Solve a dispute?!

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Do I have to stay inside?

My neighbour is shielding (think biological medication) and I work in ICU, I got attacked (spat at by a patient who is covid +ve, ) and Ive gone for a test as I have a temperature and I'm off work for a week.. we have to when we get attacked like that.

However my aibu is can i go i my garden or not? My garden is technically longer than their garden but if I was to utilise our garden to the extent that it didn't affect them then I would have to use and stay in our bottom garden forever.

If they are shielding then the onus is on them to stay indoors.

@beebeedandelion No it isn't. You are allowed to use your guarding if you are shielding. Do you really think they've told people you cannot use your garden for more than 12 weeks? Given that people are now being told to shield until the middle of July.

I would have said maybe you can have a week each? So ask your neighbour to stay in for a week and you stay in for a week? However your point about them being stuck in for the foreseeable future is true so it would be kind of you to stay indoors for the whole two weeks. Yes its unlikely they will catch it from you but I think better to be safe.

And sorry about what happened to you, that is horrendous. I hope they have been charged.

As long as you’re 2m away then that’s fine, maybe just stay a bit away from their fence if you can for their comfort if they’re outside but you don’t have to stay inside

@complexico people who are self isolating haven't been told they can't use their gardens either so it's a matter of opinion. The shielding neighbours need to take responsibility for their safety and op needs to take it for hers, relying on others to take responsibility for your own safety leads to greater infection.

@beebeedandelion The shielding neighbours may be happy to compromise, but only if the OP actually goes and tells them she's at increased risk of having it.

Strange. You claim to work in ICU but do not know this? And are asking Mumsnet for sympathy and attention advice rather than your team?

I’m shielded and the garden is keeping me sane. Using the bottom sounds ok but if I were your neighbour it would increase my anxiety and I’d not go outside if you were out.

Sorry this happened to you.

When did shielded move to July? I’m in the group that didn’t get initially advised by post by mr dr confirmed 12 weeks on Friday, backdated to the original start date, I’ve already been shielded for 5 weeks as it was clear I should be. The 12 weeks is from then, not when you get the letter and we’ll get more information closer to mid June.

I'd stay at least 2 meters away from any shared garden fence. It's probably being on the safer side but I know I'd feel awful if I caused someone shielding to catch this.

@Redcherries is been confirmed until the end of June was originally the 15th.

@Redcherries my text
NHS Coronavirus Service: Your condition means you may be at high risk of severe illness if you catch Coronavirus. Please remain at home until the end of June unless a healthcare professional tells you to leave. You will get a letter from the NHS to confirm this
Support is available for you if you need it to get help with getting food and basic care. Please complete this short form to tell us whether you need this: www.gov.uk/coronavirus-extremely-vulnerable
If you cannot sign up on the website, call us on 0800 028 8327
The NHS is still here for you. You will get the care you need, but it is more likely to be via phone or online

I think staying 2m from the boundary is fine.

You both need to use the garden; just take it in turns.

Couldn't you both use your gardens at different times? How close are you actually likely to come to your neighbor if you're both in the garden at the same time?

Again how wide is your garden?

@Redcherries The letter is very clear that it's from the date you got the letter with no mention of being backdated. I have shielded now for 8 weeks, I was told I still need to go from the date of the letter.

This is the problem isn't it so much confusion for the shielded. I can only go on what my Dr has advised me as my condition was missed off the database search so I haven't had any other advice or support. The support group I'm in have all had conflicting advice too.

Also some of my support group who have had letters noticed the letters were arriving in the last week but dated March 21st. (Not all but some)

Anyway. I think the best thing to do is to stay inside until I either get a positive result or the 7 days Is up. Next door is stuck in
Their house for the foreseeable so maybe I need to be less selfish and just stay inside.

I think this is fair, you'd hate yourself if they caught it off you

If you have it then the only way you can pass it on is to spit / cough on them. Weart a mask and use youyr garden.

If you want to be ultra resonsible maybe have a couple of times you will be using the garden, say 9-11 then 2-3 or whatever.

Reading this some reply's are batshit crazy!

There are over 12 hours of daylight.

Surely you can talk about you wanting to protect the neighbour so you will be in your garden from 12-2 (or whatever) each day if he would like to go inside to shield during this time he may?