Baby name regret

[Malteaser91]

I have a beautiful nine month old baby girl. Since she was about 6 weeks old (just after we registered the birth) I have had a little regret about her name. I always had a shortlist of Olivia, Lyla, Emilia or Millie. We decided to go with Lyla Rose. I love her name, therefore have tried to just get on with it, however I really feel as though I have her the wrong name and I feel like a terrible parent for it. For some reason one of the other names just seems to suit her so much more so when I look at her I just see her as xxxxx. I have even thought about adding it as a forename, therefore xxxxx Lyla Rose, but I feel like people would think I’m crazy. I know you have a year to change the birth certificate. Please, please don’t judge I just feel as though this feeling isn’t going away and don’t want a lifetime of regret that I gave my baby the wrong name. I just want to know peoples thoughts

Do it. I’ve never been entirely happy with the name we gave ds-he’s almost 18 now.

Definitely change it! I wish I’d done this with DS’s middle name, which I now really dislike!

PS I would defo change it though, if that's what you want. People will soon forget and it's your baby. YANBU

Pretty name but I know 3 babies with that name.That may not be an issue for you but if you want to change it just do so.

Change it! Who cares what anyone else says, she’s your child. You, your partner and above all your daughter have to live with the name, not anyone else. Change it now before she’s aware of it and she won’t be any the wiser until you tell her when she’s older.

Lyla Rose is beautiful name and less common than the others too
I do think it would be strange to change it at this stage. Maybe add in one of the names as a middle name so she can use it as she gets older if she prefers

It is definitely not to late to change it but I am going against the grain here. I like the name Lyla and would worry that she will question you when she is older and ask why you changed her name when she preferred Lyla. It will always be listed in the bc.

Change it, and as others have said just tell people that the other name suits her better. You’ve given it enough thought if you’re 9 months in and still feeling this way.

Love the name Lyla though!

YANBU

Just be prepared for some family and friends to fumble over her name for a bit (e.g. "Hello, Lyl-ooops, New Name!").

I wouldn't judge a mum who changed her child's name at 9 months - do it if you want to :)

Change it. You've had 9 months to get used to it / learn to love it and you haven't, so you probably won't.

I'd put preferred name first then Lyla Rose.
Do it.

I regret the spelling of my daughters name. Lol change it if you really want, won't regret it and she doesn't know it's her name!

Personally I wouldn't change it. I don't really get this idea of someone not suiting a name, as I think they grow into their name. (Unless the meaning doesn't 'work' e.g. Hope is really pessimistic). My DS's name felt a bit too grown up when he was newborn (it's a normal top 50 name) but it's definitely his name now at one. What does your partner think?

Just change it - no drama.

I've heard of people doing this before. They started calling their child by the new name quite early on and changed it a little later when they knew it felt right.

Honestly a year down the line no one will even remember the old name.

I know people who’s mums changed their names and 3 who changed their babies names. No big deal.

I have an 12 year old Lyla and she never looked much like it when she was younger either tbh , but she's defiantly a Lyla now iykwim and she loves her name .
I posted a very similar thread to this with dd2 name but decided to give it time 5 years later and she's grown into hers too 😂.
Do what you feels right though but do it soon if your going too .

Technically since you are just adding on an extra name at the beginning, I would argue that you're not even really changing it, just adding a bit on! Do it. Nobody else will care. If you really feel that her name is one of the others then you should change the birth certificate to reflect it. You will feel so much better when you do.

What does your husband think? Will this come as a huge shock to him? It's a joint decision

I feel you! I had this with my little girl. Name regret is a real thing. I didn’t know this was a thing before she was born. How did you get on? What did you do?

Yes, just change it. This happens more often than you think. My younger sisters both had their names changed a few weeks after birth, and just last year, a close friend picked her daughters name before birth, used it for a few weeks, and realized it didn’t suit.

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Indeed. But now I feel the need to know what happened!

Hi,

I need some advice pleaseeee!
I can’t stop thinking about my baby girls name and I made the wrong choice. I adore her name and still do but everyone seems to pronounce it wrong and it really gets to me. She is almost 2 I have thought about this literally since I registered her but just thought I cannot change it. My partner loves the name but wanted it spelt different, and now I regret not listening to him or considering having it spelt that way. She’s nearly 2 so I can’t change it now but I don’t know whether to change the spelling or just wait till she is older and if she wants to change the spelling if she’s getting annoying with constantly correcting people she can? I can’t believe I didn’t think there would be a problem atall when I saw the name and pronounciation 😩 I think about this everyday and all the other girls names that I could have chosen that would have been so much easier xxx