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DH didn't buy me chocolate!

41 replies

CharDee · 20/04/2020 20:55

Sort of light hearted but I am a bit annoyed! I know there are bigger things to be annoyed at and other people are having a much tougher time than me!

I haven't had sweets or chocolate or sugary things for about 3 weeks now. I have been trying to cut down and with everything going on decided to cut them out completely.

This morning I came on my period. I have had irregular periods for a few months after a miscarriage and changing pills. Today I have been so drained, had awful cramps and have thrown up too. I feel awful, this is definitely the worst period I've had in a long time.

I ran out of towels so asked DH if he would mind getting me some from the local shop when he was going to pick up a few other essential bits that we couldn't get the other day. I asked him if he'd get me a bottle of coke and some chocolate too. He got home and said that he didn't get me any chocolate because it would make my next period worse and then thought that he'd get me a Diet Coke instead so that I didn't have anything sugary.

I'm really annoyed at him. I said that it wasn't up to him to decide if I was allowed chocolate or not and it's something so small and insignificant but I was really pissed off at how weirdly controlling he was being. I asked for these things because I wanted them and I'm not a child who needs to have their sugar intake monitored or policed. Also I have never heard that chocolate makes periods worse and the last thing I need right now is him telling me how periods work! I also don't like Diet Coke!

DH is usually amazing and I'm not sure if I'm just extra hormonal and moody today or if he has behaved like a weird dick! I think I'm more annoyed at the way he has acted rather than the lack of chocolate! Have I over reacted?

OP posts:
GertrudeCB · 20/04/2020 20:58

Nope, he was being an arse.

Sexnotgender · 20/04/2020 20:58

YANBU. Just eat him instead.

SharonasCorona · 20/04/2020 20:58

YANBU. I would tell him that next time to buy you what you asked for, he's your husband not your father! Next time he asks you for a treat get completely the wrong thing.

In the meantime, could you do a JustEat delivery from a local store? Admittedly I don't know if this possible in Covid-19 times but my local convenience store usually delivers.

Bingeslayer · 20/04/2020 20:59

No he was being a dick,he doesn't have a say as he doesn't have periods.

Littlepond · 20/04/2020 21:00

Ffs he mansplained your periods?!

RightOnTheEdge · 20/04/2020 21:01

YANBU! It's not you it's him OP.
He behaved like a weird dick.

What the heck is he on about it will make your next period worse? What kind of stupid fuckery is that?

I'm not surprised your annoyed.

RingaRosie · 20/04/2020 21:02

The Diet Coke would kill me... It’s not the same thing! You “need” the sugar right now, silly man!

CharDee · 20/04/2020 21:02

My 18 year old niece lives with us. She has just come down and asked what's up. I told her and she looked at DH and said "Oh my god, do you want her to divorce you? You don't get a say in what she eats and you definitely don't get to tell any woman what she's allowed to have on her period!" She stomped up to her room and came back down with chocolate from an Easter egg.

She's the best!

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wheresthehope · 20/04/2020 21:03

No definitely not. Send him back to the store pronto as it’s a essential item!

Haggisfish · 20/04/2020 21:05

Oh I’m on the fence, sorry. Sometimes I need Dh to say ‘no’ when I’m havering after Some wine. If he’s normally fab I think he’s just trying to help.

wheresthehope · 20/04/2020 21:05

But on a lighter note I was told when your craving chocolate or sugary stuff while on your period your body is actually craving vitamin c

ImPeckish · 20/04/2020 21:05

Your niece is wonderful.

Did he apologise?

ImPeckish · 20/04/2020 21:06

your body is actually craving vitamin c

Or magnesium.

Herpesfreesince03 · 20/04/2020 21:07

He’s going for the long term results thinking you’ll eventually thank him. He’s thinking you’ve completely cut out chocolate but now fallen off yeh wagon due to your period. He thinks he’s trying to do you a favour and after you’ll tell him ‘thanks for putting your foot down when I nearly gave up’. I wouldn’t be too harsh on him 😂😂

CharDee · 20/04/2020 21:07

I'm glad it's not me over reacting! Apparently his ex told him that about periods. I asked him in the 10+ years we've been together how many times have I had chocolate whilst on my period and if that has made my next period worse? He then said that when he said it out loud he realised it sounded ridiculous.

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CharDee · 20/04/2020 21:13

I do get that he was trying to help but I just really wanted chocolate and one small bar wouldn't hurt me!

I wasn't too hard on him. I laugh when I'm annoyed usually so it was hard to seem like he was being shouted at!

My niece has just told him how lucky he is to have me. My sister (her mum) apparently kicked her husband (nieces step dad) out once for coming home with the wrong pizza! She said that this situation is even worse god knows what would happen if he was married to the wrong sister!

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GinWithASplashOfTonic · 20/04/2020 21:16

LTB - he didn't get you chocolate like you asked. He mansplained periods and of all the things to mansplain that takes the biscuit. Then didn't get the coke you asked for because of his mansplaining

Ltb - I am getting worked up just thinking about.

BrewWineThanks🍫 hope you feel better soon

strawberry2017 · 20/04/2020 21:16

That would infuriate me! God bless your niece!

Saucy99 · 20/04/2020 21:29

You could always go to the shop yourself...

SharonasCorona · 20/04/2020 21:29

My sister (her mum) apparently kicked her husband (nieces step dad) out once for coming home with the wrong pizza!

Now that is definitely unreasonable (unless it was a joke?)

The house is not just a woman's domain!

SharonasCorona · 20/04/2020 21:30

@Saucy99

You could always go to the shop yourself...

If he had forgotten I would have suggested the same, but he didn't forget, he decided he knows better than OP what she needs, and that's unacceptable.

Beautiful3 · 20/04/2020 21:30

Your niece is awesome!

LinManWellWellWell · 20/04/2020 21:33

YANBU! ‘No uterus, no opinion!’ This is the kind of thing my husband would do too - thinking he was helping me out. Your niece is a star.

Sparklesocks · 20/04/2020 21:33

I’d be furious if my partner policed what I ate/drank - especially on my period!

Sparklesocks · 20/04/2020 21:35

@Saucy99 if her DH had done what had asked she wouldn’t need to, and it’s a bad time for people to be popping out

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