To feel saddened and guilty that my (keyworker) child does not do the set class learning whilst attending school?

[WishIWasARunner]

DS (4) attends school as I am full time keyworker. i have some time off this week and have been following the class set online learning. It became apparent we couldn't do various things as needed to do the preceeding work over past few weeks. I presumed he would be following his class learning while attending school. I checked in and was told they have Reception, Year 1 and Year 2 in together so not following the online learning. Not only do I feel guilty for putting him in school, but to add to it I now know he's not following his class learning which puts him at disadvantage

He's only 4, how much learning should he be doing realistically?
I know hardly any 4yo that even go to school. I wouldn't worry about it.

Also loads of kids are in the same boat. How much learning do you think the kids at home are doing if their parents are working from home?

He's 4, I wouldn't worry.

I really doubt he is at a disadvantage for getting contact time in school vs getting worksheets sent home.

OP please don’t worry about it. The vast majority of children won’t be doing it at home either. Mine are currently running about in the garden fighting the Coronavirus with pretend guns. All I’ve achieved today is a conversation about poetry (no actual poetry written). Some mathseeds completed half heartedly and a spelling test. Fuck knows what I’ll manage to drag out and of him this afternoon.

He is at no disadvantage. Most work that is being set is only going over stuff anyway. There is minimal new learning involved and where there is, it isnt to the expected standard.

I think he's actually more advantaged being at school, as it will be developing his social skills and if it is anything like our school, they will be having lots of fun!

AT 4 you don't need to worry at all. Lots of kids will have parents working from home and will be sat in front of CBeebies all day. He's getting some socialising in a mixed age group so is better off than most. I would try to have him read 10 minutes a day and read to him too, give him lots of chances to hold a pencil to draw to dot to dots or whatever and not worry about phonics too much!

Yes, I agree with pp he's definitely at an advantage by going to school.

He'll be fine.

Age 4 a lot of learning is play based and social. So having some time playing with friends and some at home with you is perfect.

He's 4...my 9 and 10 yo are doing sod all learning tbh

Let him watch numberblocks and alphablocks, maybe check out some of the BBC Bitesize lessons if you’re worried.

Definitely try to read to him every day.

But be happy that he is getting social interaction and lovely activities because that’s what the other 4 year olds are really missing out on.

Justanotherneighinparadise
Mine are currently running about in the garden fighting the Coronavirus with pretend guns.

Love it!!

He is 4 school is a childcare setting atm how much work do you think at home 4 year olds are doing, please don't sweat it.

He's only 4. Just calm down. Most children aren't learning loads so please don't worry.

My DH and I are key workers WFH with a 6yo and 2yo. very little learning is being done I can assure you.

Schools aren’t delivering the curriculum to children who attend.
It’s basically someone minding them who might be able to help them with work if they’re struggling. No way could they deliver anything like the curriculum. YABVU.

At 4, you can do some colouring, handwriting practise and read stories together. Let him help you load the laundry, empty the dishwasher, sort socks, bake, cook dinner, write shopping lists. Draw a nice picture with a few words to post to grandparents, or a friend. Practise adding real world items and coins. Lots of physical activity, running, jumping, throwing, catching. Lots of nice food - vegetables, fruit, meat etc. Lots of cuddles.

This is what I'm doing with my yrR dc. He has come on leaps and bounds.

@Panpastels my 9 and 10 year olds won’t do a bloody thing.

He's 4!

Yabu

I thought it was made clear from day one schools would only be providing basic childcare? No teaching or structured learning.
It was one of the factors that lead me to keep mine at home, despite ‘qualifying’ for the help as DH is a key worker.
We’ve been keeping up with the home learning, despite having a demanding 2 year old at home.
I do worry about the disparity between children who are being given undivided attention at home and flying through the curriculum while others will be effectively doing nothing.
I guess this will all be taken into consideration when they go back and the teachers are experienced at managing differing abilities anyway, so hopefully not too much of a challenge for them.

You are So not being unreasonable! This annoys me. We are both key workers and have a 10, 8 and 7 year old in school. We live in an affluent area where people are doing the online learning as a minimum followed by spanish/ music/ science etc. making a full school curriculum. We have had our hours increased and school are doing childcare only. Feels as if we are being penalised for working.

Im a TA and Im in school working some days this week and I was also in over the Easter holidays. There are 3 members of staff plus children in various years from nursery up to Year 6. Ours are following the home learning as much as possible but quite honestly it's incredibly difficult to ensure that 20 or so children all at different ages, abilities and stages in their work are able to complete all of it. I usually work in Year 2 yet Im trying to help Year 6's.
What Im trying to say is please don't get the school staff a hard time...we are trying our best in difficult circumstances.

I'm in scotland so I'm really confused as to.how he could be 4 at this stage in the year. In scotland, you start school (primarily 1) at 4 or 5. Anyone who starts at 4 will turn 5 before March. If they wont, then they will start school the following year at the age of 5 so no one would be in school at the end of April and still be 4.

He's four, he needs to play. Nothing is more important.

@Weregoingonanadventure he will turn five between tomorrow and August 31st.