Solve a dispute?!

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Do I have to stay inside?

My neighbour is shielding (think biological medication) and I work in ICU, I got attacked (spat at by a patient who is covid +ve, ) and Ive gone for a test as I have a temperature and I'm off work for a week.. we have to when we get attacked like that.

However my aibu is can i go i my garden or not? My garden is technically longer than their garden but if I was to utilise our garden to the extent that it didn't affect them then I would have to use and stay in our bottom garden forever.

Of course you can go in your garden.

That's a tough one but if it were me, I'd avoid the garden for 14 days.

Of course you can. I’m sorry that happened to you.

They did say early on, if you had symptoms, you can use your garden but stay 2 metres away from your boundaries

If you do work in an ICU then you should know exactly what the shielding and social distancing measures are.

@Gindrinker43 actually weirdly enough we don't have guidelines about our own house.. I know exactly how to behave in my work but it's my garden!

Out of consideration for your neighbour who is vulnerable, I wouldn't. Or I'd agree with them to use your gardens at different times so that you both get some fresh air without putting each other at risk.

Garden at different times is a really good idea. Maybe suggest that as a solution. If they refuse that option use to your garden however and whenever you want.

Biological medication?

@slipperywhensparticus inflixibmab/ biological chemotherapy. Sorry, maybe I should have been more specific?

I think due to their circumstances until you know you are clear then I wouldn't use my garden or just stay in the bottom bit. It's not ideal but I would never forgive myself if I thought I had passed it onto someone that vulnerable

OP:

Confused by the title of your post.

Are you having this dispute with your neighbor, a member of your household, or yourself?

If it's a dispute with the neighbor, you need to cool your jets for 14 days. Not worth the unpleasantness.

If it's the latter, go into your garden. You can always go back in (with a cheery wave) if they come out.

So sorry you got attacked.

A bit confused OP, does being in your garden mean you’re less than 2m from the neighbours? Sorry this happened to you xx

I'm not less than 2m from our neighbours but when they made conversation and I Told them I was attacked by a patient they both went inside hence my issue, then I told DH and he said

"well they are shielding, so maybe you should stay inside for 2 weeks just incase" which was the reason I posted.

If I wanted to stay 100% away frommmy neighbours stay all time there is about 15 steps down to the bottom bit of our garden
So I can can go down the bottom bit and still get exercise, but DH is against
That as I would have to go outside and the entrance to our bottom garden (top
Of the steps) is definitely less then 2m away from their fence

Unless you’re coughing, sneezing or spitting over the fence, I think everyone will be fine.

You cannot stop using your garden that's ridiculous

You need to be grown up, if you can use the bottom, then walking past them to get there should not be a problem

Is your garden less than 2 metres wide? Can they stay the other side of their garden?

I would stay inside it’s 7 days of your life. It must be really frightening for your neighbours.

DP is a paramedic who had symptoms a few weeks back, we did go in our garden (next door have a vulnerable child) but we told them asap and stayed away from the fence by 2m. It didnt cross our minds not to use the garden, we just wanted them to be aware

@ScarletFever i understand that but our next door neighbour is definitely in the shielded group. Cancer related

Anyway. I think the best thing to do is to stay inside until I either get a positive result or the 7 days Is up. Next door is stuck in
Their house for the foreseeable so maybe I need to be less selfish and just stay inside.

If you know your neighbour is on influximab, I presume you're on more than nodding terms. Do you think you could compromise and 'book' yourself an hour in the garden every day, during daylight hours? Fresh air is really important, not least for sanity.

What sort of barrier separates your gardens?

How wide are your gardens??

I can’t believe that happened to you!
Why would a patient do that?

I honestly can’t get my head around it. Bless you.

Given the accuracy of the tests it's unlikely you will get a positive result to be honest. It's it 14 days if you've been in contact with someone with symptoms or who has tested positive and not 7? My understanding was it was 7 days from your last symptom if you had symptoms, and 14 days if you had been in contact with someone with symptoms/someone who tested positive.

If you cannot safely use your garden, staying 2m away from the boundaries, then you need to self isolate in your house like everyone else is advised to do.

Come on, if you work in ICU you know you're not going to infect your neighbour from your garden even if you have COVID.