearance. He's not bad looking at all and it was just that I didn't feel an instant attraction. I've changed a bit since then and realised that attraction can grow and not be instant!

I subsequently met someone else and was with him for a while before I decided that amongst other things, we weren't really interested in the same things.

The coffee date guy has a really interesting job and was good to talk to. I managed to track down his work email as I googled him and now I'm wondering if he'll think I'm weird and stalkerish!? In the email I just said how about another coffee when corona restrictions are lifted and apologised if he's no longer dating. Now I'm regretting sending it as he might think I'm mad! 😳

You did the right thing and good on him to reply. You never know, he might be the once contacting you in the future.

Well. He'll either be incredibly flattered or incredibly worried you're a stalker....I reckon if I was him I'd be thinking along the lines of ' one coffee years ago...didn't want a second date...so now she's desperate...'

I think people are being really harsh here. I don’t think it’s creepy or arrogant in the slightest. I think the nothing ventured/nothing gained approach is a sound one in general and particularly now.

That said I do think you need to be prepared for rejection as you have absolutely no idea what’s happened in his life since then. In an ideal world I wouldn’t have gone for a work email but I don’t think it’s a disaster. People are really uptight about this. As long as it’s a politely worded and non explicit email I don’t see the issue.

Well who know's, you will just have to wait and see what happens. Strange things happen all the time. I know two people who had a total absence from each other for 10 years,then some contact was made, they met up, and eventually were married.

Did you get any response??

Well, I think it's perfectly fine. I hope that he gets in touch and that you hit it off. We need good, happy news

Did you not read the whole thread?