To still brush hair, dry and assist dd after bath?

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I don't have a problem with it and neither does she but we have always;
Bathed her in her bathroom and brought her into her dressing room to put pjs on, then we sit on the floor in there and dry hair,plait it, put on cream etc. I was just thinking this evening that she is 7 now so should I slowly start leaving her to do this herself or would it be best to help her with the hair dryer and then plait her hair and leave her do the rest (which she does anyway) really I just stay with her.
It is a nice bonding time anyway so as I say I don't mind doing it wit her...but should I start stepping back a bit?

What do you all do after bath with 7 yr olds??

I'd carry on as you are for another couple of years as long as you're both happy, 7 is still really quite little.

A bathroom each wpuld be amazing. We have 1 between 5 of us!

1 bathroom between 5 of us here too.
I still bath, wash, dry & dress my 7 year old. He’s still a baby really.

It's just more to clean to be honest...🙈

7 is still young my nine year old only started showering and washing her own waist length hair at 8.5y.

Dd9 washes herself and her hair but I still comb and dry her hair and I will as long as she wants me too

I don’t dry and of my dc hair though, heat is bad for their hair.

Ds is perfectly capable of doing everything for himself but I often still help him with conditioning his hair and blow drying it for him. Oh and I’ve started brushing his teeth at nighttime again because he was missing bits.
I’ve got two adult dc as well, believe me this sort of stuff really doesn’t matter, it’s not going to hold them back or anything.

My daughter is nearly 12. She obviously bathed herself but I still do her hair after

DD is 10 and I still wash her hair for her, it's very long and thick and she's not very good at rinsing it all properly. She washes and dries herself and I brush and dry her hair for her. No sign of puberty at all, she probably won't want me in once that starts.

Bathed her in her bathroom and brought her into her dressing room to put pjs on

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Wow she has her own dressing room? I’m surprised you don’t have staff to do her hair, like Lady Mary in Downton Abbey.

How come everyone else on mumsnet has angelic small children who are capable of washing their own hair and drying it at age 3? whilst i am chasing DS around whilst leaving older DD to get on with it as best she can.

It is a nice bonding time

So why would you stop? Enjoy the time. It won't stunt her growth.

If she’s happy I’d carry on - I washed Dd’s ( long) hair until she was 11. She’s now nearly thirteen and I still very occasionally sit in the bathroom whilst she has a bath and washes her hair just to chat. At 7 I would never have considered not washing her hair.

I still dry DDs hair for her, she's 12. Mainly because the only time i let her do it herself, she got the hairbrush wedged in her hair right next to her scalp and it took an hour to free it (with a lot of detangle spray and carefully cutting the prongs off the brush).

Plus it's a little bit of time where she has my full attention, I've noticed it's when she's most likely to open up about any worries. If she wants me to stop, i will.

7 seems a little young to stop monitoring / helping with bathing.

Dd is almost 7, she plays in the bath and gives herself a wash and brushes her teeth, I then wash her hair. She gets herself dry and dressed into pjs and I brush her hair through and plait it. It’s bum length and way too long for her to do. The one time she asked to wash it herself she was still covered in shampoo, and if I ask her to brush it she just does the fringe

Stealth boast

I sort my girls massive wiry fro out and shes 10. She does all the bath bit herself.

Sometimes we cross over into the west wing to do it. Maybe get some of the staff to bring the hair dryers and spray over

DS has been having showers and dressing afterwards alone since he was 5 (he said he needed some privacy! As if I had not changed his nappies!) so yes, he would do things himself and then come and sit on my bed chattering away for an hour before going to bed.

You are lovely, and she will remember this. Special times with her. She will be kicking you out soon enough, enjoy it while you can. She may see this as your time together when she can talk things through. Treasure it

I still help my 9 and 7 yos although my 9yo has dyspraxia so is less thorough at managing himself than my 7yo. He has shoulder length hair which gets tangled easily especially as he refuses to tie it up.

He still asks me to wrap him up in a towel all over and go "brrrrrrrr!!!!!!" as I vigourously rub him up and down. He likes a good solo wallow in the bath like I do.

He's getting more cagey about privacy when getting dressed, but that's probably trying to get away with being too economical with changing his under garments

@ArgumentativeAardvaark no unfortunately not! I work from home (have my own business) so I am lucky to be able to work it around the dc.

It's not a stealth boast sorry if I have bothered anyone I was just stating how the situation is...

OOhhhh I used to love my mum brushing and drying my hair after bath night at that age.

Was best when it was cold as it was "wrap up in a HUGE towel and rush downstairs in front of the gas fire" to get changed into my nightie. I'd sit on a footstool and mum would dry my hair and brush it ready for bed. Warm milk and lovely silly chats about random things then blankets tucked in tight and sleep.

God to go back and have that time again.