To still brush hair, dry and assist dd after bath?

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I don't have a problem with it and neither does she but we have always;
Bathed her in her bathroom and brought her into her dressing room to put pjs on, then we sit on the floor in there and dry hair,plait it, put on cream etc. I was just thinking this evening that she is 7 now so should I slowly start leaving her to do this herself or would it be best to help her with the hair dryer and then plait her hair and leave her do the rest (which she does anyway) really I just stay with her.
It is a nice bonding time anyway so as I say I don't mind doing it wit her...but should I start stepping back a bit?

What do you all do after bath with 7 yr olds??

My 6 and almost four year old bath themselves (I am in the bathroom for the most part though) they dry and put their own pjs on. I just help brush their teeth.

@Tunnocks34 yeah she technically baths herself to be fair. I just help her rinse her hair as it's very long. I just sit and chat with her to be honest...

I usually go into another room while DD bathes. ( She always shouts and wants me to help her wash her hair) When she gets out of the bath/shower I sit with her in her room and chat and blow dry her hair.
She's 9

For me I think seven is still young! I started leaving mine to have a bath about ten-ish, with door unlocked in case of accidents. She could dry/dress herself but how lovely to have that time doing her hair...they grow up so quickly enjoy it x

My ds is almost 7 and has a whole bath time exit routine which involves me enveloping him in a giant towel and singing a poo related song to him whilst giving him a big hug. I know he can shower/bath alone but it’s our evening thing we do.

Your 7 year old has her own bathroom and dressing room? 😂

I think 7 is fine for help with bath, probably stepping back relatively soon though. Follow her lead.

I still help my seven year old. Like you say- it is bonding time. I like to think we’ll have this time as long as possible.

7 is fine to do this still , my 3 mostly have a shower so they all shower themselves 4,9&11 (I'm upstairs watching when 4 year old is in the shower ) and dry themselves and get dressed then my daughter (9) blowdrys her hair and I plait it , however there's nothing wrong with helping her if you want to especially as you treat it as a lovely bonding experience x as long as she can dress herself ext , I would let her wash herself too and teach her to wash her hair though if she can't , my 4 year old washes his hair and body himself , he is feicely independent though 😂 x

I think you're approaching it the right way, gradually getting her to start doing things herself. It's lovely to have some time together at the end of the day, so enjoy it while you can - she'll let you know when she wants more privacy.

My mum use to wash my hair, dry it and comb it until I was 11! I had long hair down to my bum, and refused it cut short it got very knotty after washing and mum could de tangle less painfully than I could myself.

I think she stopped at 11 as I then got boobs and a period, I think she just felt I was too old then for her to help

To me 7 is young and unless she asks to do it herself carry on

I wash & brush/style my DD’s hair. It is waist length & tangles easily. She is 8.

All other washing, drying, dressing, brushing of teeth etc she does herself.

My dd is nearly 7, she has chronic eczema so I have to help her bathe, dry, cream etc because she has to be completely dry etc. I do try and encourage her independence, she is learning to wash her own hair etc but she still likes the odd bath with me, she likes the company in the bathroom etc.

The biggest question is how does your dd feel about it?

Do it for as long as you can.

DD (11) would hate this now but I used to really enjoy plaiting her hair!

My 9yr old has been showering herself for a while but sometimes asks for help and her hair is tight curls and she needs me to do that. She will also run herself a bath and put a bath bomb in and get herself ready.

She’s starting puberty but is not actually bothered about us seeing her. She just likes to be independent.

@JasonPollack yeah we built the house and I just thought why not give all the rooms a bathroom. Two bedrooms have a jack and Jill style and the other two have their own and a dressing area between it and the bedroom- to be honest I spend more time cleaning up the dressing area than I roger bedroom so maybe I shouldn't have bothered 🤣

Maybe when a little older than 7.
You are very thoughtful.

My daughter and I brush each others hair in the morning and evening as our bonding time she picks a picture or video of how she wants it of Pinterest the night before while we do our night time hair (she has super long straight envious hair but it gets tangled when it's down and she always wants it down so we've compromised on the fact that if she has to wear it up i do cool hair for her ) and I do it in the morning , I'm letting her practice plants on my hair at night too but that will end when I can have a blow dry again 😂 x might be an idea when she does move on from needing help after the bath x

I still bath my nearly 7 year old although she washes herself. I do her hair as she would never rinse it properly otherwise. She usually baths with her sibling/s aged 5 and 1. I will stay with her as long as she wants me to because why rush it!

Mine are 6 and 4. They splash around in the bath together while I’m in and out, then I wash their hair (both almost waist length). They dry themselves, put their pyjamas on then I brush and dry their hair.
Haven’t even thought about then I’d leave them to it!

7 is still really little. There was a thread about washing a few days ago. Age 10 seemed to be the sort of age girls could wash their hair unaided. Dds friend is at secondary now and her mum still washes her hair. I stopped when dd was around 10 in yr5.

Follow her lead. If she's happy having you help her then continue. My 7 year old ds has reached the point he no longer requires help, my almost 9 year old was also around that age too when he wanted to enter, wash, exit the shower by himself.

I think take the lead from your daughter.
Carry on,then when she wants to do certain things for herself,go from there.She’s still so young I would just enjoy the time together and not worry.

I still help my 6 year old son. He washes himself in the bath (usually while getting bubbles everywhere ). I generally help him to rinse his hair as he hates getting soapy water in his eyes.

I generally sit and chat to him while he has a bath, although I nip in/out if needed.

He dries himself and puts pjs on then we do stories.

It's a nice time in the evening because I work full time (outside the home normally) so I feel like it's real, quality time with him.

Mine had showers so washed their own hair. DD dried it herself and I’d check if it was properly dry - usually wasn’t so she has to get the hairdryer out again to finish it. I’d then platt it ready for bed.

On the thread the other day most of the posters seemed to think 6 year olds shouldn’t be unattended in the bathroom for more than two minutes, and under 5s should never be left at all!

I put the conditioner on my 6 year old, and I blow dry her waist length hair. She does the rest herself.