Should I let my son go to his dad’s?

[Comicshadows]

My son is due to go to his dad’s a week today but I’m torn as to whether I should let him go.

My ex’s wife is a teacher and is having to go into school 2 days a week. The school is very small so only a few children are attending, and social distancing measures are in place, but it obviously means she’s coming into contact with potential carriers. My ex is doing building work on his property and is coming into contact with a few people on site.

If I let him go over, then there’s obviously a chance that my son could pick the virus up from them and give it to me. I’m low risk and I’m not coming into contact with anyone else, so no potential for me to pass it on if I get it.

If I don’t let him go over, then who knows when my son will next see his dad. And there’s no way to keep totally away from this virus forever. At some point the schools will go back and then we’ll be exposed anyway.

YABU to let him go to his dad’s
YANBU to NOT let him go to his dad’s

My vote doesn't make sense, you're all right!

YABU to let him go to his dad's
YANBU to let him go to his dad's

Hope that's better

his dad has left it up to me to decide

It sounds like he's decided to palm the decision off on you. Could you arrange a call where you discuss this and come up with a decision together? That way neither of you can be blamed by your son for the choice if he's unhappy.

If he's unwilling to engage then I would keep to the normal pattern, the risk is really low so not much point upsetting the routine.

Why would you not let him go. Seems to me very little risk and your not vulnerable.

@Comicshadows still confusing! Do you actually mean:

YABU - I should let him go to his dad's
YANBU I should not let him go to his dad's

Your vote is confusing.

He should he his Dad.

Has he been to his dad's since lockdown? Over a month seems a long time without seeing him.

Still confused by the voting choices, OP, but you should definitely let him go.

Your poll makes no sense even with your edit.
You are being unreasonable, it's not even a decision, your son goes to his dad's as normal.

Forget the vote, I've made a right bugger's muddle of it 😂

He went to his dad in the Easter holidays. His dad and wife made sure they didn't see anyone for 14 days before he went over. Before the Easter hols his wife was able to just work from home, but now she has been added to the rota to go into school. And his dad stopped all building work.

We’ve decided my son isn’t going to go to his Dad’s during this lockdown- though he’s 15 so no doubt older and different issues.

I’m a key worker and very exposed to this virus, his dad’s wife is a teacher and in school, and her kids also are going back and forth to their dads. The joys of mixed families. But we decided potentially mixing 3 different households, 2 of which have higher risk workers, seemed a risk too far.

So far it’s worked with no drama’s but he face times/Snapchat’s/ whatever 15 yr olds do, and it’s ok so far. We did consider him going to his Dad’s for the duration but he didn’t want too, it is a fair way away.

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong; different families and situations require different solutions. Nothing’s set in stone either- we’re all open to reviewing the plan if needed.

Definitely let him go