What type of house do you live in - kids' behaviour (neighbours)

[Belledan1]

Do you think if you lived in a detached house,(currently live in semi/flat/terraced) your child would be more well behaved and do as they are told? Are you in a detached house, do your kids follows the rules?

I don't want this to be a parent thrashing thread, I know if i was stricter with my teenage child when younger could have perhaps nipped some of this in the bud. DC very cheeky and defiant to myself and DH, good outside for others. Live semi detached, Had issues with DC not doing as told. Neighbours complained one day of noise they can hear. (Yes i know i should not have shouted). They have 2 kids now so get some noise back. But it does make me very conscious of punishments now and think if I was in a detached house i would be more strict and not perhaps let some behaviour go. I was just wondering if some of the people on here who seem to say their kids do as they are told and follow routine have no neighbours??

I live in a detached house . I roar at my kids .

But surely it isn't about the parent being loud and shouty to discipline their child but about avoiding children having loud tantrums where you would normally stick to your guns and say "no, you can cry and scream all you want you cant do x", you do not feel able to follow through with that approach as the screaming and crying from your children will result in neighbour complaints so you capitulate much sooner than you would have were you not worried about your child disturbing the neighbours

No, I don't think so. NT kids don't tend to scream and cry and throw fits past toddlerhood unless it gets them their way. In the long term you're making more noise by capitulating to the tantrum. There's a reason OP's son isn't throwing massive tantrums at school or when with other adults. It's learned behaviour at that age and is being used as a manipulative tactic.

I think if the meltdowns are during the day and you are dealing with them consistently then the neighbours will have to suck up the noise. (they can use the radio to mask it!)

Short term pain for long term gain.

Maybe chat to them (at a distance!) about it?

When ours grew up we lived in a semi-detached house.

It's about values and boundaries from day one. If your values are about encouragement, good behaviour, good manners, hard work, being pleasant, not disturbimg the neighbours/scooting and cycling on pavements/respecting others in society, it matters not a jot whether you live in a tower block, terrace, semi, detached or stately home in the middle of your own county.

Blubelle that's exactly what i was trying to say but it came out all wrong.

We have sort of cleared the air with neighbours now but I obviously still conscious when there is a meltdown from DC. The calm attitude i am using is def helping though on both sides.