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To regret accepting a friend request

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Bashfulbanana42 · 24/04/2020 23:29

When I was at school two brothers (not twins) were in my year. I knew one way more than the other. I see him in a local restaurant sometimes as he is the chef. I have him on facebook. His brother added me on Facebook this week and without thinking I accepted as I have many old school people on mine and it's nice to keep in touch and see what they have been up too. (early 30s)

As soon as I accepted his request I regretted it. He is with a women from school who comes from a very "hard family" they have kids together. He's doing boxing and has alot of tough people on his page. (I had a scroll through)

One thing that's bothering me is he has a few lads in common with me but none of the other females from school. I just presumed some would be on there.

The thing is now I'm worried his girlfriend will want to know why he added me. I don't know why he's added me now I've seen his page. I certainly don't want any trouble or to piss her off.

I can't really just delete him again can I? Is that rude as I have his brother on mine? I know how ridiculous this post looks. It's just I don't want any hassle. Or am I overthinking it? I'll be honest theres alot of people on his page that you wouldn't mess with. Aghhhh why did I accept. He doesn't seem to add women really which makes me worry even more

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lifeisgoodmostofthetime · 25/04/2020 00:42

Delete and block him that way he wont be able to look for you if he realises you've unfriended him.

Ghostoast · 25/04/2020 07:09

Why would you think his girlfriend would feel threatened by you??

YouJustDoYou · 25/04/2020 07:12

Why on earth would you assume his gf would feel threatened by you?

pasturesgreen · 25/04/2020 07:19

You're waaay overthinking this, OP. Just remove and block and stop adding randoms you haven't seen in 20 years if you're going to be so paranoid about it.

Figgygal · 25/04/2020 07:22

Overthinking
Just unfollow and move on.

GinDrinker00 · 25/04/2020 07:28

Why would his girlfriend be threatened by you? Bit of a over the top thing to jump too from a simple friends request? You’re putting way to much importance onto Facebook...

Lou670 · 25/04/2020 07:53
Confused
SunshineCake · 25/04/2020 07:56

Delete now. You're an adult. Don't be scared of him and his girlfriend.

Moonlite · 25/04/2020 08:02

100% delete him

Hunnybears · 25/04/2020 08:31

Overthink this. Just delete. Pretty sure he won’t even realise as you can’t tell who has deleted you etc.

Umnoway · 25/04/2020 08:34

This is totally bonkers and you’re overthinking it. Do you think his girlfriend is going to find you and kill you because her boyfriend added you on FB? Don’t be so ridiculous. Just delete him if you don’t want him on there or block him.

Pinkginhelps · 25/04/2020 08:36

Unfollow - he won't notice

redcarbluecar · 25/04/2020 08:40

Unfollow him and don't like/comment on any of his posts. Or delete and block.

LuluJakey1 · 25/04/2020 09:04

Delete Facebook - it's appalling.

Doggodogington · 25/04/2020 09:05

I also don’t understand why his GF would kick off? Do you and he have a history? Do you and her have a history? Are you so attractive that no man can resist you?
It’s pretty normal to add people and not actually fancy them.

Hanfulofdust · 25/04/2020 09:08

Like PP I think you're massively over thinking it. Unless he's writing sleazy comments on all your pictures he probably just saw your name pop up and added you without much thought. Likewise I doubt his partner would give it more than a second's thought either.

EdersonsSmileyTattoo · 25/04/2020 09:14

Why would you think that his girlfriend will kick off because he’s become your Facebook friend? Confused

Very bizarre!

IKEA888 · 25/04/2020 09:26

Don't worry just unfollow him and forget all about it.. in a few weeks delete

Theresnobslikeshowb · 25/04/2020 10:03

If it makes you feel any better I’m fb with a lot of the ‘hard’ and ‘bitchy’ girls from school and around my town. Some of them I was terrified of! But everyone’s grown up, people like each other’s photos, comment on the same posts, ask how the children are, and offer to help for things. Some of the girls have even admitted how horrible they were. Some of admitted it was because things were going on at home that no one knew about. So don’t worry about it- I think you are over thinking things.

Myohmy111 · 25/04/2020 11:16

Am I the only one thinking that SHE might be wanting to be nosey and has put him up to it, as you've already got his brother on there as an 'in', so that she can check you out incognito - not as a perceived threat to her boyfriend but as a former schoolmate she's curious about?!.

WTF? Seriously?? Your imagination is unbelievable. You’ve gone even further than the OP and that’s saying something!

boylovesmeerkats · 25/04/2020 11:41

You're over thinking it. I'm Facebook friends with a guy from school who is a granddad in his mid 30s. Different worlds but he was a nice kids, don't even know or care who else he's friends with. You can always set your Facebook permissions so he can't see much and you can't see his annoying posts.

NoMorePoliticsPlease · 25/04/2020 11:43

I regularly get friends requests from people I know havent sent them (I have asked)

Howdidido · 25/04/2020 11:44

Unfriendly. He wont be notified. It's fine.

Brefugee · 25/04/2020 11:44

just delete. it's not difficult

Hennypenny95 · 25/04/2020 12:11

TBF, I'm FB friends with a number of the hard girls from my school, who, as a child, I was thoroughly scared of, but who are now pretty nice women. Don't make assumptions about her maybe?
You are waaaaay over thinking this, OP.

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