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Baby name regret

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Malteaser91 · 25/04/2020 15:21

I have a beautiful nine month old baby girl. Since she was about 6 weeks old (just after we registered the birth) I have had a little regret about her name. I always had a shortlist of Olivia, Lyla, Emilia or Millie. We decided to go with Lyla Rose. I love her name, therefore have tried to just get on with it, however I really feel as though I have her the wrong name and I feel like a terrible parent for it. For some reason one of the other names just seems to suit her so much more so when I look at her I just see her as xxxxx. I have even thought about adding it as a forename, therefore xxxxx Lyla Rose, but I feel like people would think I’m crazy. I know you have a year to change the birth certificate. Please, please don’t judge I just feel as though this feeling isn’t going away and don’t want a lifetime of regret that I gave my baby the wrong name. I just want to know peoples thoughts

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Soubriquet · 25/04/2020 15:23

If you want to, do it

She’s young enough to adapt and people will get over it

For what it’s worth Lyla is a lovely name

Wefghkmnffc · 25/04/2020 15:25

If you don't feel the name is suitable for your baby change it. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. She's yours, you know her better than anyone.

lemontreebird · 25/04/2020 15:28

I'd change it, as you're not happy. It's nice to be comfortable with your name choice.

You don't have to keep the Lyla if you just prefer say, Olivia Rose (or whichever name).

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 25/04/2020 15:29

Change it and don’t worry about it at all, it’s no big deal in the grand scheme of things, just give her the name you want and have Lyla Rose as her middle name, easily rectified!

FizzyGreenWater · 25/04/2020 15:31

Yes I'd absolutely change it before a year. It really is fine!

Maria53 · 25/04/2020 15:33

Change it! Keen to know the preferred name.

forgivemeimnew · 25/04/2020 15:41

If you’re not happy with it then change it, for what it’s worth I think Lyla-Rose is a lovely name.

Lovely1a2b3c · 25/04/2020 15:44

Definitely change it as nine months is long enough to know how you feel about it.

Just let friends/family know that you've decided she suits Olivia/Millie/Emilia so much better. I mean she could be one of those, with Lyla as a nickname.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 25/04/2020 15:47

Change it. She’ll have it forever.

Tulio · 25/04/2020 15:49

Not helpful but would you even be able to change it at the moment? I know the registry offices aren’t registering babies right now. Or is it an online kind of thing?

Nottherealslimshady · 25/04/2020 15:53

Change it if that's what you want, the earlier the better, she doesn't k ow her name yet. Dont beat yourself up about it though, it'll just be a funny story to tell her when shes older.

Wilberforce1 · 25/04/2020 15:55

I would change it while she is still young, people will have an opinion but in a years time no one will mention it. I wish I had done this with my dd, she has a name my husband liked and I just kind of got swept along after her birth but then quickly realised I didn't love it. She is 6 now and i really don't think it suits her but it's too late to change it, one of the names I wanted would really suit her!

Purpletigers · 25/04/2020 15:58

Lyla is a very pretty name but change it if you don’t love it . People can mind their own business . She’s your daughter.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 25/04/2020 15:58

Just change it...

You're NOT a bad mother....

This is just horrid intrusive chatter in your head!

thecartofhelena · 25/04/2020 15:59

I changed my babies name, albeit at a week old, she just wasnt a Natalie, we still have all the congrats cards that we got and now shes 18, we still talk about her alter ego, but it was the right decision for us and her.

snowybean · 25/04/2020 16:02

I think you can change a baby's name easily up to the first year (I seem to remember that when I registered my baby). You'll not regret it and Lyla Rose won't remember ever being called Lyla Rose

Walkon · 25/04/2020 16:10

My mom changed my name years ago, just before the cut off point. Thank the lord she did , I HATE the original name she first chose!

x2boys · 25/04/2020 16:15

Lyla Rose is a,beautiful name btw but I think you can change it on the birth certificate in the first 12 months?

1234asdf · 25/04/2020 16:24

Change it.

Lyla Rose sounds like a gypsy fortuneteller at a village fete.

Gre8scott · 25/04/2020 16:36

Hi no someone who changed there daughters name after 6months they said they just couldn't shake the feeling it was the wrong name so they changed it

Wide0penSpace · 25/04/2020 16:47

1234asdf
How rude.

shinyredbus · 25/04/2020 20:48

She’s your daughter - do what you want 🤷🏻‍♀️

ElMadgo · 25/04/2020 20:59

Another one here who thinks just change it, she’s your baby and you know her best. Lyla is a beautiful name though x

RingaRosie · 25/04/2020 21:03

Start using the preferred name at home, yourself. If it makes sense / feels right, then go with the official change of name.

Marlena1 · 25/04/2020 21:06

I definitely don't think it's too late (plus all your names are lovely) but I don't think I would do it just because it doesn't suit her. That's just me tho, I can never see how some babies look like an "X". Mine were both named before birth.