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DH didn't buy me chocolate!

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CharDee · 20/04/2020 20:55

Sort of light hearted but I am a bit annoyed! I know there are bigger things to be annoyed at and other people are having a much tougher time than me!

I haven't had sweets or chocolate or sugary things for about 3 weeks now. I have been trying to cut down and with everything going on decided to cut them out completely.

This morning I came on my period. I have had irregular periods for a few months after a miscarriage and changing pills. Today I have been so drained, had awful cramps and have thrown up too. I feel awful, this is definitely the worst period I've had in a long time.

I ran out of towels so asked DH if he would mind getting me some from the local shop when he was going to pick up a few other essential bits that we couldn't get the other day. I asked him if he'd get me a bottle of coke and some chocolate too. He got home and said that he didn't get me any chocolate because it would make my next period worse and then thought that he'd get me a Diet Coke instead so that I didn't have anything sugary.

I'm really annoyed at him. I said that it wasn't up to him to decide if I was allowed chocolate or not and it's something so small and insignificant but I was really pissed off at how weirdly controlling he was being. I asked for these things because I wanted them and I'm not a child who needs to have their sugar intake monitored or policed. Also I have never heard that chocolate makes periods worse and the last thing I need right now is him telling me how periods work! I also don't like Diet Coke!

DH is usually amazing and I'm not sure if I'm just extra hormonal and moody today or if he has behaved like a weird dick! I think I'm more annoyed at the way he has acted rather than the lack of chocolate! Have I over reacted?

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Mylittlepony374 · 20/04/2020 21:39

No. Fuck that. I'd been telling him to get his mansplaining arse back to the shop for my chocolate. And diet Coke?! Fucking hell.

june2007 · 20/04/2020 21:44

Seriously pick your battles. He got you a drink if it wasn,t eight get it your self. Yes he could have got you chocolate but he if genuinely. (but mistakenly) thought it would make you worse then he was thinking about you.

gamerchick · 20/04/2020 21:52

Have you ever had a period june2007? Hmm

He was brave and stupid OP. Mines been known to chuck me chocolate from the doorway. As long as it's a one off. I think I would have burst into tears myself. Periods suck.

CharDee · 20/04/2020 21:53

Unfortunately it's true about my sister! She's always been dramatic! I think there was more tor but an argument started after he brought home the wrong pizza which escalated and ended with her throwing his clothes out the window. He was back the next day though.

Her reactions to things is one of the reasons my niece is living with us. Well she has been staying with us since December and DH has just said to her "So now you live here, will you both be ganging up on me when I make stupid mistakes?"

She said "Nah, you make too many stupid mistakes. I'll just back Aunty Cha up when you are a complete arse." She laughed and then said "I didn't realise I properly lived here. That's pretty cool, but I'm not telling you where my secret chocolate stash is." DH had the sweetest look on his face looking back at her that all my annoyance at him went away.

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Nottherealslimshady · 20/04/2020 21:54

Your husband suck. Your niece rocks.
Sounds like he's learnt his lesson though.

lowlandLucky · 20/04/2020 22:01

Do you have a patio and a shovel ?

AnneLovesGilbert · 20/04/2020 22:04

Hope you feel better soon and sorry about your miscarriage Flowers

Enjoy your Easter egg! Hope you’ve got a hot water bottle or a big tub to have a soak in.

Lilyrose15 · 20/04/2020 22:07

Send him out for things to build a back patio.

AnotherEmma · 20/04/2020 22:13

Your niece is cool but I'm a bit embarrassed for you that she sticks up for you more than you do for yourself.

LtJudyHopps · 20/04/2020 22:18

He probably forgot to pick it up and came up with an excuse! not that I have ever done this

returnofthecat · 20/04/2020 22:22

I love your niece. If I had to pick one to live with during lockdown, I'm afraid your OH would be in the garden...

CharDee · 20/04/2020 22:25

No need to be embarrassed @AnotherEmma I stuck up for myself when needed but luckily I rarely need to as these situations are quite rare.

Also I did stick up for myself by saying everything that I did in my first post.

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TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead · 20/04/2020 22:25

It is odd behaviour!

Had you been making a big deal about your sugar free 3 weeks? He might have thought he was being supportive

LolaSmiles · 20/04/2020 22:37

It could be that he's an arsehole. It could be that if you've made a big deal about giving up sugary things that he was genuinely trying to help by getting you something that doesn't make you break your cutting out sugar that you signed up to.

If he's generally a decent guy then I'd say he's probably been unreasonable or stupid but couldn't bring myself to get as worked up by it as other posters have.

Oysterbabe · 20/04/2020 22:37

If be annoyed. It's not up to him to police what you have.

JasonPollack · 20/04/2020 22:40

Glad it's all worked out. So paternalistic though id have gone spare.

I did once cry when my pizza was too spicy. Food is very important to me.

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