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Original poster

to want to kill dh for running off to england rugby match half way through

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PSCMUM · 14/09/2007 20:56

..walk home from lovely meal out with dd, dh and me. we haven't seen much of each other for ages, with work etc, and he got nice promotion today and so he said lets go out for supper, so i said lovelly, we met there after work, with dd, and it was all lovely. no arguments, nothing. then on way home, i wash pushing pram, and i thought we were strolling the moonlit streets having a lvoely chat, and suddenly he says...'can i just run home to the rugby?' and off he goes.. i just accepted and said ok, bye, and started walking quick, then suddenly he is back neside me again asking why i hate him, i am alwyas stroppy, never affectionate, haven't had sex with him for so long, and so he thinks we are just people who share a mortgage rather than people hwo love each other!!!!
how did that happen?!
I'm now on MN, he is watching the sodding rugby.

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CountessScabula · 14/09/2007 20:57

did you say it in a stroppy way?

i would say
he felt guilty at ruining the moment so decided to take it out on you

Roskva · 14/09/2007 20:59

My dh sodded off to the TV just as I was about to put dinner on the plates. I did contemplate giving his to the dog, but as it was the outrageously expensive duck I bought at the farmer's market this morning, I relented and ate in the lounge with him. So I'm leaving him the washing up [evil grin with arms crossed emoticon]

CountessScabula · 14/09/2007 21:00

i farking hate rugby

I love footie though
So I understand why he wants to watch it I just find it SOOOOOOOOOOOO dull zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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PSCMUM · 14/09/2007 21:00

no, i really didn't say it in a stroppy way cos altho i was disappointed, i actually didn't mind that much, but i do mind the rest of it, like that i am not affectionate etc. no. i don't want to have sex, i want to have sleep. i don't want to have sex with anyone ever, but he thinks this is some kind of sleight on our relationship.

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PSCMUM · 14/09/2007 21:01

i understand why he wants to watch it too. but i am furoious nonethles.

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MillyMollyAngel · 14/09/2007 21:04

I had rare nite out planned with friend in local pub - wine, catch up etc. Then DH 'reminds' me rugby is on so he's off to the same pub to watch match (what's wrong with TV at home !!!!), however he'll come back at 9.30pm (how kind)so I can go out as previously arranged. So like you PSCMUM, I'm sat here wondering 'how did that happen'???

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PSCMUM · 14/09/2007 21:06

wow, bet you are so grateful!
the stupid rugby.
even stupider dh

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CountessScabula · 14/09/2007 21:07

maybe he is frustrated due to lack of sex and it is coming out in this way

heifer · 14/09/2007 21:07

Just to warn you - England are getting hammered - so his mood won't have improved much!...

CountessScabula · 14/09/2007 21:09

GOOD
I am supporting Australia (I hate them but it annoys dh and I am half Australian, I never support them in anything usually, it is my petty anti rugby protest)

satine · 14/09/2007 21:12

My DH said to me last week "You do know that I will be watching the rugby for the nextfew weeks, don't you?" Right, so from now on I am within my rights to say "Ok, we'll be watching every re-run of Sex and The City and ER that is shown. Oh, and if there are any Meg Ryan films on, we'll be watching them, too. Somehow I don't think so.

satine · 14/09/2007 21:13

Is this the kind of tournament where England could be knocked out early on? (she asks hopefully....)

CountessScabula · 14/09/2007 21:13

oh mine just said
you can go on mumsnet

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PSCMUM · 14/09/2007 21:13

my protest is that I am half reading bridget jones and half on mums net. i want to read 'i don't know how she does it' as well but i can't find it. yes, he could well be serioulsy frustrated due to lack of sex but he can go and stick it in a tree for all i care.

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CountessScabula · 14/09/2007 21:14

oh dear
that doesn't sound good

You sound like you have ishoos

Anna8888 · 14/09/2007 21:20

Feel happy you only have TV rugby to distract your DHs. My partner is at the match... and he has got invitations for next Friday and for the final too

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PSCMUM · 14/09/2007 21:22

its not that he is wathing it that bothers. its the way it all turned into a big hullbaloo about nothing when we had had such a lovely evening. o anyway. who cares. entire in laws extended family coming over for lunch tomorrow so perfect hostile atmosphere for them to arrive to!

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satine · 14/09/2007 21:22

But Anna, at least you can watch what you want, in peace, without shouting, groaning, gnashing of teeth and flinging around of arms (actually, now I come to think of it, it's not unlike the noise of two squabbling toddlers watching TV)

DANCESwithTheMorningOff · 14/09/2007 21:24

bloody rugby...grr..

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PSCMUM · 14/09/2007 21:26

o ffs now his brother is here and they are both shouting at the telly like a pair of caevmen,

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marge2 · 14/09/2007 21:33

Hi Countess - It's actualy S Africa they are being slaughtered by - sorry playing tonight - though the colours are similar. Green/ yellow / schmellow!

My DH also in a FOUL rugby mood. Has used mood to refuse to come to our Christmas Ante natal reunion that I have just mentioned three months in advance. Girls see each other every week for last 4 years - blokes once in a blue moon.

Excuse is my Mum refuses to Babysit - which she doesn't - I just don't ask her as she already looks after two Dss two full days per week. She WOULD babysit if I asked. Says HE will babysit while I go alone.

Bloody cheers, mate. Everyone elses Dh will be there...

So I have flounced out to join you guys... and here I am!!!

Holly29 · 14/09/2007 21:35

Take comfort from the fact that I bet he wishes he had stayed out with you - they are currently losing 33 to nil.

curiouscat · 14/09/2007 21:37

Hi, I was looking forward to watching the game myself but it's so boring I'm on mn. Sorry your evening was ruined though.

walbert · 14/09/2007 21:40

PSCMUM, it's the same in our house, every conversation veers from the mundane 'Are we having peas or salad' to 'I FEEL LIKE YOU WANT ME FOR MY MONEY' WE NEVER HAVE SEX RAH RAH RAH RAH RAH ZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzz. TBH, i find the flouncing around after a normal argument quite theraputic. And dh is also having to stick it in a tree, so keep up the good work: soon we shall crush their spirits completely!!!!

Dropdeadfred · 14/09/2007 21:45

and here me thinking you meant your dh ran to the rugby halfway through...sex...!!