Should I let my son go to his dad’s?

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My son is due to go to his dad’s a week today but I’m torn as to whether I should let him go.

My ex’s wife is a teacher and is having to go into school 2 days a week. The school is very small so only a few children are attending, and social distancing measures are in place, but it obviously means she’s coming into contact with potential carriers. My ex is doing building work on his property and is coming into contact with a few people on site.

If I let him go over, then there’s obviously a chance that my son could pick the virus up from them and give it to me. I’m low risk and I’m not coming into contact with anyone else, so no potential for me to pass it on if I get it.

If I don’t let him go over, then who knows when my son will next see his dad. And there’s no way to keep totally away from this virus forever. At some point the schools will go back and then we’ll be exposed anyway.

YABU to let him go to his dad’s
YANBU to NOT let him go to his dad’s

YANBU

I'd let him go. The risks are fairly low and worth it because it's important for him to spend time with his dad.

My children’s dad and step mum are key workers . They have been to stay with them. If someone in my house was shielding or very vulnerable I wouldn’t let them .

Is it up to you whether he sees his other parent?

Surely that's up to your ex and son (depending how old he is).

The risks are so low and it's important that in all this disruption kids get time with both parents.

I would let him go.

You say you’re low risk. Therefore I’d let him go. The risk to you is small even if you get it, and it’s important that he is able to see his dad.

Is anyone high risk? If not, yes I’d let him go.

The lockdown will end before the thread of the virus goes away. We’re going to have to get used to and live with this.

Your not vulnerable. He should be allowed to go

You should let him go to his Dads. It’s allowed under the rules, and is in your sons best interests.

@fedupwiththisshitnow his dad has left it up to me to decide. My son is 12.

Do you realise your poll means both options agree with you?!

What does DS want to do?

Of course you should let him go

I let mine go and their Dad’s partner works in ICU.

Their mental health is important too. Plus I’m fairly confident we’ve had it and passed the isolation period.

We’re not high risk is another factor. And don’t have to mix with any one else who is. Or anyone else at all.

I cant vote as they both mean the same!

Let him go, nobody is vulnerable.

Of course he should go if he wants to.
Parent child relationship are essential for everyone's mental wellbeing.
My ds is going to his dad so long as we're all symptom free.
I cant imagine not seeing him for weeks and i would never expect my ex to either.

Of course he should go. None of you have any health conditions and are extremely low risk of complications even if you do get it

That poll is so confusing! I think you should let him go

Let him go to his dad’s. My grandkids go between their mum and dad and one of the parents is frontline at a Covid field hospital.
Both those voting options are the same as you have used a double negative in the YANBU option

Your vote means the same thing

Of course he should go

Of course he should see his dad!

You vote makes no sense. Of course send him!!